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Created by: kinddraggon Original Starting post for this thread:
I have talked alot about House Parties with people and there are often alot of questions but with my in-experience, I certainly don't have the answers! lol I assume that there are different kinds of House Parties. Some may completely expect all to play, some may not. Am I wrong about that? I have spoken to and read many posts that have indicated to me that there is often some people not playing and hanging around in a central room or wherever. (Not sure if they are all sad...lol, or it's just fine) I am reluctant too accept an invitation to a house party because I am much pickier than my husband. I have no problem with him playing without me, but it would bother me alot to know that some husband is not getting lucky because I may choose not to play. Do parties with invited Singles lessen that problem? Is it common for House Parties to include singles? I'm pretty sure coming out and directly asking the host's would best way to know, but I would also love to hear what experiences with House Parties you have had... ;)

Created by: kinddraggon
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I have talked alot about House Parties with people and there are often alot of questions but with my in-experience, I certainly don't have the answers! lol 

I assume that there are different kinds of House Parties. Some may completely expect all to play, some may not.  Am I wrong about that? I have spoken to and read many posts that have indicated to me that there is often some people not playing and hanging around in a central room or wherever. (Not sure if they are all sad...lol, or it's just fine) 

I am reluctant too accept an invitation to a house party because I am much pickier than my husband. I have no problem with him playing without me, but it would bother me alot to know that some husband is not getting lucky because I may choose not to play. Do parties with invited Singles lessen that problem? Is it common for House Parties to include singles? 

I'm pretty sure coming out and directly asking the host's would best way to know, but I would also love to hear what experiences with House Parties you have had... ;)

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User Details are only visible to members.	I have now hosted a number of house parties and they have evolved along with the guest list but here are the basics from day one. The main floor, living room, dining room and kitchen are "no-play" zones where people can mingle and socialize and that is, of course, where the food is. The upstairs has two play rooms, one open to group play (and has restraints on the bed) the other more private for more intimate play. The basement has air mattresses, a swing and some other chairs and encourages group play. Then there is the hot tub and, in the summer, the pool area. My parties average about 25-30 people and everyone seems to find their comfort zone. Your best bet is to ask the host to describe a typical party.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11413 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have been to two house parties and they were quite different regardless of the fact that the number of guests was just about the same. One party was at a condo, so everyone was confined inside, no one could go outside to play, that made things kind of crowded despite three spacious rooms. The second party was at someone's house, complete with a pool and privacy fence. Things were much more relaxed. Also, as SS mentioned, a bathroom outside of the play area made a huge difference. However, neither party I attended had separate rooms for tame, moderate or wild play. It was just "go with the flow and do whatever you feel like" party. The condo party was almost exclusively socializing, while the party at the house had some pretty wild play. The crowd was different too. At the condo, many folks did not know anyone, hence the socializing part. At the house, I could tell, many people knew each other. So to me it varies. If the home has a lot of privacy, you might get more wild stuff going on. When people know others, they might be more likely to play. Actually I would attend a house party more to socialize, since I am not too crazy about group activities. I prefer smaller and more intimate gatherings. But that is just me :)
Panama City Beach FL			Username hidden (1975 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"The bigger the party is, the less pressure you will feel to play. If there are 12 people at the party and 10 are playing, the other two will feel very awkward. If there are 50 people at the party nobody will notice." ----- Yea, the smaller parties are what I was worried about. I didn't realize there are 300 people parties like the post below. 50 sounds better. lol... I guess just asking the host how many people are expected will help make the decision easier. Thanx all.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The bigger the party is, the less pressure you will feel to play. If there are 12 people at the party and 10 are playing, the other two will feel very awkward. If there are 50 people at the party nobody will notice. Only the smallest parties are "one room only." In my opinion, it is NOT all right for the male half of a couple to run off and play at a party while his partner does not play at all. I make this an explicit rule at my own parties. Nobody is ever required to do anything, but either both play or neither play. However, there is a total double standard: it's fine if the woman plays and the man doesn't.
Springfield VA			Username hidden (263 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we have been to several house parties and had a great time at all of them. Every one we went to there was no expectations and areas for socialization without playtime... hopefully you find similar experiences... and as always... just because one half plays doesnt mean both halves are playing
Lancaster OH			Username hidden (128 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Bathrooms, bathrooms, bathrooms! The room setup is important, but the worst party we ever attended had the potential to be the best. Bathrooms ruined it. 5000 sq. ft home. 6 bedrooms, 7 bathrooms. 300 + people. Problem: every bathroom save one, was located in a bedroom and set up as a bed & bath suite. Beautiful... until around midnight when all the shy people locked the bedroom doors for play, leaving the other 275 or so with ONE bathroom! One simple change would have saved the night from disaster. If a room is designated for open play, take the door off the hinges and put it in the garage. Some people will close a door for play no matter how many signs you put up. This would have left us five bathrooms and everyone would have had a great night.
Port Canaveral FL			Username hidden (3472 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm pretty inexperienced too, but the few house parties I've attended (as a single guy) weren't that organized. People kind of went with the flow and either chose to join in or just socialize. It may have to do with the size of the gathering--I've only been to parties with small numbers of guests-and from my experience, we were either free to engage in some group play or play one-on-one. In my case, I tended to play the voyeur and enjoyed the show before getting involved.
Tempe AZ			Username hidden (87 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Ditto on YLM's post. Parties expecting everyone to play are usually explicit in stating so (or they should be) and usually invite only people they know will fit in with such an event. Most house parties are pretty casual, and although (usually) anything may go on anywhere, some rooms are to remain "door open" and some are "close the door if you like". I've never seen a high-pressure house party.
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (12133 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I would not say 'most' from my experiences. I'd say maybe 50/50. A lot of venues I've seen have 2 types of play rooms. 1. An open group room that promotes group play and a level of voyeurism. 2. Separate/smaller rooms that have the option to close a door for private play. These same rooms can be used for open play if the door is left open. Of course there is a social area for socializing.
Emeryville CA			Username hidden (12157 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That does sound best, but are most that organized? I'm not really getting that impression.
Kunkletown PA			Username hidden (2999 post)

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