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User Details are only visible to members.	Hang in there! Yes, there are many people on this site that don't know which way is up or where they are going. We have been doing this for many years and i would suggest going to a local swing club or joining local swing groups on SLS in your area. You will be pleasantly suprised how much fun it is to meet live people in person! Good luck!
Columbus OH			Username hidden (7 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We're about where you are, JJfun. We've seen both sides: The "disappearing act" when you've exchanged a few encouraging emails or even phone conversations. We've also had the "immediate meeting" request when if you can't meet them tomorrow, they basically move on. Real life DOES get in the way, and while we like to meet couples within a decent period of time, everyone has other responsibilities that can get in the way. We're doing the "meet and greet" approach. If a couple lives fairly close, we inform them of the next M&G and invite them to stop by. If that ever-elusive "chemistry" isn't there, no harm, no foul (and saves the costs of a dinner and drinks, too.). This also gives the other couple a chance to meet others with whom they "click". But it is quite frustrating dealing with the flakes here.
Tempe AZ			Username hidden (83 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We've found the flake level to be extremely high, to the point that we're not just meeting couples from here anymore, but we're going to try the club/party route. We'd exchange emails with couples who just disappeared, or when you couldn't meet right away because of real life concerns, they lose interest. Our play time is pretty restricted because of real life constraints, we can't just met at the drop of a hat.
Mullica Hill NJ			Username hidden (6 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We agree with the "vanilla life gets in the way" and we always try to make this known up front. We find that even with those who have tried to connect with us a long tome but haven't been able to understand when you communicate well upfront. Our play is designed for her to get pleasured. She is an attractive fit blonde and typically only enjoys fit men. She gets a LOT of requests. Some we just have to politely say "no match" others she is genuinely interested in but she can't do them all (although she wants to) because of vanilla life time constraints. We hate to string anyone along so we are upfront - "Yes she enjoys your requests and hopefully there will be a time to get together but busy for now. Stay in touch if you want and see if the timing is better. You do fit her preferences but, again, can't set anything up now". Most understand and now its their decision to check in again or move on.
Fayetteville NY			Username hidden (18 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I'm sure somebody has said this already, but I would seriously suggest going to a social or party. We have (miraculously) met with a few contacts from SLS... We have also been totally frozen out by potential playmates without any reason whatsoever. We recently attended our first party and it was amazing. Honestly, the only thing you have to worry about (after you find a playmate/s that you are both attracted to I guess lol) is how to approach them! It literally felt that easy compared to meeting people here lol! -T&A
Port Huron MI			Username hidden (7 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Yea vanilla life work/kids gets in the way. It happens to us all the time, people want to meet and your life at the time is to busy
Cumming GA			Username hidden (7 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It is frustrating. However, I truly believe that vanilla life gets in the way. At least for us. We were supposed to meet up with a SM last weekend, female half ended up with a stomach bug. Then this weekend, my first grand baby was born; so had to cancel plans again. We are not flakes, but life gets in the way! We don't play during the week because of our work and exercise schedules. Next weekend one of us in on call for our job. We don't invite people that we don't know to our home. So, there you have it! There are probably fakes/flakes on here for sure. However, there are also real people with real lives outside of the LS. Not everyone can live the LS 24/7. Just sayin.......
Cocoa FL			Username hidden (108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It sometimes seems as though the entire online swinging community consists of fakes or flakes, but that's not the case. There really Are 'real' people online. We've known several for many, many years. Unfortunately, the 'signal to noise ratio' is sometimes pretty bad and it can be difficult to uncover the ones who're for real. Have you checked into any of the Groups in SLS? That's one good way of separating the fakes/flakes from the honest people. The fakes/flakes rarely join groups and those who do are quickly ejected when they are exposed as fakes/flakes. :-)
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (631 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Well at lest it's nice to know we are not the only ones. We where stating to think we where just to damn ugly.
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (2190 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We're seeing the same thing, we get plenty of mail but if we respond to set up a meeting, most flake out or don't even respond back. First noticed the change about six months ago but it's gotten worse lately. Before that we rarely had a problem setting up a meeting. It would be one thing if we were the ones contacting them, but they're contacting us. Maybe it's a just a different crop of swingers that want to chat and not meet... hope it's not the new normal!
Virginia Beach VA			Username hidden (269 post)

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