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TOPIC: Finding a swing-more-than-partner
Created by: Swingfree1982
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Hello All! My question is how did everyone manage to get themselves into an actual swing-relationship/marriage?

I am a 30 year old single female who has always been interested in swinging for as long as I can remember. I have really only had 4 long term boyfriends and NONE of them have been willing to swing when I broach the subject a few months in (seriously...excuses are as follows-not into it, jealousy, been there done that and hypochondriac).

I have begun swinging as a single, but it just doesn't do it for me the way it would if I had an actual boyfriend/husband to do it with. I want to watch someone I actually love get banged by another girl in front of me...if that makes sense? I still like it with people I don't have a real connection with, but I just know it isn't all it could be.

So how did you meet each other? All I can find are guys who want to swing with me but have no relationship....or guys who want a relationship and wont swing! AHHH!!!! haha. Any advice is welcome :)

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Very good point!! I, for one, wouldn't mind meeting an open minded, trustworthy gal. Perhaps in time.

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It's not unheard of for singles to fall in love with someone they met through a swinging venue. Unusual, perhaps, but not impossible. If you're certain that you want the LS to be a part of your married life, then I'd suggest that you just stay open to possibilities among the SM's that you meet through the LS and see where it takes you. Good luck! :-)


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You know, I always find it fascinating and simply great when people trust their partner to swing/swing with them. Mad respect goes to anyone in that situation. I also find it unnerving to be stuck to having one person as your sex partner for the rest of your life. It's about variety!! More importantly, its the trust and the ability to separate love from sex. And not getting jealous. We all have our needs.

Again, thumbs up to couples who can do this properly.

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Agreed Outdoors!

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From what I have seen (in person and on the fora), the majority of couples were together first then started swinging together. It makes sense in many ways and the biggest advantage is they have a foundation to rely on should any jealousy issues arise. It seems most singles are on here because they do NOT want a relationship and see this as mostly recreational sex. Of course, these are generalizations and just my observations.

I have seen some profiles (SM & SF) that state they are looking for a swing partner and possible LTR but those are rare.

Good luck to the OP, I am sure there is a guy out there who would love to meet a sexy SF to swing with and possibly forge a relationship with. I recently met someone and we are enjoying meeting others as a couple so one never knows!

;^D

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"We think very few here are actually into a serious relationship or married."

How do you figure?

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Well.. I (the husband) used reverse psychology with her-- let her know that I wanted to see her with another guy and me at the same time. She wasn't sure at first.. till we tried it. But be careful what you wish for.. you may get a lot of it :)

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We have been married for 12 years and have known each other since 1986, been friends ever since. The Mrs. dared me to find another couple to swing with one night or even a single female (long story). So, since both of us are sarcastic and adventurous I found this site and made a profile. We have had two great experiences so far. We both laugh in amazement that we are into this...but it's who we are. We think very few here are actually into a serious relationship or married. Either way, for married couples it takes a lot of love and trust to have this kind of fun. Hope this helps and good luck!

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We have been married for 12 years and have known each other since 1986, been friends ever since. The Mrs. dared me to find another couple to swing with one night or even a single female (long story). So, since both of us are sarcastic and adventurous I found this site and made a profile. We have had two great experiences so far. We both laugh in amazement that we are into this...but it's who we are. We think very few here are actually into a serious relationship or married. Either way, for married couples it takes a lot of love and trust to have this kind of fun. Hope this helps and good luck!

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welcome to the forums Swingfree. I can't really help you we were married for about 5 years before we started swinging and it was a mutual decision.

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