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TOPIC: Finding The Right Play Couple:
Created by: lgsbcs
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My husband and I have been together since jr high school and despite the sex with each other being great.. we both like to play with others in each others company. However how do you sensibly meet another couples to play with that has all that you are looking for: attractive,emotionally mature, fun loving and not too cynical as well as D&D free and without any relationship drama.We know what a tall order!!!!!!!!!!!!! We have a hard time finding couples but have but have came very close many times and have played against our better judgement, ... is are our criteria too high?? What do you think?
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Our swing mentor put it this way. Its hard finding two people that mesh nicely, and its even harder to get four people to mesh. It takes some time, but when you find them you will know, and make sure you keep them!

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we have been at it for over then yrs and we have not found the perfect couple that we agreed on so we just play it by ear if i like the lady she is alright whit me taking her to bed and vice versue. our idela couple is some one that has our same likes and things to do sex is the icing on the cake

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Finding the just right couple is almost as bad as finding the unicorn. If you as a couple have total trust and are honest with each other, then that should be enough in my eyes. After all, you are having sex with someone else and then plan to walk away at the end of the night with no ties right?

We met a couple and played just recently where we originally started talking earlier that day. We went over the rules of play and jumped in. It was a blast for all.

But that was our decision. I would lean more in recommending all to do a meet and greet first.

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Finding the just right couple is almost as bad as finding the unicorn. If you as a couple have total trust and are honest with each other, then that should be enough in my eyes. After all, you are having sex with someone else and then plan to walk away at the end of the night with no ties right?

We met a couple and played just recently where we originally started talking earlier that day. We went over the rules of play and jumped in. It was a blast for all.

But that was our decision. I would lean more in recommending all to do a meet and greet first.

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Much appreciated, and I was about to say the same about you. Mr. starrynight must have a lot of fun with the camera! If you head our direction, you'll find Buckeye Country very welcoming.

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LOL...no need, you're quite the specimen already, Mr. Dab :) Very nice! Would be great to meet you guys :)

Kat

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I will say that a really good way to meet great couples is to spend a week in a resort like Desire. You talk to lots of couples during the day, have some light fun in the hot tub, have dinner and then plenty of fun if you find the right couple. And if not, the two of you are naked in paradise. Starrynight, if you make it to Ohio, drop us a line. I'll try and grow a couple inches...taller! ;)

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Hey dab, welcome to the forums!

Anticipation makes it that much hotter! You're lucky, the whole reason why we never play on first meet is because we've had two BAD experiences (and one awkward but okay one). Now that we look back, in both circumstances the hubby of the other couples gave off red flags that we ignored. Live and learn.

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We follow the "starrynight" principal and meet once before partying with a couple. It does reduce the pressure and anxiety. In the past we have met couples and played the same night, and luckily they all worked out. However, there were some awkward moments that are reduced when you've met a couple beforehand. Besides, anticipation can be a wonderful thing! Good luck.

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Hi LG...welcome to the forums :)

We, too, never play on first meet (from experience, play is always better this way). This way, we don't make any decisions we later regret. I used to get so nervous at first meets, because play might or might not happen and I always felt "cornered." This way, there's no pressure, and we can genuinely enjoy getting to know the other couple. We also use this time to talk more in depth about our preferences and to garner where the other couple stands with their preferences.

We also use this time to look for red flags. Our red flags are if the couple aren't into each other (usually where the husband could care less if his wife is there or not...run!), if the couple hasn't been together very long (we find that long time partners make the best swing playmates), or if they have any jealousy issues.

After the first meet, if the attraction is mutual, we set a date for play and then continue to communicate through e-mail/cell, which just builds to the anticipation of the play date. Works for us :)

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