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TOPIC: Don't bother giving single guys personal advice
Created by: like2wish
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When we get a rude note, from couples or from singles, we either don't reply or we reply with added rudeness and then BLOCK.

But, often, we get polite notes from single guys. So, we feel it polite to not just send a "Sorry, no thanks" note, but to tell them why we aren't interested. We don't do this so they can trick other couples later on. We do it so they might actually be able to begin to understand what some couples are looking for.

We might tell them that their cock shots are a turn-off. Or that their profile seems focused far more on what they want than what they have to offer us. Stuff like that.

When we offer this advice it is phrased in a polite way. It's a firm NO. But the problem with their note, profile or pics seems innocent on their part.

Sometimes, they don't reply. Most times they write back with vulgar notes telling us how screwed up we are, proving that many single guys are single for a reason.

We'll keep it up (actually, a couple of these guys took our advice and look to be more successful on SLS, possibly because of it). But if you can't handle a vulgar reply to your advice, don't bother sending it to single guys.

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Cripes, Lick_N_Nibbles, how'd you get so damn wise and mature at your ages? You make us consider revising our age limits!

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Okay, here's some advice. First, we're thankful that you're so honest about being married and playing alone. But it would take a foolish couple to get into that mess no matter how nice, polite, good-looking or skilled you are. Couples who consider single guys get 100 diiferent ones contacting them every month.

So, why bother with a married guy when we have so many to choose from?

Maybe you should spend some more time with your wife, start patching up the marriage and, eventually, talk to her about trying the swinging thing. Sure, it might take a long while, it took us 8 years of talking before we were ready. Or, just get another fantasy, because you probably won't get anything from this site.

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we will never give advice nor give a reason why we are not interested. If they ask ,I'll give them a reason if they ask about my reason then the truth comes out. If someoen asks us aboutswinging we will let them know things we have run into in the past . What to watch out for and what not to do .

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I always will welcome advice from experienced swingers. Consider it to be helpful in learning what is approiate and what is not...

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When we get a rude note, from couples or from singles, we either don't reply or we reply with added rudeness and then BLOCK.

But, often, we get polite notes from single guys. So, we feel it polite to not just send a "Sorry, no thanks" note, but to tell them why we aren't interested. We don't do this so they can trick other couples later on. We do it so they might actually be able to begin to understand what some couples are looking for.

We might tell them that their cock shots are a turn-off. Or that their profile seems focused far more on what they want than what they have to offer us. Stuff like that.

When we offer this advice it is phrased in a polite way. It's a firm NO. But the problem with their note, profile or pics seems innocent on their part.

Sometimes, they don't reply. Most times they write back with vulgar notes telling us how screwed up we are, proving that many single guys are single for a reason.

We'll keep it up (actually, a couple of these guys took our advice and look to be more successful on SLS, possibly because of it). But if you can't handle a vulgar reply to your advice, don't bother sending it to single guys.

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