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TOPIC: Do you think swinging can help a marriage
Created by: FlirtAway
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I'm startin to think there is a lot of myth around swinging ruining marriages. Everyone says it and warns you about it, but I have seen more people ruined by money, personal lifestyles, girls/guys nights out, cheating, etc than I have from swinging. And when you hear most swingers talk their marriages are very healthy and happy.

It's a proven fact that money is a top cause of relationships being ruined but people don't stop making/spending money.

So I'm not really worried about why you think swinging can ruin a marriage. I want to know if you think swinging can/could save a marriage with troubles. Please keep in mind, there are different reasons/levels why a marriage may be in trouble and different problems could present different results when swinging is introduced.

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Not that im offended or feel youre calling me out. But I would gladly open up the private and personal albums for you which show us together and show us playing together....

We also do cam together at night on another site, and yahoo.

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Rdy

Looking over the profile. I see your point and totally agree.

Time for some changes.

Mount Juliet TN
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RDY...you took the words right out of my mouth ;)

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Joey i couldnt have said it any better myself!!!!! Bravo sir!!

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I dont think it will save a troubled marriage.

It may mask problems for a while but when you invite others into a troubled marriage for intimate relations, I believe it leaves the door wide open for feelings to develop.

This is a generalization of course and there are exceptions, but overall look at cheating.

Men tend to cheat for sex. They have sex, go home to their wives like nothing happened. They usually dont want to leave their families but want to get sexual action that for whatever reason they are not getting at home.

Women on the other hand, many cheat for other reasons. More than the sex its the attention, affection, excitement that they are getting from another man that they are not getting from their partner.

Ive seen it with my own eyes quite a few times. Youre introducing something into your relationship that both parties are craving, but its replacing what you dont provide for eachother. That is dangerous. Especially if what one person is craving, is more than sex.

Now if you already have a solid marriage, a solid relationship and you both are on the same page. It can be one hell of an enhancement.

Its natural to be attracted sexually to other people.

My wife, in my opinion is a hot woman!! 9 years together I can still look at a naked pic of her and get turned on better than any porn.

Myself, I think Im pretty darn cute myself. And Im a great husband and partner. But there are lots of men out there that are in the "really hot" "hung" worked out category that I know my wife is sexually attracted to and they to her.

The fact that she can have a romp with them, have some hot sex with a hot guy, I think is a benefit.

Having hot guys hit on you all the time and not being able to do anything......I can see that building a little bit of resentment in even the best marriage.

We have a good thing going though. On here its just play. Its just fun. Instead of dinner and Monopoly. We like dinner and naked fun.

This isnt something one sided. We're not lacking anything in our marriage. My wife is just as active online as I am with it. Nobody is going along with it to make the other happy.

We have had the opportunity to become close friends with couples we met doing this and sad to say, the closer we get we notice they got into this for all the wrong reasons. Many times the wife is going along with it because the husband wants to. He wasnt to fuck other women, so she lets him

I get nervous meeting couples that have a laundry list of rules and regulations in their profile. It comes off like there are jealousy issues there and that they are really not sure if this is something they would be into but they are trying to figure out everything in advance. To me that shows maybe they are not quite ready.

For us this is excitement. I like seeing my wife with a hot guy. It brings a rush of feelings that even include jealousy but for me its a turn on.

So in short. No, it probably wont help a bad marriage. Yes, it can ruin a good marriage if you both are not equally into it and both not doing it for the same reasons.

But for a couple who is on the same page, in a great marriage. I cant think of too many things that are more fun!

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Can swinging 'save' a marriage with troubles? Hmmm...what marriage does Not have troubles? Seriously, the answer is both yes and no. Swinging will highlight every possible failure point, magnifying jealousy and insecurity issues. The result depends on What Is Done with the experience. If that magnification is used in a positive manner, to work on and resolve the issues, then the answer is a resounding Yes! Swinging will give you more than ample opportunity to examine your self and your relationship and make it even better. If issues are ignored, glossed over, or given a band-aid fix, then swinging can and will destroy a relationship (which is probably already ticking down to zero anyway).

Just our humble opionins, of course, and subject to change without notice. :-)


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Deb = Beautiful, WOW!! nice pic.

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I think it's often difficult to keep long term relationships exciting especially when life gets hectic with jobs, kids, etc... If a couple is solid but struggling with needing to reignite a "spark" I would imagine swinging could be a great way to do so. It forces you to communicate with your partner more, fantasize with them and experience those new relationship jitters together again.

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Swinging is must the microscope under which a relationship is examined. Because of how magnified every detail is, you will either find how strong it is or how damaged it already was.

I think I agree with this. We are stronger for it, I think if my brother and his wife tried it then jealously would smash them apart, same with my wife's sister and her husband (you should see the trouble he got into for looking at internet porn)... This never would have happened with my first wife either, but that marriage was doomed from before we said our vows.

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Trying swinging in an effort to save a failing marriage is a terrible idea, won't work and may hasten the end.

Sometimes swinging hurts a formerly good marriage. If one or both parties are not emotionally mature enough to handle the situation it can cause a rift. If one person wants to drop out and the other doesn't agree that can be a disaster.

However, if the relationship is solid and both parties are suited for the Lifestyle it can be very strong cement. Long-term Lifestyle couples have the best marriages of all.

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