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TOPIC: Certifiably Certifiable
Created by: BiFYorkCpl
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Set-Up: We have legitimate certifications from people who've actually had sexual experiences with us, and we only certify those with whom we've had sexual experiences (not just met at parties, for instance, and not played). We also have certified free members, even though they can't certify us back.

Quandry: We would like to have newer certifications listed on our profile, but have no idea as to the ettiquette of "asking" someone to certify us. To us, that seems presumptuous. We have no problem certifying those we've truly enjoyed.

Question: What is your take on certifying/being certified? We always read them. We usually don't care about the dates listed, as most seem like the first-time-play certs and don't reflect repeats. We don't mind profiles without certs either, as some people don't want to be "defined" by the people they play with. Your opinions please.

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We read certs. Sometimes you can get a lot of information from them.

Like when a couple has "safe only STD free" in their profile but the certs say something like "Loved watching her take all those cocks at the bareback gangbang last weekend"

A couple of certs are helpful though. It does show that the people or person on the other end is for real and they are likely to leave the computer to meet in person.

Other certs tell other things. We've seen quite a few certs talking about "meeting HIM" or "having a great time with HIM" or "Had fun with HIM, too bad his wife wasnt feeling well to meet us too" and thats on a couple profile.

As far as the graphic, play by play, x-rated rundown of the night type certs....Those we could do without and we wouldnt accept those.

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:)

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Yeah, I've pretty much declined all the certs that are along the lines of "He's got a tiny limp dick that's never met a washcloth."

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Thanks for your feedback, rdy2play123.

I like the way SLS makes it pretty easy for their members with regards to certifications by giving the member the ability to read a certification before they accept it. This has worked both ways with me in the certifications I have written and the ones that have been posted to my profile. Several members have asked me to make some subtle changes to some of the certs that I have written, which of course I have done provided it doesn’t jeopardize the truth of what I wrote. In receiving a certification, I only ask that they write something about the evening in the way(s) they enjoyed it. Unfortunately, a few have written pornographic short stories about our evening. Curiously, I’ve rejected numerous because they gave simply a false portrayal of our evening. So the door really does “swing in both directions” (no pun intended).

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I check a member’s certifications all the time. Certifications aren’t the end all or be all, but they are certainly an independent endorsement from another member that the woman / couple are who they say they are. However, the content of the certification is much more important than the certification itself. Certifications don’t have to be pornographic, but they should be descriptive about the individual(s). For example, a certification that merely says “nice person who I’m looking forward to hanging with at the next M & G” doesn’t tell me anything about the person.

As for whether it is courteous to ask for a certification, my policy is very simple. I always pay the costs of the entire evening (dinner, wine, gratuity, and hotel). If I have a very good time with my guest and I think she/they had a very good time with me, I ask their permission if I may write a certification of them. If they say yes, then I request for a certification in return. I’ve rarely been disappointed by the outcome.

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In general we find them interesting and consider them to be one more way of learning more about others.

If we played with you and had a nice time and find that you are true to your profile (age, pics, description, etc...) then we will give you a cert to testify that you are genuine. We've never had a need or desire to ask for one in return and figure it's really up to the other couple and their preferences. If we get them great, if not no worries. We've come across people who don't believe in them therefore they don't accept them nor would they ever write one.

It's just one more dynamic to this incredibly fun lifestyle and to each his own.

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Oh boy would I ever love to volunteer for that task!


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We don't accept certs and we do not provide certs. To much like kissing and telling....However, we do view certs to see if we know the same people to get an idea of personality......kind of hypocritical I know....so tie me up and spank me..

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mjrv... People look at certs differently. I do look at them but if someone does not have one it is not a negative. There are all sort of reasons why someone may not want one, for example, some couples just don't want to be certified or see it as a form of kiss and tell of who they may have played with.

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**First we were kinda shy about certs to the point of asking folks we have met not to cert us. Now we wonder if not having certs after having been on this site for a few years might be an indication to some that we are "flawed". In any case it's not something we lose sleep over by any means. We get by just fine;)**

I think that not having certs is not that big of a deal, I think not having some sort of pics on your profile after being on here for some years is something some people wont like. Sorry but that is one of my pet peeves, I like to see some pics even if its just feet, or hair I think it adds to a profile and it can attract someone attention.

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