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TOPIC: Advice wanted
Created by: angelstorm43130
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Ok.. we have been in the lifestyle for about 10 years now and have experienced something new.. How to you tell a couple that you just don't feel the "swinging" with them is..well fun... They are good people and we like them as friends but twice now I(the MALE) haven't been mentally stimulated or engaged .. and unlike most people it seems, there has to be more than just a hot body to get me interested... to be blunt, the female is hot as hell but cant seem to engage me mentally to the point that I am turned off.. Wifey loves the couple (especially her who is bi) but I am unsure i want to continue with this particular couple...

ADVICE??

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We have had this problem ourselves and there is no sure way to do it but the direct and truthful approach seem to be best.

Greencastle PA
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Well, here's how I look at it.

I know that, if a couple we played with felt this way, I'd want to know. And I'd probably never guess until someone spoke up. I'd want to address it and try to either make things better, or go separate ways so everyone wins.

So, I suppose a very honest, direct, and non antagonizing conversation would be the best course of action. First with your S.O... don't want to surprise her with this!

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Tough spot your in. We also have been in the lifestyle a long time now. You are not alone in needing more than a naked hottie to get turned on. If you like them and want to continue a friendship, I would open up to them. Explain what it is you need to be a match, and if that is not something they are interested in, then you would enjoy a friendship but doubt it will go further.

People have different desires in bed and sometimes they just do not match up well. Other times it is just a lack of knowing what the triggers are. I know I love foreplay while some rather just get naked and fuck. It's all good, just not always a good match.

Good luck

Harmony FL
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Ok.. we have been in the lifestyle for about 10 years now and have experienced something new.. How to you tell a couple that you just don't feel the "swinging" with them is..well fun... They are good people and we like them as friends but twice now I(the MALE) haven't been mentally stimulated or engaged .. and unlike most people it seems, there has to be more than just a hot body to get me interested... to be blunt, the female is hot as hell but cant seem to engage me mentally to the point that I am turned off.. Wifey loves the couple (especially her who is bi) but I am unsure i want to continue with this particular couple...

ADVICE??

Lancaster OH
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TOPIC: Advice wanted