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I DO tell every GYN I go to that I'm "very active sexually," to explain why I'm asking to be tested for EVERYTHING. I don't go any further unless they ask. If they ask, I answer honestly.

If there were some reason to bring it up, I would, without hesitation.

When I was married, they were more likely to ask, wondering why a presumably monogamous woman wants to be tested. Once I was asked if I were having affairs, LOL. No, nothing like that...we're swingers. And then we moved on.

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I have not told my OB/GYN yet. She is fairly new. She asked if I was sexually active, my reply was yes, very. I have a feeling so knows more than I disclose to her. In the past two years, I have had three procedures done, each procedure carries a degree of living a sexless life for a period. The last procedure I had done, before she said anything, she said "Jan, before you even ask, I will tell you that there is no sexual stimulation of any kind for one month". She knew, that would be my first question, but on my next visit, I do plan on telling her, as I am beginning to trust her more and more which I feel is a big issue with me. As to my primary doctor, I changed jobs this past year, totally different healthcare plan and had to pick a brand new doctor, which I see today for my physical, will I disclose, nope, not yet.

Jan

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Went to mine yesterday. She asked what I was there for. I said the usual tune and lube. Her only question was.... HIV also? yep. The FULL tune and lube, please.

She had a little sign in her room. It said to tell your gyn everything. I do.

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I just had my annual pelvic and PAP and all that. I had mentioned that hubby and I have decided not to be monogamous at a recent visit, and discussed birth control issues, and this visit I talked in more detail about what testing I should do. She's been my doctor for years, and she sees hubby, too, and I feel confident that not only will she protect my privacy but will treat me with total professionalism.

Even so, it was awkward to be upfront with her. I didn't get into the "we're swingers" discussion, but said we have other partners. We talked about condoms, she recommended the Hep B series (I have one shot to go now), and did STD testing along with my regular annual lab work (I'm the picture of perfect health, by the way, sexually and otherwise).

I found, actually, talking about my weight issues was more difficult than talking about my sexual health. And the only time she made any sort of comment was when she noted that my "skin doesn't loolk happy about being shaved", thanks to a fresh case of razor burn. (I assured her that I usually use an electric shaver that doesn't result in a rash.)

So TALK TO YOUR DOC- if I could do it, you can, too! And if you can't talk to your doctor, find one you can talk to. It's about your health.

L., who feels very powerful and grown-up now

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I live in a small town and was apprehensive about telling my doctor. Even the fact that I was shaved made me feel funny since I was no longer in the city. I told her and was surprised that for such a stuck-up backwards town, she was not at all shockable. She just tests me every few months now to make sure I am clean. I do believe she is very very big on confidentiality!

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I read all of the replys and I can tell you ...I live in a very small town were the gossip travels faster than the local newspaper. I told one obgyn when I got divorced who was the husband of a close freind in church from when I was married, that I had several different partners that year ( this was pre swing and post divorce ...so I was in the... I want to date and have fun as much as possible stage, that all divorced women seem to go through) Well how intersting that all of sudden, her kids just aren't avaliable for play dates and I am treated like I have the plague. So I get the concern.

My solution was to find another obgyn in the next town over. It protected my anonimity and I can be totally honest and get the care I require. Since I am not going to be having any more children... I only see him once a year.. 45 min to 1 hr is not too far to drive once a year to ensure I can be totally honest and get the care I deserve, without the leaks in cofidentiality

you just shouldn't lie about that or with hold information from your obgyn...it is not in your best health interest

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I think it's important to TELL a medical person you trust, and get tested! Don't risk going around giving diseases, and don't let yourself go untreated.

I felt I had to tell the nurse practitioner who did my yearly PAP. She is at my dr's office and was a new caregiver for me. I really didn't WANT to tell, but she was only going to do a PAP. I wanted to be tested for herpes and everything else, even though I have no symptoms. She said, "I don't do that, because this is a family practice." (I guess EVERYONE who goes there is monogamous except me, right? D'uh!)

Well, I told her I had had a few sex partners (male and female) besides my husband in the past year, and he had also had sexual contact with some women who I hadn't had sexual contact with. She asked if I thought this would happen again in the next year, and I said yes, it would.

I could tell she was embarrassed about the whole thing. And she was asking ME what I wanted to be tested for! Hello!? ARen't you the nurse? I am not a medical specialist. I explained what types of contact I had so she could determine what tests would be best.

I tested free and clear of any and all diseases. That was nice to know. I would not want to give a disease to anyone.

This year hopefully she isn't going to be so naive. I have thought about talking to her and/or the doctors at the office and telling them that PA is the Swinging Capital of the USA. I am in the REading area, and this is a very "active" place for swingers.

Jen

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Medical professional are people too. They vary in their ability to tolerate such information.

I wanted the Hep-B series. My HMO-GP balked. I explained I had multiple partners. He was still hesitant. I asked if he treated diabetics who still eat sugar. That ended that. I got my series.

My GYNs have all been great except one. Italian Catholic, yikes. He refused to tie my tubes at 22.

The current GYN swung in her college days. She tests me for most things every time I see her. She tests me even when I know I don't need it.

I was having upper GI issues. I deep throat those poor souls who fit. I simply informed the doc that my sexual practices include deep fellatio and to please keep that in mind when checking me out.

When dispensing vaginal creams (Rx or OTC) I always ask about latex usage. Most creams have mineral oil..that destroys latex.

Most medical professionals have cultivated the ability not to blink. Find one that works for you.

Mischief<----blinked about rectal worms..but that's another story.

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"There are two people in life that you should never lie to, your doctor & your lawyer, either could prove fatal" - Ben Matlock If you can't tell your doctor, then find a doctor you can tell.

Mike

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Both our Primary Care and OB/GYN physicians know. As doctors, they've heard worse things than swinging.

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