In our opinion -- if there isn't 4-way compatibility, things don't work well. We each have veto power. E.G., If she thinks the gal is a psycho or I think the guy is a jerk, we don't go any further.

There is no such thing as let or don't let in this relationship, we're not children, we're adults.

good learning sweet! ;) lol

Carrie, That's why I felt the word let was a little strong.
in order for me to lit my wife do something would indicate ownership and control and I learned about 20yrs ago the i don't really control anything.

Exactly but of course I know if someone was disrespectful to me, my hubby would no longer find them attractive, so I guess it really isn't a problem.

Carrie

yea Carrie, I thought of that after I posted. If I didnt like her cause she wasnt 'my type' that would be fine. But if she was disrespectful to me in any way..... that would be different.

Depends on what you mean by don't like.

Carrie

I agree with Sweetjz! ...but if he likes her, it's all good.

As long as they did not expect anything from me its fine. If I have to join them then hell no. I dont fuck anyone I am not attracted to.

I think let is a strong word. i know if one of us was in that situation we would make the choice that would make the other one happy with out even asking.