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TOPIC: When one is on a break
Created by: luvers4friends
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Are there any couples out there who've had on of the two of you want or need to take a break...but is fine with the other still having fun? To be even more specific, has anyone had their female take a break, but insist that the male half try to have some fun on his own? Doesn't seem like many couples are looking for a married man who's free to play, nor are there any single women who want a nice, safe, sane married guy for friendship and sexual fun.

In these days and times, you'd think there'd be nearly any scenario one would think of...but I think WE'RE the "unicorns!" LOL

Would love to hear some chatter on this...

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Not that we are looking, or wanting right now a single of either sex....

If we were though, I would have to insist on meeting both of them face to face over drinks or something to hear it straight from the horses mouth so to say.

~N

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@Wanna - Very Rare, so true. We have done the same thing for others, and it's quite fun.

Definitely an incredibly arousing situation when one party can hear the other getting thoroughly fucked but is not there in person. The mind is surely the greatest sex organ.

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Most people are just going to assume the guy is cheating. Plain and simple.

However, my husband just found a woman he has started to play with where her husband is temporarily living in another part of the state. They have a kink where she has sex with a guy and she puts the husband on speaker phone so he can listen and masturbate. They both enjoy this very much. They decided that they wanted to find a safe, easy going, married guy who would understand such a kink and kind of get into it.

This situation fit my husband to a T and everyone really enjoyed their first encounter!

This kind of situation, however...is VERY rare.

Wailuku HI
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We are a long term married couple who started swinging about 7 or 8 years ago. In the very beginning it became obvious that the 4-way attraction would be rare. While our fun, welcoming personalities make it easy to converse with others, both of us have a narrow range for those that we find attractive.

Because our marriage is very open, honest, respectful, and secure without jealousy, we decided to maximize our potential for exciting experiences and memories by agreeing to have an open marriage/relationship. Therefore, one of us is free to have fun if the other is not interested.

We can sometimes see/read that people get quietly offended, or even question the validity of our arrangement. So conversely, this actually limits our opportunities in many couples scenarios. No problem, and don't care... because for some reason we each have zero trouble finding quality SM's and SF's who are very attractive inside and out.

It is an extremely tricky slope for the high majority of couples, but we are each others best friends and we share fantastic communication and commonalities so it works out flawlessly. Knowledge of boundaries and sensitivities is paramount, but once that is understood and always respected, then it's an absolutely incredible relationship.

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We rarely find 4-way attraction as we both have narrow tastes, so playing separately is advantageous in our situation.

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we would go threw this often. Mainly the Ms. When It happens I feel its for both of us. SMH

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We had a situation a few years ago when the wife of a couple we were friends with needed to take a break. The husband continued to play but only with us or the female half here. It worked out fine. Later when the husband was away for a business trip the wife played with us but we knew it was OK with everyone concerned. We would not play otherwise. There are too many singles out there to get involved with cheaters.

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at our club a few years ago there was a couple who the woman had some menopause issues going on so he could play if he wanted, but she didn't. Now they are both back to playing. But she was usually at the club with him and it was well known what the situation was.

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The assumption is that any male who claims to have a 'hall pass' from his spouse is judged to be a cheating husband. We have yet to find a single 'hall pass' male with a wife who is actually willing to talk on the phone and acknowledge that he is in fact legitimate. To date, 100% of the 'hall pass' males have a wife who is never available...shopping, traveling, working, etc. Unless a profile states clearly that the wife is available for phone chats, that's the assumption that people will make...cheating husband.


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Are there any couples out there who've had on of the two of you want or need to take a break...but is fine with the other still having fun? To be even more specific, has anyone had their female take a break, but insist that the male half try to have some fun on his own? Doesn't seem like many couples are looking for a married man who's free to play, nor are there any single women who want a nice, safe, sane married guy for friendship and sexual fun.

In these days and times, you'd think there'd be nearly any scenario one would think of...but I think WE'RE the "unicorns!" LOL

Would love to hear some chatter on this...

Pearl River NY
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TOPIC: When one is on a break