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TOPIC: What_do_people_consider_real_around_here
Created by: wildnshy4u
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Every time we read a profile that says they want to meet a real couple they either: 1. Don't have ANY pictures 2. Only want to video play 3. Have so many restrictions they might as well play with themselves Or 4. Just want to chat forever and a day.

Real to us means chat at first to get a "feel" of the other cpl, see if they are the kind of people we could get a drink/ dinner with. Talk more over drinks/dinner and see where that leads, whether its to another vanilla meet to get more acquainted or to a bedroom, it's whatever the comfort zone is. Either way we meet FOR REAL. We aren't into long term chat dating, that's like playing a SIMS game.

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One of our certs is from a couple who described us as "as real as it gets". That means we are who we are. We are what we say we are in our profile, and we are real swingers. We are ready to fuck as soon as we both like both of you. No bullshit. :)

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I couldn't agree more with absolutely everything KellyJean has just said.

However...

My earlier post relates only to what I consider a *real* couple or single to be. What KellyJean just described is what I would personally consider an *interesting/desirable* couple or single to be.

Just my opinion.

Tramp

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When contacted by couples where there might be a connection, I now prefer only to meet at a party or LS event. I've met one too many couples who lacked the energy / passion / spark (call it what you will) that I am attracted to. I rarely meet SMs anymore but every now and then I'll see a gentleman at a party who is having so much fun (dancing, laughing, etc.) I just have to introduce myself. It really is good (positive) energy, a great smile, and playfulness that draws me to people. Some of the best meetings (couple, SM or SF) were at parties/events where none of us knew each other but were having such fun and simply fell into..........good conversation (sure we'll go with that). This is exactly how I met my favorite football companion (sex, wings and football win/win).

Example: Couple contacted me, we chatted, agreed to introduce ourselves at an event the following week. They looked just like their pictures so were easy to spot. Looks alone aren't enough so I watched from across the room to get a sense of who they were. Never once did either of them smile (at each other or anyone else), they did not dance, they were not mingling or chatting with people, they just did not seem to be enjoying themselves. I knew they were not out of their element as they often attend LS dance parties. No thanks.

At least at a party/dance I know I'm going to have fun whether the M&G is fruitful or not.

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Like thn1045, we too have evolved to greatly favor the clubs, resorts, etc...when we want something to *definitely* happen.

However....

For me, the only thing that soneone has to do to be *real* in my mind is for them to be a reasonble facsimile of whatever they describe in their profile.

There are none of us alike, and that sort of begs the question as to why we all seem to be searching for likeminded folks. Lol

But I digress.

Though no two people seem to go about things, look for things, or do things exactly alike, they are real to me as long as they are what they describe...very few are.

Tramp

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"Real" to us is that they are happy, friendly, flirty, and want to play. That's why we almost exclusively meet people at clubs or hotel take over events. Real.. is what's standing seductively right in front of you ;-)

We've been burned a half dozen times meeting couples one on one for the reasons you highlighted.

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We're done with the BS. We are now only interested in someone local to us; so that it's really convenient to meet for a quick coffee or something right away. If the profile is good, the way we're approached (or responded to) is good and the pics are good, we will ask to exchange contact info right away to have a REAL conversation over the phone. If that goes well, then let's meet. Over lunch tomorrow or whatever. Even if just for a quick 20 minutes. If they're are local to you and they can't do that within a few days. Don't waste anymore time!!!!!

And by the way, the "CERTS" are a bunch of BS as well. We have had just as many as them "disappear" as people without certs.

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Everyone has come across those issues at some point in time, Unfortunitely, that's how it is. We learned to not let it bother us long ago. We also changed how go about meeting people. Meaning, we attend clubs and other events, it's always a drive for us as there is never anything close to us. Meeting people face to face is much easier, there is no bullshit of are they real, they don't have certs, and so on. We no longer use our profile as a way to meet people. We use the Hotdate section with great success, and the events section. As far as certs, there is several threads in the forums we have commented on. We have participated in that, we no longer give or recieve them! They are meaningless! I could go on and on as to how we came to that, but to each their own.

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We have seen so many profiles complaining that everyone is fake yet they haven't been with anyone, have no cents and when we say hey, we're a real cpl, would you like to meet over drinks and see if we click? They are like, you are too far, or (even though the profile states only cpls) we just want an extra guy/girl or any other number of things. If we aren't interested we kindly thank them for their interest and let them know we don't think we would be a good match and good luck. We don't B.S. anyone. We also know not every one will be interested in us, every one has different taste so just say so.

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I think you missed my point, Open. I've seen so many times on this site where people have accused others of being fake just because they weren't interested in meeting.

Sorry, but if we aren't interested in YOU, it doesn't mean we're fake. It means you aren't what we're looking for.

And those who think others are fake because they don't want to meet THEM are incredibly egotistical. Here's a clue. You don't turn on everyone on this or any other site. If people don't want to meet, move on. You only look childish if you get rejected and cry FAKE!!!!

Jim

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I don't agree with Valovers definition at all! The picture part yes. Just because someone is not atracted to you and does not want to fuck you, doesnt make them fake. We have heard this line before, it's a stupid way to think. Real, how we see it- You are who you say you are in your profile, pictures are of you and current. If dealing with couples, both of you are into this and know what it's about. And, if plans are made to meet, then show up! What people consider "real" will vary, it's something you will learn over time and what is important to you.

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