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Created by: more4_play Original Starting post for this thread:
We have been married 28 years and grew up going to church which is where we met. Wife and I were each others first . . .me not for lack of trying, just how it worked out. After a short while our sex life existed because I begged for it and she gave in once in a while. But I discovered that when we talked about our fantisies, she would be turned on. So I steered ourconversations to swinging and that made her really hot. we succesfully entered into the lifestyle and enjoyed other couples 3-5 times a year. I noticed that when she was with other men, she was blowing them, she would climb on top of them and ride them like Seabiscut. She was really hot and worked up. At home, our sex life was usually her on her side with her back to me, I had to ask for it and blow jobs were once a year. About four years ago our sex life went crazy. It was so good. Forr about six months I was such a stud. We were making love up to 2-3 times a day or at least 6-7 times a week and I was making her cum everytime. It was so hot. I then quite accidentlly found out she was "dating" about 15 married guys on her own. Her reply to me was "swinging was just as bad and it is all wrong". She couldn't understand why I was so upset. "our sex life is so good why are you complaining"? I said Cheating is Cheating and I felt betrayed. Now after catching her several times over the last four years, she has indeed stopped. But she has let her pubic hair grow out, she refuses to let me go down on her at all and has told me to stop trying. She will let me fuck her but there is no passion or movement from her. she won't touch my dick with her hands or mouth and anal is out of the question. She said swinging was just as bad as her meeting guys on the side and she loved all of it. Has anyone else had this struggle with upbringing, morals, cheating or whatever and is there any hope for our sex life or is it just been given a death sentance? I did get really pissed when I knew she was out blowing some dude and yet she would not do it to me. I just feel cheated. She says she loves me but I don't feel like it. She has killed our sex life and I am not ready to let it die yet.

Created by: more4_play
Original Starting post for this thread:

We have been married 28 years and grew up going to church which is where we met. Wife and I were each others first . . .me not for lack of trying, just how it worked out. 
After a short while our sex life existed because I begged for it and she gave in once in a while. But I discovered that when we talked about our fantisies, she would be turned on. So I steered ourconversations to swinging and that made her really hot. we succesfully entered into the lifestyle and enjoyed other couples 3-5 times a year. I noticed that when she was with other men, she was blowing them, she would climb on top of them and ride them like Seabiscut. She was really hot and worked up. At home, our sex life was usually her on her side with her back to me, I had to ask for it and blow jobs were once a year. About four years ago our sex life went crazy. It was so good. Forr about six months I was such a stud. We were making love up to 2-3 times a day or at least 6-7 times a week and I was making her cum everytime. It was so hot. I then quite accidentlly found out she was "dating" about 15 married guys on her own. Her reply to me was "swinging was just as bad and it is all wrong". She couldn't understand why I was so upset. "our sex life is so good why are you complaining"? I said Cheating is Cheating and I felt betrayed. Now after catching her several times over the last four years, she has indeed stopped. But she has let her pubic hair grow out, she refuses to let me go down on her at all and has told me to stop trying. She will let me fuck her but there is no passion or movement from her. she won't touch my dick with her hands or mouth and anal is out of the question. She said swinging was just as bad as her meeting guys on the side and she loved all of it. Has anyone else had this struggle with upbringing, morals, cheating or whatever and is there any hope for our sex life or is it just been given a death sentance? I did get really pissed when I knew she was out blowing some dude and yet she would not do it to me. I just feel cheated. She says she loves me but I don't feel like it. She has killed our sex life and I am not ready to let it die yet.

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User Details are only visible to members.	I wonder how this ended...
Berrien Sprgs MI			Username hidden (85 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome to the forums, blueeyes! Nicely said, re: expectations of wife not doing different things with another man other than her own hubby. These are all issues that need to be discussed pre-play and/or debriefed after play. There really is no room for jealousy in the LS except as a warning signal that play should cease and serious discussion and introspection should immediately ensue. It rarely happens for us, and is even more rare that it is about a specific sexual act. It generally crops up when consideration and respect seem to be lacking. But that is often just a function of lack of communication and making assumptions for the other person. It cannot be helped sometimes unless you are hyper-vigilant, which can interfere with relaxing, naturally unfolding healthy play. Mostly he and I just have to be willing and committed to allowing the other to be human.
Brunnerville PA			Username hidden (8055 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Wow, this is a really old thread and people are still posting to it every now and then. I see that the folks are still here in SLS as a couple and so I assume they are still playing as the last visit was 8 days ago. It would seem to me that what he has is a "Hot Wife" and some guys really get into that. I do hope they worked it out but wanted to say that it is not uncommon at all for the woman to do things with another person that they will not do with their spouse. One thing I learned is that if you want to play in the lifestyle you can't be in a weak relationship and if you are going to allow your wife to have sex with other men, you can't have a jealous streak in your body. That being said, there have to be rules even if the rule is no rules...
Princeton WV			Username hidden (4 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Geez Nic starting them a bit young don't you think.........oh nebber mind you meant a virgin poster lol Ya scared me lol Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (2358 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Welcome to the forums easyonsun I just claimed an 80-day old virgin! lol
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (7822 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	enigma, do u also go out with women or is it just your wife doing everyhthing and also to the original poster u gotta either get a divorce or just have women on the in the same type of fashion because there is no trust in this relationship but if u wanna stay together for money reasons or something then just have it where u both do what ever
Englewood NJ			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	More4 -- I'd make lemonade out of this lemon. I'd write a long detailed account of your experience and sell it to Penthouse.
Charlotte NC			Username hidden (484 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	28 year relationships are very hard to find and even harder to keep. Think about a 28 year old car that you drive every day. It would take alot of maintenance to keep that vehicle running and looking good. Your wife is no longer attracted to you from my perspective. She had great sex with you during the time of cheating becouse she was remembering the hot and exciting men she was just with. This happens in every relationship to some degree. If you want to save the relationship it will be very difficult becouse you will have to reinvent youself. Physically you will have to work out and take supplements to curbe your diet to loose wieght. You will also need to exspand your ability to impress her again by learning a instrament or something that peeks her intrest. All the while helping to encourage her to do the same in a positive manner. Swinging is best left to those with very stable relationships that are hot in bed when the couples are alone, not for those who are disinterrested and bored with eachother. For these couples swinging often spells the end. The only question is how far are you willing to with no guarantee of success to revive your dieing relationship.
Pawleys Isl SC			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	you and her need to have long talk an I do mean a long talk
Kingston TN			Username hidden (1322 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Maybe they were able to work through it and now have the trust to do the hotwife scenario. Think positive! Just like I am positive I would like to meet you two the next time I get to Chicago! :-D
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (7822 post)

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