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Being newbies I cannot say how this could turn out, but why we are exploring is purely sexual right now, to explore fantasies that we may not wish to be just fantasies anymore. One fear wife has expressed is my falling in love with a women I have sex with; I don't think there is much chance of this but it is one of her things to work out (no, I don't give her reason to think that). If we see a couple as friends than is there a greater chance of one spouse leaving the other? We are also a bit introverted so do not go out and party much.

Durham ME
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We try and mix the two. It can be either but we would prefer being social first and then, if things go that way, sexual. Many times we meet with friends for dinner/drinks and nothing else happens, sometimes it is the opposite.

Keep an open mind and go with the flow.

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Having a varied array of experience with different situations we find we much prefer social/sexual with couples. We made great friends with couples and have friendships in and out of the bedroom.

With single males however, we encountered problems a couple times trying to do the "friends with benefits" thing. Feelings developed and it got dangerous to our own relationship.

So with single men, it is all about the sex. We meet for sex. Then the next time we talk its to meet for sex. Nothing further.

Mount Juliet TN
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Our main purpose for being here is sex with others and we prefer to not mix our personal life with swinging and swingers. Your uncles Festers funeral nor your daughters wedding are our goal to be sure. I perhaps take the word friendship far too seriously and so I tend to not use it often. That being said we've met a few really wonderful people who are playmates and friends but the friendship came after the fact. The social aspect is fabulous, going to vanilla bars really has zero appeal for us. I want to dress up in a shirt hot dress and not worry if my bottom momentarily shows although it isn't intended too. We've found swingers to be much more fun and open, more welcoming and friendly and now if it isn't a Lifestyle centered party we'd almost rather stay home. What I do find interesting is that it is extremely rare that we hook up at a party, we go to party and meet new people. Playing isn't the goal and surely not the priority. If we meet a couple chances are it will be game on....at another time. We generally prefer to meet couples one on one as it allows more time to get to know each other on a different level without the distractions of a party. Opps I didn't really answer the question lol but perhaps there isn't one.

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Anniston AL
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I initially got into this as part of a couple and we were looking primarily just for the sex but it has grown into much more than that. I now count many LS acquaintances among my best friends. It's great when you can connect on many levels and enjoy the company of fun, adventurous people and as many have said, the sex is now icing on a very rich and rewarding cake.

New Orleans LA
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we too are finding it is both.....we LOVE the friends we are making, open and honest. Sex is not a must, but an added bonus. We want friends that can come over with the rest of family and vanilla friends and no eyebrows are raised...we have found that in a few.

Pearland TX
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I agree. Its both

Emeryville CA
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We think it's both, we have a few friends that we see every so often, it does not always end in sex that night, but it might, the flirting and Sexual innuendos that fly around the table make for a heighten sense of arousal, it makes for hotter sex if it happens. And if it does not, then I and Mrs J have something to look forward to when we get home....lol ;)

Philadelphia PA
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We got into swinging for the pleasure of sexual excitement with new attractive people, but quickly found that there is nothing like the special friends you make when you are "friends with benefits." Whether or not you have sex when you're with these special friends, it's so cool to be able to talk openly about sex, and to have a sexy kiss and a fondle at the end of the evening.

Also, friends with benefits last longer than just casual sex partners.

Jim

Culpeper VA
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"Beaverton sounds like my kind of town"

you ever been there? Beaverton is all right. I grew up near there but the rest of that area bites.

Its social for us. we do not have any vanilla friends that are couples that we would do couple things with and kids make maintaining that kind of relationship difficult specialy when they don't have kids. Going to club is how we get to socialize with other adults.... the sex is just gravy.......

Berrien Sprgs MI
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