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Oh yikes! Talk about "female inadequacy".... I have such a hard time achieving a single orgasm, I would feel VERY inadequate being in the same room with a woman who is having multiple squirting orgasms! :)

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Here is an issue that has come up from time to time. We've felt the female inadequacy emotion already with the wife who feels her hubby's partner is having too much fun, moaning/squirting for hours and hours, (can get old for the other woman who can only cum a few times), as well as the male who finishes too soon feels a bit guilty. We like both, but sometimes separation works best and we respect that.

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We've done both and prefer same room.

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We have done both and like both depending on the setting and the mood of the participants. We always return to each other afterwards though and never stay "swapped" overnight.

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Done both, and prefer separate due to the lack of distraction issue. We played with another couple, side by side, on the same bed... And the fella who was doing my wife would be talking to his wife, "he's doing you babe" "you love the feeling babe?"... My wife said she felt like there was no reason for being there if "he" wasn't concentrating on her. Couldn't agree with her more. Plus, we believe spouses behave differently in a separate room. If you are going to get intimate with someone other than your spouse, why not give it your full attention?

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Done both, and prefer separate due to the lack of distraction issue. We played with another couple, side by side, on the same bed... And the fella who was doing my wife would be talking to his wife, "he's doing you babe" "you love the feeling babe?"... My wife said she felt like there was no reason for being there if "he" wasn't concentrating on her. Couldn't agree with her more. Plus, we believe spouses behave differently in a separate room. If you are going to get intimate with someone other than your spouse, why not give it your full attention?

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we have prefer seperate room we have done it same room but found it bettter seperate then just see each others smile when its over or in the womens case her hair all in disarray

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We play in the same room only. We enjoy watching each other with the other person. Not to say we wouldn't ever play in separate rooms with our current friends it they wanted to, but would never do separate rooms for the first time with someone. I want to make sure my wife is treated properly.

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we second Jim's post -- and will add a couple of thoughts. We often start with same room soft play to kind of set the scene and get comfy, but split when intercourse appears imminent, because 1) the wife is not a voyeur. She is "in the moment" with her partner and doesn't care to watch me and mine. 2) I find it very difficult to give full attention to my partner -- which I think she deserves -- if my wife is also active in the same room (although we sometimes do cross-hall open door play). 3) If we want to view sex as a spectator sport we will rent a porn flick. 4) Yes, we have done same room stuff when another couple wasn't comfortable doing separate, but frankly, we have found (in our long experience) that most mature cpls really prefer separate in any case, so it is seldom an issue.

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Welcome to the forums, mcor. But wow, that was a post that reveals extreme mistrust. I doubt that is an issue for very many swingers. Swinging couples who don't trust each other won't make it very long in swinging, and probably not in their relationships, either.

People have all sorts of preferences that stem from all sorts of motivations. It depends on so many different variables that it's folly to generalize. In our case, for example, my wife just won't have an orgasm if there are others in the room whose sounds and actions are distracting to her. It has nothing whatsoever to do with trying to be sneaky about what we do. We also long ago gave up having "rules." We trust each other completely, so we know we're going home to our normal, routine, regular life no matter what we do with whom while swinging. What matters is our relationship, not whether she or I do something we usually don't when swinging. Swinging is all about novel experiences, and if two people decide mutually that it would be fun to do something, then go for it! Swinging is freedom, not chains that restrict what you do. As long as I know she's going home with me, and WANTS to go home with me, why should I care if she wants to do something in another room that gives her more excitement and/or pleasure? It doesn't hurt me, and besides, it only enhances the bond between us because of the gratitude we feel that we give each other the freedom to find maximum pleasure in a swinging experience.

Always remember that every individual has a different life experience and a different relationship and different preferences. Nobody's preferences are the "right" way or the "wrong" way. Just different. And Viva La Difference! If everybody were the same, we'd have quit swinging shortly after we began.

So tolerance of others' preferences is appropriate, and intolerance is not. I do think, though, that if your insistence on same room play is because you don't trust each other enough to play out of each other's sight, then you have a lot bigger issues than just whether or not you play in the same room.

Jim

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