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TOPIC: Bi-COMFORTABLE
Created by: spiceyNsassy
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I have seen this term used on more than one occasion...and I believe it is beginning to suit our situation. "Bi-Comfortable" . When we signed up almost a year ago, I considered myself "curious". I had never done it..and seen it obviously in porn..looked fun...turned me on... sounded fun! I can appreciate a beautiful woman. I can point them out to my husband. BUT when it came down to actually being given the opportunity to preform oral sex on another woman...I couldn't do it. I had no problem with(and enjoyed) the kissing and the touching...but I have since discovered the oral is not for me. I'm no longer curious...I've been given the opportunity and passed. So what does that make me? Straight right? or Bi-comfortable? Well there is no option for bi-comfortable and bi curious on this sight seems to reflect in a number of cases people who can not admit they are BI. Any advice? If I continue to 'advertise' myself as straight I loose out on opportunities with a number of couples. But I do not want to false advertise.

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thank you spade!

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Love the new pics sassy!

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thanks for the advice.... the key is finding that right girlie. I don't mind the hunt though!!

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And I totally understand and respect that...I , like i said, would feel the same way. It's a difficult thing for me, and I wish that it came more naturally for me. I would never blame anyone for passing us by for that reason. But I can not be dishonest. Maybe it was the girl (if she reads this...It is nothing against you) I don't know. I haven't been with a bi girl again.

Cpl4playinCa (i hope i got that right) I just read your profile..i really like it. Mrs Sassy

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Not doing oral with bi women will restrict you from many bi women. Most bi women I know won't be with a woman that is only a "receiver" and not a "giver". Just as oral sex with men is a big part of their sex...so is oral sex with women. If we encounter a couple at the club and I find out she is only a "reciever" then I always pass and would only play st8 swap with them. I would have no interest in a woman that isn't in to all bi play....just I would have no interest in a man if he didn't do oral either.

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OMG I'm blushing! lol Well I know it sounds terrible that I would take and not give back...but for now that is how i'm comfortable. I would never expect someone male or female to go down on me...if I wouldn't go down on them. I really feel like in time I might acutally try. BUT I can not in good faith advertise myself that I would go there. Because I just do not want the pressure to preform it. If it happens great...if it doesn't ..there is time..I'm young (sorta lol) I welcome the encouragement...Right now we are playing with a straight straight couple..so It has not been an issue. We'll see what happens! Maybe the right girlie will come around and make me want it. Mrs Sassy PS In all honesty I feel like the bicurious label is misused by alot. And it puts me into a group of ladies who have tried and liked....I haven't "really" tried. I just received. I read profiles all the time with ladies labeling themselves as curious...I'm not closed off to trying more...just not ready. It makes sense in my head..hope it makes sense out loud!

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You sound "passive" about bi sex. (She can do oral on you, but you won't do it to her.) This will exclude you in both directions. (If she is bi, you likely aren't who she's looking for, if she is straight, bi or bi-curious might exclude you.) Only thing you can do is state what you are comfortable/not comfortable with in your profile. Keep in mind if you use bi-curious, some straight couples won't contact you. This may not be a big issue if you consider how few straight/straight couples there actually are.

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Zazel De I have not tried giving oral. I just couldn't bring myself to pleasure her. But she did pleasure me, and I'm "fine" with that. It was different and I enjoyed being on the receiving end. But as far as me being able to ever reciprocate...I just can't say that I will be able to. So I do not want to lead couples on and advertise myself as something I am not. I think the type of girl that I would realistically enjoy would be someone that wouldn't realistically want to be with us. I like the term bi comfortable because in my eyes..it says I'm comfortable with you another being bi and I'm comfortable with these actions.... I also want it clear when being contacted that We welcome Straight/Straight and do not need the girlie connection. I just really do not like labels. But the are sometimes a neccesary evil. In this case I think that the LS doesn't have enough labels :o)

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It had never opened up scenarios for us. In the past 4 years we have always been open to couples with st8 women and never turned couples down because the female happen to be st8....nevertheless I think I can count them on one hand those that have approached us (or we them). One main reason why the numbers are so low.... for us to play st8 means the male will get 100% of my attention and to be honest there just aren't that many men in our age bracket that I want 100% of their attention. Now....definitely in the 30 year old bracket there are plenty but although I could play with 30 year old men, most likely their wife won't want to play with a 56 year old male.

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Let us know how it goes !

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TOPIC: Bi-COMFORTABLE