We have been in the lifestyle for about eight years, in the early days my wife was curious and explored with other ladies... but in the last three years she has decided that she was done with her curiosity, and is strictly straight! Which is fine with me, of course. What i don't understand is when people say that some girls only play with other girls for their husband?!?! I mean, what the hell is that all about? First of all, do you think that same husband would play with another guy to please her (I think not)!? Second, his motivation to have her do something that she might or might not what to do, is nauseating to say the least. And third, is when couples ask us if she is REALLY straight? As if we were lieing...lol? Thoughts? RJ & Shelly

It doesn't matter to my wife if you are bi or not. She like women especially young ones in their 20's ( damn pervert), but just like swinging, it's not something she has to have to be happy, but when it's there she enjoys the hell out of it.

@stillinluv. We have to concur. We often get e-mails from other couples asking "are you sure your wife wouldn't be interested in playing with my wife?" There must be some attraction to trying to convert a straight girl to bi or something.... just not happening here.

Well, I'm a straight woman, and a couple just sent me an email relaying to me that it's too bad I'm not bi...why can't I just be bi, huh?...and the kicker is that they posted they are both straight on their profile. That's frustrating and rude. Go figure.

I'm going to bring up the "R" word: respect. I am a bisexual female, and I have always appreciated and loved men and women since before I can pinpoint the exact time. If you are a bisexual female, you shouldn't be trying to jump a straight woman's bones. Respect their decision. If you are a straight female, you shouldn't think that bisexual females automatically want to jump your bones. Respect their decision. Although I am bisexual, I never force anyone to do something they don't want to do, and if a woman is straight, that's her choice. I'm not about to knock her down and ravish her like a pirate trying to steal booty. Just like you, ladies, wouldn't want some random man doing the same without your consent. It's rude. It's disrespectful. It's tacky and lacks class. Sure I love another bisexual female in the mix, but I also appreciate straight females as well.

The women I know who are Bi, are NOT the type who do something just because their "man" wants them to. They respect that I am straight... although, yes I get the jokes... but they are who they are because of them, not their men.

Are the women really bi, or are they just subservient to their men who demand them to be bi? Women should be the orientation they are!!!

In the search engine you can choose what you are looking for, as we too look for straight couples. When we do play with couples with bi or bi-cur women, it is asked if my being straight is a problem as i do not do women...

In our case, she is not bi. We've talked about it, but it's not something that does it for her, but has admitted in the moment, she may be open to it. We still list her as straight, because it's unfair to lead any one on. It does make it hard to find people because most of the couples tend to be looking for the bi-female experience. Oh well.

I am listed as bi because I am. BUT with certain ladies I can be straight as an arrow if need be. Sometimes you meet people and just click. Seeing her with hubby was amazing. Seeing her happy was nice too :)