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I think you are getting good comments.

You know there are a lot of people in swinging -- perhaps at one stage or another most of them, who would like to do girl/girl play and have the guy there just in case....and there are a lot of people who would look for "the unicorn" to scratch the ladies' itch BECAUSE there are no other men there and it would give Daddy the advantage of being the only guy there just in case. I don't accuse you of that but it is very common and most of them say what you are saying -- that no pressure but they are ready just in case. It is just another sexual strategy, and very ordinary.

Just a curiosity, why would you NOT look for other couples like yourselves to fill your fantasy? Bi-ladies are far more common that way than in the form of unicorns, even with your stipulation of wanting to get some calm enjoyment. Maybe you could talk to them before and design the event.

Since you feel that way about other couples' impending male interest in the event and reject them, why would you not expect rejection of you as a couple from the unicorn for exactly the same reason? You are open to it after all, and that means you would probably be interested, too. As a lot of people have said you just being there getting zoomed up is a distraction to many that begs to be satisfied. The bi woman you do not know is supposed to ignore that? Or knowing that is supposed to have a calm time with your wife while you are panting away?

If your only interest is in your homosexual experiment, just encourage your wife to engage a lesbian outside of your presence. No need for a bisexual unicorn and lesbians LOVE married women they can introduce to the softness. To assure no distractions of the type you are already posturing to avoid, you just make sure you are not there either.

Do you see my point?

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We play as a couple only. Basically, it's a turn-on for me to watch him be turned on. To have him sit on the sidelines and not able to play would be boring for both of us.

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"I know with Jay, he would not be pleased at all if he were asked to sit in the corner and not touch anything." ================================================== Shelly, I have no problem sitting in the corner watching, as long as it's just the girls. I got the distinct impression from the OP, that the word we was used a lot instead of I. And they did make reference to HIM joining in. That is just not going to happen with most couples. Seems she has no problem with HER husband joining in.

Unless that couple is into just that particular activity. They need to seek out single females for threesomes or she needs to just find a girlfriend. But then her girlfriend may not be happy with her hubby being there. If she really wants to cut out the "guys" she needs to leave Hubby at home.

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That is why most bi women will meet with a female, without any men, when they are in the mood for just pussy.

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I can see both sides on this one. I can see how bi women who are in the mood for pussy are wanting what they want. But I can see the man's perspective, he wants to get laid just like the women do. I know with Jay, he would not be pleased at all if he were asked to sit in the corner and not touch anything. Likewise myself as well. So yeah, I'm riding the fence on this one.


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Jail... but would that not be like someone not respecting your boundaries regardless if it by a man or women in play. I am not bi but I can only relate it to women not respecting my boundaries not interested in women who try to cop a feel or more when everyone is hot and heavy. Just my thought, if the guy is becoming obnoxious than it is a boundary issue - especially if you said to stop and he keeps doing whatever he is doing that you do not want- and I would call a halt to play.

But I think the real key is that there is a clear understanding up front of what everyone wants. If you just want women play they let the men know.

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Because a lot of them tend to forget their manners when seeing two females playing together. Just because someone is bi doesn't mean they want both sexes at the same time, all the time.

Carrie

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Lost... that is an interesting question... I thought bi meant you enjoyed both sexs.

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In my own experience, I'd prefer to just set a playdate with a woman. That way, we can take our time, enjoy and have absolutely no interference from males. They can be quite obnoxious to say the least. "

Hey sweets, hope you are well! I read your post and I ask purely out of curiosity. How are men obnoxious?


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Communication is the key and if that doesn't work then there can be uneasy feelings. Just have to take it all in stride and hope things will be better the next time around.

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