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TOPIC: why does it always seem guys have to be involved

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User Details are only visible to members.	Wow, it seems that I have finally found others that share our dilemma. We also go into the lifestyle to satisfy me (the wife). I was comfortable enough with my husband who had a FMF long before me. I always knew I found women attractive, just didn't have the nerve to "act" on it and frankly didn't know how. So we have had women that we have been with together. But often we find that if the other woman is part of a couple, the other man expects to "play" also, even if its just the women playing. I just figured it's a racial issue, we were going to have to travel or MOVE somewhere else to find more bi women that are cool with being with me alone or both of us. We are not unattractive people, not pushy, and have very pleasant personalities. So if anyone has any insight, advice, or interest LET ME KNOW!!!
Cordova TN			Username hidden (39 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Not sure how long you two have been together but maybe a long heart to heart is in order. You profile sounds like it reflects your desires (maybe adjust the Tame/Moderate/Wild bars) but he is hoping for more and if that is the case, you may feel pressured to go too far in the heat of the moment and regret it. Hopefully you can get him to agree to take it slow and not to exceed your boundaries at the time you are meeting someone and that if, in the future you want more, you make plans ahead of time. I don't have advice how to convince him other than to say if he can't stay at your comfort level, maybe you need to back away completely. Good luck!
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11414 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Can you please tell that to Daddy? I'm game for the whole let's try this out, and I'm willing to go that far....but he keeps talking to full swap people that I feel like a 5th wheel, because I'm not going there. Will I ever? I don't know, but shit! Give a girl a break. If I'm willing to go so far, appreciate it and let's see what happens. Love the man to distraction, but I've tried several times to be clear and in every other way he is SOOO attentive and listens/focuses so well.......any suggestions? I can't believe I'm sounding off to a bunch of people I haven't met, but I assume y'all know where I'm coming from with this.....how do I help him meet me in a happy medium range? I think he's just so happy and blown away that I'm game to try it, but 2+2 doesn't equal 17. I love him, I want to keep him happy, but I want to set clear boundaries that we are both cool with.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (465 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	not to be rude, but it's hard for me to believe you're actually asking this question. you honestly don't understand why guys in the lifestyle want to be involved? i'm going to say it probably started somewhere around the first time a caveman saw another caveman having sex with a cavewoman and said, "yup, i think i'd like to get in on that." not much has changed in all these years. have you been around many heterosexual men? ;-) hang in there. like someone else said, they're plenty of them out there. come visit cocoa beach. christ, you can't swing a dead cat without hitting a g/g only couple.
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The beauty of "the lifestyle" is that there's something for everyone! There are couples that allow the ladies to play alone and there are couples that allow the guys to only watch/participate with their own partner. But as someone pointed out "We got involved in the lifestyle to enjoy it together". I commend my wife for only wanting to play with another woman, as neither of us has any interest of seeing her with another man (we're just not wired that way). But just because only the ladies play together doesn't make me feel left out in the least... I've got a front row seat to the Greatest Show on Earth!!
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (126 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Just because YOU don't care if your husband is involved doesn't mean that all us married women should feel that way. My husband would be ok with me just playing with the female and not being included in our interaction. BUT I"M NOT OK WITH IT.. We got involved in the lifestyle to enjoy it together. I want my husband to have as much fun as I am having with regards to experiencing a new partner.. But that is just how we roll.. If your husband is ok with the way you play, then more power to you guys. But it doesn't sound like your finding many partners who share your vision of the lifestyle.. In any event, Good luck to you both... :)
Milwaukee WI			Username hidden (21 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	As long as people are honest from the beginning...its all about having fun.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23651 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	This sounds similar to our situation in that the Mrs. would like to fulfill her bi-sexual fantasies but wants nothing to do with another man (and I like it like that). Once we realized that "unicorns" (Single Bi-Females) don't exist, we became familiar with a local soft-Swap group. Having said that, we realized that there are different levels of soft-Swap as well, and the level we are comfortable with is basically the ladies can do anything they want to each other but the fellas are only allowed to be intimate with their own partners (Soft-Swap: Girl/Girl). The pleasureable part for me is (1) watching my beautiful wife with another gorgeous lady and (2) what we will do to each other when it's our turn. So basically, there are other couples out there like yourselves you just have to be up-front about what you want and what your boundaries are. HTH!
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (126 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We discussed this a lot when we first started talking about her bisexuality. What it comes down to is having everyone pleasured, for whatever that means for each participant. Some people just aren't as honest up front about what it is they really want. I think it is great for her to be able to play FF without anyone else distracting, but as for myself I'm not into sitting on the sidelines indefinitely, and as far as she is concerned we're a package deal. She wouldn't be too happy with me playing with a single straight woman while she watched... at least not most of the time.
Wake Forest NC			Username hidden (21 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Most of the answers here make no sense. Every individual is different and therefore a couple would also be different, placing someone in a box so that they fit what your looking for makes no sense. We have met with very full swap couples who respect our limits and had a great time, we have also met with just single women. There is no answer, figure out what you want, let the people you meet know your limits and if theres no chemestry then so be it,, just have fun with it.
Converse IN			Username hidden (1 post)

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