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TOPIC: race open
Created by: tosexytotall
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There are a lot of black cpls that would like to hook up with other cpls of a diffrent race, but black clps are the only race that always state in there profile that we are open to other races why is that ?

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@ Sexy not all full swap couples are closed minded or trash(well I'm white trash lol) we just want to fuck. In knowing that we still get hit up by SS couples and we have no interest in SS and they can be as pushy as any . We've been with SS that insisted they were ready to make the leap .well the wives were because I fuck them but the hubbies weren't because they couldn't. Makes for a messy situation . So we shy away from SS couples

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Sadly some folks ignorance will always be their bliss. Being a black female and married to a white male coupled with being soft swap has limited our exposure to those who are close minded, but that just helps weed out the trash. Here in NC we have been approached many times only for bigots to realize that I am black when they see more pics even though it says it on our profile and someone failed to read it...sigh. Overall it is exhausting but thankfully there are some awesome folks that outshines the ugliness and those are the ones we become friends with.

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like I said in another forum there is only one race, the human race

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Words such as "any"! Most of us assume any by itself to mean open to all or without specification, without limitations. The same with "everybody" and "all". But as you read on through their page stipulations are attached. Maybe it's me and the way I use or select words for a particular situation. It use to bother me but, I have gotten so use to it that it is no longer troublesome for me.

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Because people do not understand the words they use, even the simple and easy words. They leave people confused and wondering about what they are looking for. I have been told that English is a difficult language to comprehend. I think it depends on the person that you are speaking to. If we take time to read and understand what we write these pages and our quests would become less problematic definitely less frustrating for some

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5ive, based on the pic i can see, they are total FOOLS for not jumping in bed with you guys :)

Ramsey NJ
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As a black couple, and newbies, the hit/miss ratio hasn't favored us. That's not to say, we haven't chatted with some very cool people. It sucks when you send the email stating that you've granted access, and never get a reply. We've received two rejection replies. If either of you who wrote them are reading this, I thank and respect you for your honesty and tact. Just this past weekend, we were left a email with an invitation and a phone number. We texted half the night. They asked for pics, we obliged, and then......................... I'm not saying that we're a beautiful couple. But, Damn! I know we're not ugly. So I ask what's left to think?

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Fancy - yep, we're white except when we're tan and then we're golden buttery toast colored LOL! Updated our profile to make sure we're not closing doors - although we are occasionally approached by couples & singles with other racial backgrounds. Maybe there are more that didn't feel welcome.

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"We never considered that people would think that because we didn't explicitly say we were open to anyone that it meant we weren't."

J&J, I can see where you are coming from. But, being that you at least appear to be white in your pics, and the vast majority of swingers are white, if you don't explicitly state that you are open to all races, you will still have plenty of options. Birds of a feather, if you will. If minorities, esp black people, don't state their openness or at least imply it, they may not be approached by non-black people who may be interested and their options may be limited. The same goes for minorities contacting white people. Now, there is nothing wrong with not stating it, of course, but stating that you are open may give some people that extra bit of confidence to make contact. It's a lot more reassuring to contact someone if you think there is a real chance they will be interested. And it really doesn't hurt to say you are colorblind. :^)

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eands - thanks for the tip. We're open, we don't care but we don't say it either. Figured it's only material if we weren't open. Our only real issue is with big guys (white, black, striped, whatever) because it's not comfortable for her so we're clear about that one. We never considered that people would think that because we didn't explicitly say we were open to anyone that it meant we weren't.

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TOPIC: race open