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TOPIC: Would love to Cross over to Full Swap
Created by: southnjcouple1
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We been soft swapping for about 20 years and I just cant break the barrier to full swap. She fantisizes about getting fucked by someone but it is ony fantasy. I am also fine with me not fucking anyone as its her I want to see get fucked. We have had serveral 3 somes with guys and she will suck him off until completion and same with couples... hmm not sure if there is an answer but I am willing to listen.....

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@GFandMe...my take on the OP was that he wants to see her go "all the way", but she wants to stay at the soft swap level. I could be wrong on that, but it's the way I'm getting it.

My wife is currently in the same place. Like the OP, I really have a great time playing with the other women at the level that we're at, but don't have strong urges to fuck them. Though i'd really like to see my wife fucking other guys...she only wants that with me at this point.

But that's just fine too...

We are both having a great time and will be happy where we are at unless she wants to take it further. I suspect that will happen eventually, and probably like it did with a previous poster, when least expected.

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We never had an issue with the 2, but then that was just us.

it appears to us, truly bi-females have less issues.

Just our 2 cents worth

Satsuma FL
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Welcome to the Big Leagues Peakcouple69, LOL!

We were full swap from the start but have played with a few soft swap couples. Also at times an intended full swap has turned into a soft swap when the other male wasn't "Up for the job".

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We soft-swapped for about 6 or 7 months before she felt ready to fuck another man. We'd do just about everything with other couples but when we needed to fuck we'd swap back and just do it together. I was ready for a full swap almost from the start but let her go at her own pace as forcing her would have probably put her off.

We didn't discuss it beforehand, but one night in a club we were swapped with another couple and I saw her rolling a condom onto her play-partner's cock and then climbing on to it. She said afterwards she was so turned on that she'd just gone for it. I fucked the guy's wife and we haven't looked back since. My advice is discuss it and say you'd like to go for a full swap, but let her go at her own pace.

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If the barrier comes from your female half, then you need to understand what her barrier is first. Maybe it's a fear that you may leave her? Maybe it's a fear that she may find someone better than you and may not want you as much anymore? What is it?

Conversation and honesty is everything in this lifestyle. Try to understand before trying to be understood.

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my first experience with a couple was interesting... I had met them with the idea of playing with both but it ended up me and the wife going on dates, usually. (They were more poly than swingers.) When the occasion came along that we were all three in bed together the husband kept trying to get me to fuck her and she kept telling him to "He knows what he's doing, just let him be" (She really liked me going down on her). Finally I finished that and started fucking her and sucking him and it was fantastic.

If you let your fantasies become reality, I think you will truly enjoy it but it does take the right chemistry and the right timing, I think.

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OP, what is your actual issue with her getting fucked by another guy ? you have seen her with another cock in her mouth already, putting it between her legs isnt a whole lot different. Whats going on in your head that is stopping you from this ? if it is something she wants, you can give it to her, enjoy the fact you can bring her even more pleasure by bringing that cock in the picture and when he leaves, YOU get to climb on her and you both get to have some private fun alone..

I have to assume you know shes not gonna fall in love and leave you for him so what is the issue ?

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I must admit that I thought soft swap was an unfair expectation when someone invited an additional male into their mix, whether they were evolving or had settled on that as a permanent limit. BUT, then I met a couple that I couldn't resist and vwalla---I was suddenly hooked on soft swap. Its like the concept that a partially clothed body can often be sexier than a naked one. It was more erotic, tantalizing, sexually charged, and prolonged, yet also more relaxed than I ever could have imagined. I was allowed to watch, touch, taste, provide oral, hold, caress, and stroke and receive likewise to my hearts content. A happy ending was assured for all and it was totally fulfilling. I think soft swap is terribly underrated.

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Seems to us that as a couple that is actively transitioning to a full swap couple, that it just takes the right chemistry and the right couple to break through. We have done the normal MFM threesomes and we have met couples where we have either made it to full or just about made it to full swap in a few instances....and we have had fun.

We are not obsessed with it...we kind of think that when it happens, it happens. And for now, we are very happy with where we are in this.

If you want to catch up and see how we all get along...we are close to you.

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I am not sure what your barrier is to moving up to full swap? Conversely, why do you want to or feel that you need to?

With that said, we stayed at soft swap for quite a while. And even though we have full swapped and it all worked out just great, it doesn't mean we full swap with everyone.

I can say, it is freaking hot watching your wife getting fucked... especially while you are screwing a pussy you've never been in before. My advice based on that you both are fine with your wife sucking a guy off and I presume swallowing his load... It isn't that much of a move to get to full swap. Go ahead and plan on doing it once with the idea that you guys will review it later and decide if it's worth repeating or if it was too much.

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