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Cougar... that is an interesting story.

My last post on this topic here is pretty old. We have been full swap for quite a while now.

If you want to hear our story check out the Fantasy forum on 'Watching Your Wife Get Fucked.' I have three long posts there that tell the story.

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In UK soft swap usually means any sexual activity short of fucking (kissing, touching/masturbating, oral/69, toy play, fisting... or whatever) carried out with someone other than your normal sex partner. You swap for soft-swinging play and swap back to your own partner for fucking. It doesn't usually mean having sex with your own partner alongside another couple, that's fairly normal at parties and clubs. It's the sexual contact with others that counts.

Most people start off with soft swaps then progress on to hard ones. We did, after a few months of soft-swinging.

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@ Jack not our cup but your explanation cleared a lot of confusion for me. My experiences with SS couples has been this twice. A SS couple will contact us to as they both have said help or give them the little push to be FS and it's always the female that has been rockin' on ready both times I fucked their wives but they couldn't rise to the occasion to fuck my little beauty and she was very understanding she knows guys aren't robots. One of them started whining like a bitch and calling out to his wife . That's when her gorgeous country southern charm ends. She told him to shut the fuck up that we were having fun over there and when I ask the girl if I should stop she whispered ignore him I' enjoying this and I ain't stopping till I' done. They even split up for a while. Me being the kind caring type I invited her to stay with us for a couple weeks in FL. they are back together now but not before he knocked her around and wreaked their house. Now guess who hates me? So I've always thought there was even confusion in the SS community

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scandle. have to agree with mr. jm. how come you live so far away.

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Scandle... why do you live so far away from us??? You guys are a bullseye match for us.

(Come to SC... Come to SC... Cum to SC) [This is your subliminal command to come see us!] LOL

We agree with your last post. We are OK with toys too.

Mr. JM

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I mean no penile penetration of vagina or anus by anyone not my husband. Toys are allowed and the mouth is NOT off limits for us.

;^D

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so when you say penile penetration does that include penetrating the mouth?

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The definitions given below reflect our feelings about soft swap, too. It seems easy to define "full swap" as intercourse (vaginal and/or anal) with those who are not your partner, but soft swap has so many different levels. We enjoy engaging in everything sexual with other partners except penile penetration with the new person(s), saving that for ourselves. As said before in this thread and in many others, keep the communication open. Don't hesitate to pause the action to clarify any doubts you may have about what's happening. When we're going to meet other couples or heading to a hotel takeover, we always discuss boundaries and wishes privately en route.

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Thanks, Jack Michelle and Lost. It is more or less as we suspected. We are full swap, but we have always been curious about the terminology. We wondered why oral and orgasming with other couples or singles was not full swap, though I guess inherent in word usage is defining those words and that means drawing the line somewhere.

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This is how we see it for serious, real couples. Your opinions may be different.

There are couples on here who only want to have sex in front of you and for you to do the same in front of them. This is watch and be watched. It can be really hot. It is like having live porn on the bed next to you. Usually there is no touching or very little from couple to couple. But obviously, many full swap couples who have swapped a bunch of times find this too tame and don't want to invest the time, effort, and money for dinner and a room or what-ever just to watch when in fact what they want to do is swap with you.

The next level is where we are. It is what we call soft swap. For us that means that we will swap for mutual oral, fingers, kissing. Depending upon the couple and the circumstances, we may cum that way or finish with our own mates. There may be times in this where it's briefly mfm or fmf if someone takes a break. We are good if there is girl/girl play. But it's not required.

Full swap is swapping with intercourse. Even here we've heard of folks who have a (silly in our opinion... but to each his own) no kissing rule. (Stick your dick in her, lick her cunt... but don't kiss her! LOL)

Those are the three levels as we see them for the seriously interested folks. They can be further delineated and and expanded. There is a lessor one than watch-and-be-watched. It is sign up for a web sight like SLS, go to parties, doing nothing yourselves, just enjoying the sexual vibe.

I guess there is even one below that level... Sign up here but don't ever tell your wife, because you know while she may have sex fantasies of some kind, she will never go along with it. You play on the site, and eventually make a date with another couple only to vanish or make an excuse, 'cause what the hell, your wife doesn't even know that you are on here with pics of her.

The key thing on here for those of us actually looking for others is to find those who share your view, or at least overlap with it. So, you should be clear in communicating that view in your profile and emails. You want to give deep thought to what you want to do and don't want to do.

Evryone now go outside and swing! LOL

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