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Yep, I'll cast my vote with you on that as far as what the flirting was intended for. Lol

But, you're also right to believe that fortune favors the brave too. Go figure, right? Lol

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Tramp, we have been in a bit of bad streak the last 3 visits to clubs after some great experiences prior. Our luck is bound to change soon. Here is a classic example of us missing the signals. Really nice couple, they are hanging by us at the bar, we offer up some Jell-O shots, make light conversation. They are pretty hot. We assume they can't be interested in us. This club has. A sybian room we join some couple in there. After a couple of girls, she climbs on. Struggles a little and asks me to help guide it in, I assume it's because I am in the door way closest to it. Lots of smiling going back and forth. Later on we are watching a FMF ion center stage, we are seated on a couch lots of room they sit pretty close to us. I crack a joke or two she laughs. Again we assume nothing and Mrs F tells me to give them more room. In hind thought they were giving us signals and we kept disregarding them. Probably the biggest thing we have to work on is realizing that we have to learn to take some chances.

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Your correct, we tend to better in clubs then in dates off of here. As I have said in the past, our biggest issue seems to be our cluelessness to the advances of the other couple.

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Fokkers, your last post confuses me a little. I thought that I'd seen you post in the past that you guys tended to do pretty well in person. Were you talking about places other than clubs?

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My definition of soft swap is that penetration is off limits, but everything else is possible. To what extent depends on the people involved.

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Our luck is pretty crappy in the clubs, anyone we meet in their are couples that we meet on here and exchange messages. We just meet up at clubs. Your luck in clubs is pretty crappy if you're not part of the Pretty People Posse, all they're interested in is looks. We have found is that you go in, looking for no other fun then with yourselves and maybe making a new friend or two. Bug then again we tend to be clueless when people are actually flirting with us.

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We started Soft- went to Full w in maybe 2 months w a short break to re-group after a bad experience- have stayed Full but recently have been playing w a new couple that's starting Soft and we're really having a blast with them.

That said they've already expressed their interest in 'more' so suspect they'll be moving up too.

For us either is ok bc it's a case by case situation. Fokker I know you two meet people at clubs and play then and there if I recall correctly? We're not club people and rely on meeting folks thru here and getting to know them before doing the deed. Neither is better or worse, just different preferences.

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True, once you jump in you have to be willing to tread water, if you don't you will struggle and start to sink to the point where you are in serious trouble.

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Some couples like to start slowly & wade into the deep end of the pool, or not at all. All about comfort level. We jumped right into the deep end mostly because we have no insecurity/jealousy issues. Not saying all soft swappers do, but we've seen it. Hard to put the brakes on once you get rolling ;-)

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The soft swap threads generally die pretty quick it seems. There seems to be no commitment to taking them all the way. LOL

I thought we were going to be soft swap for a while and then we met up with a couple at a club, we hadn't no expectations just purely looking forward to hanging with someone. Before we knew it we were back in our room, clothes had come off and we had jumped in to the deep end. We hadn't even actually participated in soft at all, right into full. It was insane, we discussed it the next day and we realized that it really probably would have made no difference had we transitioned through the two stages. Everyone is different and it's all about your comfort level.

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