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TOPIC: What is your definition of soft swap
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My/Our definition of Soft Swap: Not having all the fun that I/We could have.

Not gonna do it... wouldn't be prudent.

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We have done full swap with couples, but are looking for aoft swap with couples at moment, we are trying to figure out what is best for us. If playing with a single it's open to full penetration, but couples would be no vaginal or anal penetration by a penis.-Mrs

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I reposted the msg below from another thread so as to get your responses.

I got a lot out of this thread though. I know the questions to ask better now. So while I am typically FS (with a couple, as I am SM), I would probably enjoy SS with the right lady if mutual oral and all the "finishing" options are thereā€¦.bonus if using toys on her are in the mix! ;-)

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I have been contacted by a few SS, but have politely declined them thus far. The strangest thus far is actually quite humorous:

A very pretty younger lady (gal half of a couple) contacted me about SS. She was so hot that rather than decline right away I asked for more information about how she defined SS. I expected non-penetration, of course. But here were the rules:

-no penetration (got it)

-oral both ways (wife-me), BUT wife is "grossed out by" semen, so I'd have to "finish on my own." This meant not only no "swallow/spit" and therefore no CIM, but also ZERO contact of ejaculate with her body in any way.

?????

All this, and they were about and hour's drive away. So I would be, I suppose, expected to go "finish up" in the bathroom. Or would there have been Kleenex for me to finish into? Wow.

I was very polite and kind, and asked none of the above questions of her, out of kindness. But my honest thought was that this gal had some serious "issues" to have these mandates, and yet apparently wish to participate in the LS in some manner.

What say you?

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To Us Soft Swapping is Foreplay(Touching,Teasing,and Oral) with Someone Other than Your Spouse with No intercourse.

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FF play, men can touch women, women can touch men, sex with own partner.

Newburgh NY
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Cougar... that is an interesting story.

My last post on this topic here is pretty old. We have been full swap for quite a while now.

If you want to hear our story check out the Fantasy forum on 'Watching Your Wife Get Fucked.' I have three long posts there that tell the story.

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In UK soft swap usually means any sexual activity short of fucking (kissing, touching/masturbating, oral/69, toy play, fisting... or whatever) carried out with someone other than your normal sex partner. You swap for soft-swinging play and swap back to your own partner for fucking. It doesn't usually mean having sex with your own partner alongside another couple, that's fairly normal at parties and clubs. It's the sexual contact with others that counts.

Most people start off with soft swaps then progress on to hard ones. We did, after a few months of soft-swinging.


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@ Jack not our cup but your explanation cleared a lot of confusion for me. My experiences with SS couples has been this twice. A SS couple will contact us to as they both have said help or give them the little push to be FS and it's always the female that has been rockin' on ready both times I fucked their wives but they couldn't rise to the occasion to fuck my little beauty and she was very understanding she knows guys aren't robots. One of them started whining like a bitch and calling out to his wife . That's when her gorgeous country southern charm ends. She told him to shut the fuck up that we were having fun over there and when I ask the girl if I should stop she whispered ignore him I' enjoying this and I ain't stopping till I' done. They even split up for a while. Me being the kind caring type I invited her to stay with us for a couple weeks in FL. they are back together now but not before he knocked her around and wreaked their house. Now guess who hates me? So I've always thought there was even confusion in the SS community

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scandle. have to agree with mr. jm. how come you live so far away.

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