We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure: Swingers Discussion 1834981061

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TOPIC: We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure

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User Details are only visible to members.	Looks like the OP made some profile changes alright, now there isn't a single word in their profile about soft swap, it does mention she likes G/G and he is available to now playing alone. Things change of course but now I'm just more confused exactly what they're looking for . Hopefully they're happy and meeting nice people who have figured out what they want. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are in the same boat as you guys and been a soft swap couple for over 15 years. You set and make your parameters or boundries and stick to them. Sometimes update them if and when the time is right. Communication is key. I wish you guys were in our area cause we would love to meet you...
Cherry Hill NJ			Username hidden (18 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There are unfortunately those out there who feel they know what a "real swinger" is...basically the kind of swinger THEY are. And if you do not F or suck every other swinger in the area you are a "fake" swinger and are "playing games". Call my ass fake then. You have to know what your current boundaries are and have good communication with each other. Yes, you will be pushed. Yes, you will be told "you haven't done it because you haven't been with the RIGHT couple..." you will hear this bullshit. Just know who YOU are, and what YOU are comfortable with doing...and be upfront with it. And if they don't like it well...go f somebody else. Do not allow pressure to bother you or you will get frustrated and it will push you away from the lifestyle and some great people.
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23665 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	now you're getting it. hey, at the end of the day, it's your profile and you can do what you like. but remember who you're dealing with here. if the door is open, no matter how small the crack, there will always be those who will think you left it cracked just for them. it's all good brother. hope you guys have lots of fun! j&k
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I thought that our profile was so detailed that there wouldn't be any question as to what we were looking for. I have read all of your comments and re-read our profile several times, and I do see that some things need to be fixed. I will talk to my wife this evening and get this thing straight. I was kind of thinking that the MIGht part would never happen. We live in an area that has less than a tenth of one percent Asian population, so when I posted that pretty much all bets were off if you were an Asian female it was pretty much tongue and cheek as there aren't any around here. I'll get rid of that part. I will take the advice that said if you Are soft swap only make sure it is clear. Thanks everyone.
Freeburn KY			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I agree with JK4fun, your profile is confusing, misleading and a train wreck waiting to happen. If you chose to be Soft Swingers than profess that proudly to the world , if things change you can be on the pressuring end of other soft swingers when you change your mind at the last minute. If you want people to abide by your rules you must make them clear ! A very simple fix ! Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	are you sure you're reading the feedback you're getting? you say your profile works for you, but that's not what your original post is saying. once again, the profile is contradictory. it clearly states that you MIGHT have sex with other couples. you can't tell people you MIGHT have sex with them and then get upset when they try to take you up on the offer. what's that old definition for insanity? "doing the same things over and over and expecting a different outcome." if you're not even willing to change the profile to clearly tell people that you will not be having sex with them, then why shouldn't they continue to ask for it?
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	To answer your question "you don't understand why any couple wouldn't want to play with you?" is very simple > If they are a full swap couple that is what they are looking for, many couples ourselves included do not set out to play with soft swing couples as we prefer full swap. For myself I do enjoy a man or a women getting me worked strictly for the purpose of having sex with my spouse , my spouse does a fantastic job of that all by himself. Nor would I be content in that arrangement to have Mr Sav come tap me on the should in the middle of things because he's so aroused he needs to have sex and his play partner has rules against it. I also do not ever want to have to interrupt Mr Sav at whatever stage he might be with his partner because I NEED it RIGHT NOW. That being said it is our preference for the OPTION of full swap , it doesnt always happen that way and that fine but we do not intentionally put ourselves in situations where it isn't even an option. We're a go with the flow couple , where ever that flow takes us. Thats what works for US . There is nothing wrong with your preference at all and no one should ever pressure you into something you are not comfortable with . I am truly sorry that people are not being respectful of your wishes and wish you all the success and happiness you deserve. Stand firm in your desires , no matter what your preference is there are many people that share it. Mrs Sav
Weaver AL			Username hidden (4108 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We have had some success since I made the original post. We are a bit on the fringe it seems. I guess we assumed that more couples would Be looking for girl/girl. I'm not sure why it us amazing... The line about her playing with males if I asked... She just isn't very interested in males, but she would be happy to put in a show for me if I asked. I get the feeling that some if u may think that our profile seems a bit strange, but it works for us. To date I have only watched and not participated in any activities. My wife is happy I'm happy, someone sent me an email saying I wa just another selfish man using his wife to get laid! Really? She is the only one getting anything, this isn't about me it's about us. Thanks to everyone who posted advice or made comments. Tom
Freeburn KY			Username hidden (33 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I am not sure why you are baffled. Each couple should do what they are comfortable with, realizing that the more rules they have the smaller the field of possible matching couples. You have quite a few limitations/rules, so the number of possible couples will be more limited.
Pottstown PA			Username hidden (1375 post)

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