Welcome to the forums Nikkismith! ;)

Well we are brand new and have not had our first adventure yet. I would want to make sure that all understood each others desires before meeting. Setting boundaries is important, don't you think? I just feel like no one should do anything they are not comfortable with. I really want to watch or be watched and am not into kink, or pain...so if someone wanted that and knew up front I was not into it, I would be be upset too. People just need to take the time to read the profiles and respect each other. Even though we have not made a connection yet (only been a week we were seriously looking), it sure seems like there are plenty of people out there to find compatibility with.

we have had this come up a few times. You just have to stick to your rules and your comfort level. If your not comfortable with what is going on. Then it wont be fun, and may ruin it for one or both of you.
It does drive us nuts to have it in our profile, then mention it while emailing or chatting. Then in person they ask for something knowing full well we dont do that.

As a full swap couple we don't mind soft swap, but you need to be ready for us to drag out our toys and get a loyt kinker than most people.

While we have done full swap on occasion, our favorite is manual and oral. In fact, we were pretty much exclusive with one couple for over 15 years, and at least 95% was M-O. Part of this is due to the fact that we insist on condoms for penetration, but a lot of it is the fact that manual and oral allows a more delicate touch for teasing and prolonging. There have even been occasions when the other woman and I would just watch each other masturbate - this really turned her on. I love going down on a woman, and can be completely satisfied just receiving a hand job.

Damn! Love to help you!

Welcome to the forums, JulieM330!

I'm totally with you guys on this. Mike and I are also new to this and I dont want a full swap either. We would be fine with me making out and touching another girl, and with the guys recieving oral too. Mike would just have as much fun watching us, I really wouldnt want to see him with someone else. Hope we dont feel the pressure..
Thx for posting

As one soft swapper to another, welcome to the Forums, WeLuv2BNaughty2! I LOVE your first picture and post!

Enjoyed all views shared...thank you for validating that the fun begins in foreplay and soft can be extremely sensual, not to mention tasty! Boundaries are moveable as comfort levels shift but giving in to pressure is never a good way to go; it's about confidence, security, and having FUN!! Whatever way you personally define playtime. ;) keep it sexxxy friends

Ok...i tried to sift thru the drama on this thread..so here is my take. When BigD and I decided to try this lifestyle, I only wanted soft swap. We had a lot of problems searching, but most of the time, some full swap couples don't mind soft swap. It is your boundaries and it is whatever you feel comfortable with. We have not had that many encounters, only a few with another couple just us and just them in the same room, same bed....then we tried this weekend to go full swap. Ummm it was really really hard for me to see BigD with another woman. So we didn't go any further than oral....the couple was fantastic about it and understood. We are still working things out about what we enjoy and what works for us. I am in the process of revamping our profile for soft swap. This lifestyle should be a "bonus" or "extra" with your relationship...to spice it up. If someone is not cool with soft swap oh well...we will keep looking till we find one!! Happy Searching!:)