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TOPIC: We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure
Created by: 22tango4
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we are pretty new and we are trying to find a couple that would be happy with mostly girl/girl and some soft swap, but really we would like for the guys to watch and touch, maybe get some oral from the girls, but that's it. My wife wouldn't mind giving oral to another man, but that's about it. I wouldn't mind receiving oral, but I really don't need it and I wouldn't want anything more. My wife is really hot and we are getting our share of emails, but it seems everyone tries to pressure us into full swap..WTF...we don't understand why a couple woudnt be happy to play with us with our restrictions....ok so we don't want to fuck, and my wife doesnt want to receive oral from another man, but she will help him out and will rock his wifes world... We are baffled as to why this is not enough. What do you think? Are we just dreaming?

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Also, since your profile is not viewable by couples, you are obviously filtering out any similar minded couples. In my experience soft swappers are less likely to be at the Meet and Greets and clubs and you may need to try to find them more on line. People go out to events because they are DTF.

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I am going to answer this but first I will say that regardless of what I think you should stick with what is comfortable to you guys. If you aren't compatible, move on. There are plenty who are looking for what you want so just keep looking.

So here are some answers while full swappers will have no interest in what you are offering: First, while I am bi, I have no intention of putting on a show. I might play just with another woman and ditch both men but I am not an exhibitionist.

Second, I think oral sex is sex. Those who think there is some sort of level of difference or that it doesn't "count' are philosophically incompatible.

Third, playing with newbies, especially those with restrictions is asking for drama. Why bother when there are so many fish in the sea without restrictions?

Fourth, some of us are here for the guys and a good hard fucking. Does your lady at least have a strap on and know how to use it?

Fifth, a lot of guys are about pleasing the ladies so being restricted from reciprocating on the oral sex is not what they are looking for.

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@ OP Your statement rock your wifes world remind me of a chick that we met on the lake. After a couple of times we ran into each other she emailed Ms. Cougar and told her she found her very sexy and if Ms. Cougar would give her the chance she would rock her world. BTW this chick is lesbian and very gorgeous. My Baby thought what the hell I'll give it a shot. Hell she is as crazy as I am but I knew the lesbian chick was going to be disappointed 'cause if your going to rock my girls world your going to need a cock at least 7 inches long with a nice head and decent girth and then know what the fuck to do with it. I was right they were both disappointed lol. I will say this she has been with one girl that was very satisfying to her and especially after I fucked them both lol. She has a little bi in her but not much

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No one should be pressuring you into anything you don't want to do. If they do, they aren't people you want to be with. We started out as soft swap and met some great full swap couples or were very patient with us. Now, even though we e njoy full swap, we remember where we started and will play to the comfort level of the couple that we are with. It is the only way to be in our humble opinion.

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Welcome to the Forums, simplyincredible.

We are also a soft swap couple that is somewhat new to swinging, having started at a hotel takeover March 2010. It has been slow going but worth waiting for the right people/person, and when the stars align everyone is very happy. Stay true to yourselves even if it means the others you meet aren't willing to respect your boundaries and you end up "only" having fun with each other. Why should you have to compromise your limits to make someone else happy? (rhetorical question) Good luck, and keep looking.

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we are pretty new and we are trying to find a couple that would be happy with mostly girl/girl and some soft swap, but really we would like for the guys to watch and touch, maybe get some oral from the girls, but that's it. My wife wouldn't mind giving oral to another man, but that's about it. I wouldn't mind receiving oral, but I really don't need it and I wouldn't want anything more. My wife is really hot and we are getting our share of emails, but it seems everyone tries to pressure us into full swap..WTF...we don't understand why a couple woudnt be happy to play with us with our restrictions....ok so we don't want to fuck, and my wife doesnt want to receive oral from another man, but she will help him out and will rock his wifes world... We are baffled as to why this is not enough. What do you think? Are we just dreaming?

Freeburn KY
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