We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure: Swingers Discussion 1834981071

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We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure: Swingers Discussion 1834981071

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TOPIC: We are soft swap and having trouble with pressure

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User Details are only visible to members.	based on the fact that you, as well as other "soft swap" couples posting here, have not responded to comments or questions about your post, i'm not sure you're really interested in getting the feedback you're asking for. nevertheless, there are a couple of things that have not been mentioned that i think should be. first, keep this in mind. you've chosen to associate yourselves with people who get together to have sex with each other. granted, we're not all playing at the same level. but if you think there will ever be a time, while you are in the LS, when people will not be asking you to have sex, you are not being realistic, and you may need to rethink you're choice to be part of it. it will NEVER change. second, as for the people wanting to have sex with you, or "pressuring" you as you put it, you've brought it on yourselves. your profile is one contradiction after another, and is also contradictory to what you are saying in your post. "she only plays with females unless i ask her to do more". that is not a rule, that is a statement. when a couple meets you, how are they supposed to know that they don't make that cut unless they ask? "we absolutely don't rule anything out". that is a door you have clearly left open. how can you expect SWINGERS not to try to walk thru it? once they have asked and you have answered, that should be it. if not, they are not worth your time or your friendship. if you want people to respect the boundaries stated in your profile, you need to start by setting some.
Orlando FL			Username hidden (976 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My first reaction to your question is that the more limited your boundaries are, the more likely it will be to have to explain them. That is not a criticism, simply an observation. The advice given is correct in that you simply stay true to what you are looking for and if it means weeding through a lot of unwanted emails, that is the price you pay for having a hot wife! WEG I also saw a question about how to have soft swap with a single male. I have on 2 occasions met with ladies who set the limit at oral sex (giving and receiving). One was for medical reasons (temporary and we plan on meeting again soon) and the other because her husband wasn't present. I understood going in and it was great. As I state in my profile, I love the flirting and the kissing and touching and if oral is as far as a couple (or lady) wants to go, I am fine with that. The bottom line to me in any situation is as long as both parties agree and understand the boundaries it's all good!
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (11415 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Definitely understand where you're coming from. The problem is there are too many women doing this for their husband and not for themselves. We have met a couple of people that say they are having sex because their husbands arebut would rather just do soft. We look at it this way, all the touching and licking and kissing leads to incredible SEX. And we want that with each other. If nobody wants to play with us because of that then OH WELL! Their loss!!!!!
Cleveland Hts OH			Username hidden (1 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We are soft swap only and understand your situation 100%. Stay true to what you want and if others can't accept that, they are not worth your time or energy.
Cherryville NC			Username hidden (61 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	you aren't alone in that, alot of folks think they can change your mind. We only want soft swap as well, and that is our plan and we are sticking to it.
Stuart FL			Username hidden (4 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hdrockers, welcome to the forums. I'm a little curious about how it works to softswap with a solo male. Do you find many males who are okay with that? And more important, what does the wife enjoy about the limited play? ps, Mrs. Hdrocker looks terrific.
San Quentin CA			Username hidden (8604 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	we are pretty new and we are trying to find a couple that would be happy with mostly girl/girl and some soft swap, but really we would like for the guys to watch and touch, maybe get some oral from the girls, but that's it. My wife wouldn't mind giving oral to another man, but that's about it. I wouldn't mind receiving oral, but I really don't need it and I wouldn't want anything more. My wife is really hot and we are getting our share of emails, but it seems everyone tries to pressure us into full swap..WTF...we don't understand why a couple woudnt be happy to play with us with our restrictions....ok so we don't want to fuck, and my wife doesnt want to receive oral from another man, but she will help him out and will rock his wifes world... We are baffled as to why this is not enough. What do you think? Are we just dreaming?
Freeburn KY			Username hidden (33 post)

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