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TOPIC: Profile Too Specific

Created by: swingdance2 Original Starting post for this thread:
My boyfriend thinks it's too specific to say this (below) in our profile and we won't get any interest: "For now, our ideal night with another couple would include stimulating sex-charged conversation, hot dancing, kissing, flirting, more dancing and then naked touching and kissing guys-and-girls and/or girl-on-girl, then same room/same bed sex with our own partners, with no oral and no penetration of any kind between couples. We're new to this so be patient with us! Maybe we'll get more adventurous as we get used to things! With a single woman, it could start the same and but go anywhere she's comfortable!" I say I'd rather people know our boundaries right from the get go. What do you all think?

Created by: swingdance2
Original Starting post for this thread:

My boyfriend thinks it's too specific to say this (below) in our profile and we won't get any interest:

"For now, our ideal night with another couple would include stimulating sex-charged conversation, hot dancing, kissing, flirting, more dancing and then naked touching and kissing guys-and-girls and/or girl-on-girl, then same room/same bed sex with our own partners, with no oral and no penetration of any kind between couples.  We're new to this so be patient with us!  Maybe we'll get more adventurous as we get used to things!  With a single woman, it could start the same and but go anywhere she's comfortable!"

I say I'd rather people know our boundaries right from the get go.

What do you all think?

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User Details are only visible to members.	I don't think most people are specific enough. When we where younger we put very little though into who we where meeting, It was a night out and if for anyreason we didn't click with the people we where meeting, so what. It was a night out and we could always find something else to do, even if we where out till the sun came up. or there was always next weekend. Now as we are getting older and know what it is we are looking for, our time is much more precious and we don't even go to a restaurant unless we have seen the menu (making sure that they offer something that we both are going to like) and read the reviews.
Dallas TX			Username hidden (2225 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We don't think there is such a thing as "too specific", but then again we like to know what we're getting into up front and vice-versa. It says "this is who we are, love it or leave it"!
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (126 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	know your audience and understand most folks dont want to read, cant read or dont have the patience for long winded stories... make it short and sweet and leave something for them to find out with a well placed question....its part of the foreplay -
Melville NY			Username hidden (35 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I do not think it is too specific. We are new to this also -- still seeking our first adventure (have been looking 1 week), and I think it is VERY important to let people know what you are into -- and what you are NOT into; and would want to know the same about them. Just part of getting to know each other. Setting boundaries right from the start is a good thing -- especially for newbies!
New Eagle PA			Username hidden (4 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think it's fine. Ours also tells of some limitations. I feel that you're better off letting others know the boundaries, than to misrepresent yourself and deal with an awkward moment later. Like us, if you are really "feeling" the moment while with someone, and want to push your limits, it's completely on you, and without any expectations.
Redford MI			Username hidden (303 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Sounds good, OP. Where do I sign up? ;)
Weatherby Lake MO			Username hidden (71 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hi G & C., We are not that different from you. It has been much easier then we expected it to be to find couples and single gals looking for couples like us. We started a group called "Delaware Soft Play", here on SLS looking to find others like ourselves. We are only a few months into it and have nearly 130 couples and 15 +/- single women, all from the Philadelphia 5 counties, Southern NJ, Northeast MD and Northern DE. Most with in 30-40 minute of center city Philadelphia. We are having our first meet and greet this Friday (March 16th at McKinzey's in Chadds Ford. All of the meet and greet details are in the event section of the Delaware Soft Play page. We believe that you are already members. So, come on out and meet some other softies like us. Feel free to reach out to us with any questions about the group or the Meet and Greet. Mark and Linda
Wilmington DE			Username hidden (5 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Good question lost_j1. I'm glad you asked because that's not what it means at all. I'll have to clarify that it can go anywhere she's comfortable between the ladies but there will still only be touching and kissing with the guy. Thanks for the question!
Phoenixville PA			Username hidden (6 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think its absolutely fine, being specific is much better than not knowing what you want. I am just curious about this because well, its my nature. Again, I think your statement is absolutely fine as is. But I read this: "With a single woman, it could start the same and but go anywhere she's comfortable!".....so you are full swap with a single woman but not with the wife of another couple?
San Marcos TX			Username hidden (23750 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Your profile is excellent. It is direct, honest; and you come across both as very real and as having thoughtfully considered what you are interested in. It sounds as if as a couple the two of you are on the same page which is very helpful. In my opinion the only people that will be dissuaded from contacting you are the ones that you would probably not be compatible with anyway.
Ann Arbor MI			Username hidden (24 post)

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