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We have no problem meeting people and making friends no matter what their preference or experience level is, but more often than not we are contacted by Full Swap (Moderate to Wild) couples, who are downright rude when we ask them up front to respect our boundaries as a Soft-Swap couple. We've even been told (by another soft-swap couple) that we're "doing it wrong". For a "lifestyle" based on acceptance and diversity, some folks sure do see this in absolutes...

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Just wanted to update that we met just about the best possible couple we could have recently. When we were finally alone, they said 'You make the rules and we will follow them', and they did. It led to the best experience we could have ever hoped for! Wow. It just goes to show the troubles that come from generalities and blanket statements. I mean we all do it, not a judgement. I had an old high school teacher who used to say: 'All generalities are false, including this one'. In this case we were WAY wrong as this full swap couple made our first experience one we will NEVER forget! Steve

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We respect everyone's preferences and can have fun at any level of intimate activity, from something as simple as watching another couple make-out and grope one another to all of us rolling around in a big pile.

While a full-course meal is very satisfying, a couple of tacos can really hit the spot, too! Why restrict yourself to the same diet all the time? (geez -- must be close to dinnertime...)

We would never insult a couple based upon their level-of-play preference or their kinks, and would expect the same courtesy from others. It doesn't hurt a bit to be polite.

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We changed our profile to soft swap a few months ago and we've been at this for a very long time. Things have changed over the years and we aren't as interested in full swap as we once were, that doesn't mean it's never going to happen but it's rare. Thats ok and you don't owe (nor do we) other people an explanation as to why you prefer what you prefer. Even as a full swap couple it takes time and patience to hook up with the right couple, take your time, relax, have a good time, things will happen. Having sex with the wrong couple just because your excited isn't really pleasant anyway.

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Hey CT

Thanks for the post. We know this jerk is not the norm but it is very difficult finding that first encounter; someone truly without expectations. I suppose we are partly responsible. It seems that if we were really the the kind of people that others enjoyed so much then they would be willing to 'play down' to our level. We need to just hit it off with the right couple and be the people they want to be with.

Steve

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We will never disrespect or turn down a couple that is not full swap. When we first got involved, we met some great couples who said they would move at our pace (soft swap). We will never forget them or how they treated us and we only pay back what was given to us. We have had new couples claim to be soft swap only to find out that when push came to shove, the female half was not ready for anything more than roving hands. We were disappointed but not rude about it to them. We can enjoy soft swap as much as full swap. It is all about the pleasure!

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It sounds like you had emailed this guy on a bad day. Perhaps he hasnt gotten laid in awhile and had to take it out on someone. Sorry to see you had to deal with a jerk. There are many soft swap couples ( and parties) out there. Good Luck

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We are not finding too much love from full swappers. Either they turn us down completely or they contact us and then try to 'convert' us when they meet us, totally disrespecting our wishes (and profiles!) It has been so hard finding soft swappers that we have yet to have our first experience. I wrote an SLS mail to someone hosting a house party asking if we would be welcome and not only did they say no (we are alright with that by itself, it's their party after all), but the man went on to explain why people like us are 'ruining' the lifestyle and how we have contributed in turning the local swingers club into a 'meet and greet' establishment, thereby ruining it as well. He concluded by saying we would never be welcome at their parties. I still maintain that swingers seem to be about the most fun, down to earth people around. We will keep looking. Steve

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Bri, we are full swappers....what you experienced are not full swappers, they are called assholes. Never apologize for doing things how you as a couple want to do things. When you receive rude remarks just let it slide. They probably have issues. You owe noone either an explanation or an apology.

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We've never had a rude comment from a full swap couple. We have been politely turned down, which was sad, but they were never rude. People are people and some can have less class than others. At parties, when we meet another couple, we state in the beinning conversation that we are soft swap, so we dont waste their time on the get to know you phase, which works very well for all involved. We have played with mostly full swap couples that have respected our boundries and we've had great experiences. For those that are rude and crude, gladly accept that you didnt waste your time on a couple that woulnt of been so much fun to play with! Since we have to decided, recently, to move on to full swap, we have found that many of our full swap friends are more than happy to help us! lol

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