Welcome to the forums kinkycouple! ;)
Best of luck to you!

Hey Scandle, you should copy and paste that last post you made into one of the good advice for new people threads! It was well said :)

We are looking for the same thing. And have chatted with a few couples and they all try to pull a full on us. We will keep our eyes open for a couple that meets our wants, until then we will enjoy our sex together. Good luck to ya'll!!

Our preferences and situation are similar, though we enjoy man/woman soft swap as well as with the women playing together, and have met some wonderful couples who share our tastes. It is not wrong to want what you want and to stand your ground as long as you want. You may not get as many takers and it may take longer to find people with similar preferences, but when you do connect it will feel right and wonderful. I didn't look at your profile, but when we changed our availability to couples and single women, blocking single men from contacting us, it helped tremendously to weed out the ones we weren't interested in. We also usually make arrangements to meet potential new playmates over dinner, with no expectation of play that night. Everyone gets a chance to think (and possibly fantasize) about it, then once we have a chance to decide, we have a conversation with the couple about whether they want to see us again. One time the couple we met for dinner did not appeal to us at all, but subsequently we've made some great friends with benefits using this method. And we were so glad we hadn't arranged to jump in the sack right away with the first couple. As you gain experience, your preferences may change. Just keep talking to your spouse/partner, over and over and sometimes during your playtime with others. Remember that it's okay to stop the events if you are not comfortable with the direction they are taking. Last piece of advice - whatever your question about the lifestyle may be, it is likely someone else has posted about it already. The Forum threads never go away and the search feature works pretty well. Good luck, and have fun!

Geerich- Apparently I need to clarify. We are looking for a single female preferably. With that being said, there are some couples that "play" separately. In terms of "borrowing" someone's wife, my husband and I are the most respectful couple that you will ever meet. I am always honest and upfront about our rules and I never encourage anyone to go against their rules. I have never once asked another wife to step out on her husband and have more often than not had to turn other couples down as I do not participate with other men. The single women have tons of couples and singles to choose from. Couples, that dont full swap, have a much more difficult time. Especially when you aren't looking for a series of one-night-stands.

we have been in some things i fill thats worng you want some one to give a part of them but. dont want to give a part of you, i fill you got to give to get, why dont you cpl's just look for single women, thay are out there!! we have had cpl"s over that the femail all way come out and say can we just be alone with the man lady.after we have all played.i fill that its a trick .to pull the lady away from her mate.just for thire own life style. but we see it all the time thier is more cpl's than singles ladys.so thay will play the game in hoping that thay can get it there way and even go as far as swaping just to get that angle on your lady.thay know what thay want from the get go.and it seems like thay dont care if thay may brake up some one's home .just to plz thire own . that is so sailfish. and low!!! so in saying that .true cpl's hold your ground,dont go for old trick lets just have a ladys night out.that word bi is some time use the worng way .when the hole time thay is gay and cant get the ladys that want . becuse real men have them

Nothing wrong in what you are looking for. Good luck to you.

FunSexy- When I say "borrow" a wife, I just mean as I don't have sex/oral with other men, it makes for a difficult situation. Example- husband & I find a woman extremely attractive and she reciprocates. If I want to include her with us, and she has a husband, the husband is reluctant or totally will not agree to her being with us if I am not willing to be with them also.

*People say that the lifestyle is accepting of all people and their desires, and there are people that think like you. All i am looking for is some sexy hot woman that is up for being with me and my husband, preferably for an ongoing thing. Is that so wrong?

What does borrowing a wife achieve?

It is sooo funny that this is a thread. We are looking for the same thing when it comes to a couple. We are not full swap at all. We have met tons of couples that really are upset that we dont full swap. I'd understand if we didn't make that very clear up front. I DON'T do other men outside my husband. My husband loves to watch me with other women so what you are looking for is kinda ideal. I like being with other women, but I also want her involved with me and my husband. That is the biggest thrill for me. For us, its even more difficult to approach a couple because so often most men don't wanna let us "borrow" their wives knowing I can't return the favor. I'm just glad to hear there are more couples that dont full swap, like to watch the women play and the men only screw their own partners, and that ideally what I/we want isn't that crazy! **BTW race isn't an issue with us at all EVER!!!

I'd say 90% of the couples who attend the club we go to this is what they are there for. We are in the other 10% while we are not full swap only there will be no female/ female play. Just not my thing.