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Raven, thats a good idea. You should put that you are looking for couples who are into cuckolding. They are out there, we have a couple who are our good friends who are into that. That would be the answer to your search I think! Are there MANY out there? I don't know about that....I know most couples where the hubby doesnt play are looking for more f/f play. BUT if you specifically say you are looking for cuckold couples they will find you I think. Shell


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I read your profile. You don't really express what you have written here in your profile. You mention a fantasy where the hubby watches, but that does not state that it is all you want out of him. If you want couples, but want the other hubby to sit back and only watch as you do his woman, good luck! I'm sure there are males who have erection issues, loss of sex drive, or into cuckolding that might like this scenario. Put what you are seeking HONESTLY in your profile and be EXTREMELY patient.

Personally when I see a profile that does not want the male of a couple actively included in playtime I see ISSUES and would pass without a second thought even though I AM a single bi-fem. I've been approached on this scenario many times and have NEVER said yes to it. It gives me a bad feeling and I go with my gut on that. Just being honest with my thoughts here. You might find a couple in a club though that would be willing if the hubby is already occupied with other females. Again... good luck!

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Scotty, you are sweet :0) Shell


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I actually have had this scenario happen quite often but it's only at small house parties. This is our favorite mode of play... a 3 some with another woman so we are always looking for it. At small house parties, it's not unusual for couples to split up. Many times we have walked in a room and the husband is done and goes out to eat and drink while the wife hasn't finished and she keeps on playing in the puppy pile. Just because you are in a puppy pile doesn't mean you are playing with every one but usually concentrating on one or two people in that pile. This situation affords us the 3'some without the husband a lot but you have to be willing to get in there with other people and know how to control the situation so you are playing with just the person you are wanting and everyone else in the room is just visual fluff.

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Angel, We would echo the opinion of Annie and the others. Though we're not actively "recruiting" now,we always preferred the soft swapping for oral and foreplay with each others mates, and full sex with our own partners.While we have engaged in full swap in the past on a spur of the moments at parties, we both much prefer the scenario of getting to know one another a little first. Before we found our special girlfriend,we much preferred the public meet & greets without expectations, over the let's meet and get it on scene at some parties. Your feelings aren't wrong, but they will limit you in the lifestyle I think. ~ C

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shelly,

I so want to do you.

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I'm also with annie. Recently this has happened although it was not planned and Jay was NOT happy. I was playing with the husband and she and Jay seemed to be on their way to the play room; however, she goes hot and cold. One minute she was all over Jay and then she would take off. I don't know what the deal is. But its not fun. Now I know a cuckold couple where he does chill while she plays; but he does not want to see it. He stays outside talking and chilling and does not watch her playing with other men at all. So I know that there are couples where the wife is welcome to play with other couples BUT I don't know many where the husband is okay with participating in the fashion you have described. Shell


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Thanks for the credit annie.

Sorry i just don't see your sceneario working out well. Like annie said... what's the other guy to do while your husband is boinking his wife? If you either take us both or neither.

I couldn't imagine asking a guy "hey can my wife and I do your wife and you're only allowed to watch. is that ok?" LOL.

Maybe you should re-examine your lifestyle choice. Also... consider an escort.

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Kick back. Take it easy. Work hard on your profile. Accept the fact that you are in a growth activity. You don't find the right people. In fact you NEVER will "find the right people". The two of you need to grow into being flexible accepting people. and you will have a zillion laughs and tons of fun along the way. You should have seen us 12 years ago.

On the re-read it sounds a tiny bit (I deeply apologize if I am wrong) like you are allowing yourselves to feel a little bit like victims of other peoples advances. Be in charge. In the clubs you can just walk up and ask, "your pretty wife is so beautiful, may I touch her without implying permission for you to touch me". I can pretty well assure you will get a yes about 50% of the time. We were in the lifestyle for probably 3 years before I discovered the walk up and ask technique. You do have to develop a smooth considerate manner about you. The Hay baby wanna fuck technique isn't going to pay off very well

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Then put all that is your profile, there should be no misunderstandings after reading.

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