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TOPIC: Where are the older swingers

Created by: JackDarlene Original Starting post for this thread:
I see a LOT of 20 & 30-something swingers on SLS, and more than a few in their 40's and even some 50's. We were just wondering why the population on SLS appears to be skewed towards the younger set. It isn't as though swinging was a recent phenomenon or anything like that. It's been around for a looong while. More than long enough to have LOTS of experienced swingers in their 60's, 70's, and even 80's. So where'd they all go? I'd think that perhaps it was a product of being Internet-challenged, but they don't seem to be at any house parties or M&G's either. Wassup with that?

Created by: JackDarlene
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I see a LOT of 20 & 30-something swingers on SLS, and more than a few in their 40's and even some 50's. We were just wondering why the population on SLS appears to be skewed towards the younger set. It isn't as though swinging was a recent phenomenon or anything like that. It's been around for a looong while. More than long enough to have LOTS of experienced swingers in their 60's, 70's, and even 80's. So where'd they all go? I'd think that perhaps it was a product of being Internet-challenged, but they don't seem to be at any house parties or M&G's either. Wassup with that?

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User Details are only visible to members.	I truly believe that the age demographics are simply due to upbringing. More of the younger set is open to sex outside of marriage than those above the 55 mark. Hence there would naturally be a smaller percentage on these sites of older citizens. Truthfully, I am almost 64 and have only been enjoying the lifestyle for about two years. It took a youngster (7-years younger than me) to allow me the freedom, permission, and encouragement to enjoy uncommitted sex. Even as a teen just dating, casual sex on a date was not accepted as it is today. I, for one, am happy to have made the discovery before it was physically too late. Now if I can only find some partners, with partners that are also as physically able as I am, so my other half can also be satisfied. Sadly, all too often I am able to totally satisfy the person I am with, while my significant other is left disappointed by her experience.
Glen Burnie MD			Username hidden (11 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Having fun playing ,,,what are you all doing. he he.
Newmarket Canada			Username hidden (240 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	All perfectly valid observations. I hadn't considered that aging too can directly impact the ability and/or inclination to swing. I'll have to look up that "Swinging in America". Have you ever read "Beyond Monogamy"? Some very interesting info there. All in all, a very interesting discussion. :-)
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (634 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	It appears to me that you've forgotten another key reason there are fewer older swingers: deteriorating health that often comes with age such as arthritis, heart problems, diabetes and the like. Add to that the difficulties many women face with menopause, and you'll find people who may wish they could still participate but simply don't feel up to it.
Sheboygan Falls WI			Username hidden (6978 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Jack, I think your premise is wrong. I don't think that over-55s are thinning out quite as much as you think. But of course we'd need a pretty rigorous study to prove that, or really any other theory about who swings and who doesn't. I also think that, like Jack Benny, that many of the over-50 crowd have just stopped aging, or are aging very slowly, say 1 year for every 2-3 years of life. I would also guess that there's a fatigue factor. If you've been on SLS for a long time, you may just drop off -- because it's gotten boring, because you have a group of people you already know, or some other reason. I'm fairly sure the majority of profiles on SLS have been up 4 years or less. The oldest profile I recall seeing was initiated in 2001. I would agree (if you were to suggest it) that the number of people just starting in the lifestyle is probably much smaller in the 60-70 age group. Many more are likely to start in their 50s when they become empty nesters. But again, there's no way to prove any of this, including your original premise, with the data you've provided -- or really any survey data taken from sites like this or from public opinion surveys. Just too many methodological problems. ST
Kitty Hawk NC			Username hidden (158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	There are several potential reasons why the (age) distribution of profiles is different from the (age) distribution of the general population. Here are a few 1. There could be different levels of comfort with social networking sites across age groups. 2. The demographics of swingers could be different than the general population demographic. 3. Older swingers have already gravitated to stable groups and are less inclined to develop/maintain profiles. Scholarly studies (see Bergstrand and Sinski's "Swinging in America" which included >1100 swingers) acknowledge the difficulty of getting comprehensive and reliable data. Suffice it to say that there are older swingers out there. We have had the very good fortune to find a few such couples who have become wonderful friends.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (385 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	StGala; LOL, no, I'm not contemplating any work in the field of statistics. Actually, I hated Stats in college. I recognize that the methodology is not rigorous and the results are more indicative than definitive. I thought about breaking it down by SF's, SM's, and Cpls, but figured that'd be going overboard for the audience. I'm simply curious if anyone might have any good ideas regarding why the 55+ set seems to be so thin on the ground in SLS as compared to the general population. My guess is that they've either A) gotten sick of playing head-games and dropped out, or B) developed a closed group of swinging friends in their own age range and just don't have much interest in playing outside of that group.
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (634 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Geez, Jack, hope you aren't contemplating a second career in statistics. Counting profiles is a major methodological flaw. A couple = 2 people. You need to go back and do the work again counting people in each age group, not profiles if you expect your numbers to mean anything. It would also be helpful in answering your original question to count numbers of single males, single females, and couples in each age group. There are always going to be more single males than females, and this will be particularly true in the lower age groups where there are fewer married couples. It's possible that your age demographic findings are an artifact of this natural phenomenon. If you were just to limit your search to couples, or maybe even paid couples, I suspect the SLS swinger population would skew much older, albeit with natural falloff at the top end. Often with statistics, how you ask the question determines what your answer is. ST
Kitty Hawk NC			Username hidden (158 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Interesting analysis, JackDarlene. I did a little testing and it looks like the maximum search results is 1000. In our area, the search results for all members was either 999, 999, or 1000, no matter what distance was chosen. When I limited the age group, less than 1000 hits generally resulted. As far as where the older swingers go, our experience was to start in our mid 50's. That was also the experience of several of our SLS friends. So although younger folks may be leaving as they mature, those numbers must be offset somewhat by new empty-nesters just starting out. Maybe it is because we live in a large metropolitan area, but we are fortunate to now have a number of local couples in our age range to socialize with.
Atlanta GA			Username hidden (5 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	My point was that people 55+ make up almost 20% of the population in our area (according to federal census data), but only 9% of SLS members (according to the SLS search function). Even if only 5-7% of the population are or have been in the lifestyle, one would expect the age distribution to remain relatively unchanged. So why are swingers dropping out of SLS as they grow older?? I ran a Search for all SLS members (SM's, SF's, and cpls) within 100 miles of us, by age groups, and got the following: 18-25; 180 profiles (5%) 26-35; 900 profiles (28%) 36-45; 998 profiles (30%) 46-55; 884 profiles (27%) 56-65; 266 profiles (8%) 66+; 38 profiles (1%) I can understand why the younger set aren't well represented; they're still getting their feet under them and haven't found SLS yet. But I'm puzzled why the older set is so poorly represented. According to federal census figures, we should have almost 20% of SLS profiles 55+. Otherwise the age distribution curve is about what I'd expect it to be, given the nation age distribution. Another puzzle is that when I ran the Search function wide open, for ALL members 18-99 within 100 miles, it reported only 997 profiles. Any idea why that might be, SLS Management??
Fairview Heights IL			Username hidden (634 post)

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