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I think that as long as some people treat sex with African-Americans as a fetish there are going to be problems. ('We like BBC'. It's like saying 'we are into cross dressing.') It's diminishes the individual as a person and ultimately degrades them. When you have sex with someone because you like them and want to share yourselves with them and they happen to be of color, then you have crossed the boundary from fetish to mutual respect; the sort that is implied and, indeed, demanded from most of us from/with other couples. Just a different way of thinking of it all.

As much as I abhor bigotry in any form, I think a lot of this thinking is due to the way AA'a are depicted in the porn industry (and legend of the big black stud servicing the southern belle). They are always depicted as the bulls with giant cocks who can go for hours and satisy anyone. People are ignorant and prejudiced in the true meanings of the words and seeing this think 'I want that' without (always) consciously realizing that just by thinking and pursuing such an encounter they are actually involving themsleves in a form of ritual bigotry and negative stereotyping. Even if I had a 10" cock and could go for hours, that is not what I would want to be equated with as to my worth as a whole.

On top of all that, there is just the excitement of being with someone 'different' and/or outside of our own experiences. I think we may all be a little guilty of that in some form. In the same way, we end up minimizing the person and enjoying the 'difference'.

It is something that we try to always remain conscious of. Off the soapbox, Steve

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Ohhhh I despise ignorant people.


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Sky, I have friends and relatives in your area, and I would still say that that area is quite backwards in their thinking yet. We were traveling nearby and looked up swing clubs there, and we were surprised to see one club listed with these words attached; "WHITES ONLY." I thought, okay, only in Mississippi. Sad, but true.

I'm sure racism abounds in other places, but you're in a tough area for openness.

It's why I couldn't live there. I lived a bit south of you for about a year, and the backwards thinking just irked me to no end. Friendly people, beautiful land, but the thinking is just wrong. My parents (I'm adopted, thank god) are of the bigoted mindset that pervades.

My biggest prejudice? Ignorance. And not just ignorant people, but those who are proud of it.

Good luck here on sls, and in swinging.

Gina

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Great post lost.....I wonder why it is that its totally ok and you will see alot of remarks like "love the contrast of white and black" but if you put a dislike of exactly the same thing,,your racist!

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sky, anyone that refers to a human being as an animal such as bull is noone we want to be associated with. Unfortunately, swingers are humans. And when you become a swinger you do not have this huge evolving metamorphasis as a person. So...yeah, you have bigots here. I have had men say that they want to fuck me because of a "latina fetish". No thanks. I think though, in this area, there is a positive "mystique" about AA men actually. They are thought of as being blessed sexually in regard to penile size, eroticism and sexual rhythm. I know lots and lots of white ladies who love enjoying black men. Now in this same vein though...some ladies are not attracted to AA men...not because they see them as inferior, but because they are just sexually attracted to other colors. I think when you are a good guy that just shines through. Keep having fun, you will find people that think you are awesome!


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Anyone who is foolish enough to turn down a great time because of skin color deserves to sit home alone.

The skin is the furthest thing from the heart. Steve

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Welcome to the forums, Sky. We try to get along with everyone.

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well i see that the views are here from the white side which can never see anything wrong - they are in the majority and set the rules - and they refer to black males as bulls and don,t really see us in the same light as they see other people - i have been a swinger for over 20 yrs and it ,s those places where they have old fashion views of other people exsist- i,m a 63 yr old black male and i have been turned down a number of times on this site and i understand i,m in the south and that says something for most of the replys - being black in america is hard - i,m a 2nd generation combat veteran and still get no respect - as for as the swinglife it doesn,t change rather then the white sheets they used to wear - now they have smiles and new suits but feel the same way - it,s a shame but you can,t stop it and it,s sad that people can,t see us as thier equals - we,re always looked at as whinning if we don,t get our way - some of the people on here are no better off but they reply to you as if you,re a lower level of life -- life is short and we need to respect each other and find love and happeness where ever it is i know i won,t get any takers but i will remain on my side of the track i bought a lifetime membership and it hasn,t paid off at all and i ,m stuck with the this site -- maybe some time in the future before i die the attitude on this site might change

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No matter what the op is I would not bother with him. He's married

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It matters where I live. I would rather you come right out and say I play with so and so types only then waste my time .

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