Late Bloomers vs Lifetime Experiences: Swingers Discussion 1134931011

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TOPIC: Late Bloomers vs Lifetime Experiences

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User Details are only visible to members.	While I came of age in the 70's and and had more than my share of sexual fun, I guess I didn't really start swinging until recently. For my 50th birthday, my lover arranged a playdate with another couple. It was a WONDERFUL surprise, a real wet dream come true. I had known the couple for years but didn't know they were swingers. Well...now I am the kid in the candy store! Maybe I'm going through a second childhood (or maybe puberty!), but I am having the time of my life!
Pueblo CO			Username hidden (14 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	The 40's seems to be the age period that a lot of people we now know and enjoy in this venue began their journey. The nest is almost empty or empty and your career(s) are pretty much where you want them to be. We like to say it's become "our time" now.
Center Valley PA			Username hidden (8499 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	We started in our 40's. Two kids, married 25 years. We couldn't think of any new positions to try or toys to buy so we thought we would give this a whirl. It has been fun so far and we have made some good friends.
Painesville OH			Username hidden (130 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Getting ready to hit that 30yr mark together here. And that's just legally married years, we were together a few before that too. Some call it luck, but really, it's effort. And sometimes just plain stubbornness! I think the effort you put into developing and maintaining new / different relationships over the years would equal that amount of effort. Just depends on what life has throw at you, or into you that evens things out. We wouldn't have it any other way, but are open minded enough to know that doesn't work for everyone. Bob
Des Plaines IL			Username hidden (45 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	People can only write from their experiences and it is difficult to see and understand others' experiences when they differ significanlty from ours. Thus the comment about those in their 20's. It may have been made with a bit of jealousy lurking in the unconscious due to the fact that they did not have that fun in their youth. I have been swinging since my 20's so I do know why you'd do that. It was fun then and is still fun. The largest difference seems to me not when you started, but if you've remained with one person all your life and started swinging with them at some point. All your life could be the 8 years Tort described. J and I have each experienced a number of serious relationships and now we are youg in our second marriage for each of us. This is very different from having had one marriage/relationship all your life. I can't imagine having that lovely bond with one person because it didn't work for me. And those who have enjoyed that one person bond may not be able to imagine the work and love of building relationships with different people, different relationships that required very different choices. So I have enjoyed intimate, loving sex in committed relationships more than once, more than twice, more than three times, and have enjoyed swinging in most of those relationships. That must be very different from a long term one on one committment that branches out to swinging later in life. I would love to hear more about what it's like for others who fall into one or the other of these two very different experiences.
Enosburg Falls VT			Username hidden (969 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I guess I'll chime in here. Following my sexual desires was forbidden from my life until after my youngest turned 18. Most of you know this about me, but I was a single parent. I did not date or even think about men or women until again, my baby became of legal age. My sons encouraged me to find a life for myself. My desires were always there, just didn't pursue them until after the raising of the boys. So glad I did, even though it was later in my life. My first few years in the lifestyle were so full of excitement, fun, getting to know who I was sexually. So, I truly know from my experiences waiting or being a late bloomer was well worth that wait. Jan
Johnstown PA			Username hidden (11993 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	All excellent points. And it does really matter about your partner. Dan and I have only been married 4 and a half years, but swinging to us was something we both wanted to try. In fact, I want to experience everything I can with him, as he has opened so many doors of enjoyment to my life! Licks, good post. Gina
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (5609 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	That was an excellent post, Licks. Like you, I started very young. I was 21 when we started. We've never had a problem separating emotional monogamy from sexual monogamy. I do feel swinging became richer for us later on in many ways. That could be attributed to more time and money though. I think two of the tricks to happy swinging is to know yourself and know your relationship. The ability to do that doesn't necessarily correlate to age.
Saint Augustine FL			Username hidden (12572 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	This is a great group. Thank you everyone. I'm glad to see encouragement in here. Gina...I was going to suggest we just add our states to our names, but I;m in VA which would make me Gina VA, or turned around, VAGina, and I just can't do that one to myself...hehehehe. Gina from the coast
San Antonio TX			Username hidden (5609 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	CurlyBill, I sent you an invite to a single male friendly SLS group I co-moderate. ~ Jen
Moosic PA			Username hidden (1021 post)

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