Going bare possibly has all sorts of benefits: chlamydia, herpes, genital warts, HPV....there is good old syphilys lol......or the big boy, HIV.....pregnancy if you are not sterile......all sorts of perks.

Thanks for the explanation. It never would have occurred to me to relate McDonalds with pussy.

"Would you like to super size that snatch? Drive to the second window."

I at least give you props for being open about that. The very first couple we brought home neglected to share (and we neglected to ask) that they wouldn't use condoms until everyone was naked.

Stclare, I was asking about the Novocaine/McDonalds analogy; it went right over my head.

I agree, StClare, and I have so few that will fit, but, I am not going bare. Here's another thought, though: see if you can get the lady to use a female condom. I believe that they are only available via mail order. Order a 10 pack. There is only one manufacturer. Probably best to not use this the first time you are with a lady. It's different. She may want to try it out privately before she actually uses it for real play time. Use lots of lube to cut down on all the crinkly noise. Feels, for me, much better than using a condom and almost as good as bareback. I favor the female condom of the standard male condom any day. Hope that this helps.

" to me wearing a condom is like eating McDonalds after getting Novocaine. I can easily lose my erection in one of those tight raincoats"

How so, stclare?

Whoever invents a condom that TRULY feels like they're "wearing nothing" will make a fortune.

Condoms really suck. We accept them not because we like them but rather because they are necessary.

Sex has always been enjoyable for me, with or without condoms. I enjoy bare sex with my wife, and use condoms with swinging partners. There are many factors that determine compatibility when reviewing potential play partners. And, just because someone is not a match for sex does not mean we can't be friends. I wear a "party hat" and we choose to be with others who do also. There are some forum regulars who play bare that I admire and lust after. Those who choose to play bareback, I hope they fully understand the additional risk they are taking. Some people think they can avoid STDs by being "selective." Some swingers incorrectly believe that if they avoid certain races or bi-men they will be safe. And while you may think you know someone, there was a swinging couple out in the mid-west, where the man, a military officer, had sex with dozens of women after he found out he was HIV-positive. Having worked in the health care field, I'm aware that many people have STDs and don't even know it. Left untreated, they can be spread to others and may become more difficult to treat. Untreated STDs can also cause permanent heath consequences. I do hope that all swingers, regardless of condom use, get regular STD testing and would share any positive result with their play partners.

Hi easland,

Do you get tested for herpes? A high proportion of swingers probably have herpes. Here’s a quote from the CDC:

“Nationwide, 16.2%, or about one out of six, people 14 to 49 years of age have genital HSV-2 infection.”

Would you quit the lifestyle if you found you had herpes?

BTW, I have herpes

@SheLikesGurls:
Thanks very much for your answer to the post from the single female newbie.
If she calls sex without a condom "raw banging" she does not know too much about sexual pleasures yet. We prefer sex w/o a rubber but only with COUPLES we have known for a while and feel very comfortable with. Contrary to her unfounded statement, we DO get tested and believe us, if they ever found an STD in us, we would leave the lifestyle
In my humble opinion, the newbie's post was uncalled for and just plain dumb....
Looking at her profile, what would she say if we start ranting about BBWs?