10% of all proceeds from purchased memberships will be donated to the victims and families of the Marjory Stoneman Douglas tragedy.
SwingLifeStyle.com


Help
FORUMS › General Discussions › Safe Sex › We have Herpes and heres how it happened!
TOPIC: We_have_Herpes_and_heres_how_it_happened!
« Prev  1  2  3  Next »
11 to 20 of 27
User Details are only visible to members.
Cant see ur profile as im currently a SM. Id love to have a search term especially for hsv. Fantastic idea. Such terrible site design tho ... i hold no hope :(

Granville NY
Username hidden
(14 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
We have it too! Dampened our spirits for a while, and it definitely slowed down the email traffic, but we have been able to find people who have it and are open about it, and some who don't but figure if we are taking the antivirals we are safe as anyone else and statistically we basically are. I wish this site would let us do a keyword search for herpes or hsv so we could find others more easily. But most people aren't out about it anyway.

Dallas TX
Username hidden
(8 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
partyinthewoods, thats it exactly! Ask specifically to be tested for HSV 1 and 2. Let them know, you dont have symptoms but you still want to be tested for it.

New Castle DE
Username hidden
(4 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
So when i ask my obgyn to test for everything they might not be testing for this? What is it i need to be tested for exactly and is there any others that i might need to ask for that they might be missing? Just want to make sure? Thanks for all the information.

Brooklyn KY
Username hidden
(90 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
This is by far probably the most dreadful risk of swinging. I continue to test herpes free and have never had warts and am thankful but understand it's probably a matter of time before I get nailed with something. It's just the nature of the beast and rubbers provide limited protection against viral STDs. I hope all infected here at least have the decency to take their meds consistently and refrain for the periods where they think they're in a shedding bullshit phase. From what I've read if someone your fucking takes medication and doesn't fuck around while s/he's having an outbreak, you're pretty unlikely to contract. Warts are another matter.

Username hidden
(228 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
I know of ppl in this area, and seen ppl in other states with the bumps, blisters, or sores on their face. Even was saved in the nick of time before playing with this woman that claimed it was a boil. Boil or not.... anyone ever say those 3 words together???

Anyways, the point is, I saw it, and sure, may have been one. But, why not have this discussion before you go downstairs to go inside. She was upset that I said no, but her problem. Men can say "naw, no thanks" as well.

The whiff test, the visual, and not total darkness. Thats another thing. If ppl are more frightened of light than a gremlin, something COULD be rotten in Denmark/Swingmark. We are given one penis, and one penis for a reason.... two hands, feets, ears, eyes, lips, kidneys, nuts, .... but only one penis.

Brown Deer WI
Username hidden
(2846 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Nice to see much interest in this... We feel it's important for those that want to be as informed as possible about H risk

Indianapolis IN
Username hidden
(25 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Sun and Sky,

It’s a tough decision and it’s good that you’re giving it serious thought at this stage – not after the fact. There’s no reason to rush into anything.

Unfortunately, some people hide things. As a bi guy I get lots of mail from ‘straight’ guys who want to play with a guy. All too often, these guys are hiding their bi-proclivities from their wives too – that’s a shame.

In an odd way, having herpes and playing only with others that acknowledge their herpes has an advantage, i.e., you have good reason to believe that the people you’re playing with are honest.

We have met some truly wonderful people and only a few ‘stinkers’.

San Antonio TX
Username hidden
(180 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Jogeo, Thanks for your reply to our post. The only one so far! Your candor is much appreciated and confirmed much of what we already assumed. I would imagine that most people who are active in the LS probably DO have HSV and I am glad to see that at least some are open and honest about their status before playing. I would bet that most do not discuss it. Gives us much pause.

Birmingham MI
Username hidden
(3 posts)
User Details are only visible to members.
Hi SunAndSky,

Protecting yourselves against herpes is very difficult. Condoms aren’t much protection against HSV as it can be transmitted by skin to skin contact.

As someone with herpes I never play (except with myself) when I have an outbreak (1-2 times a year). That’s when transmission of the virus is most likely. However, ‘shedding’ of the HSV virus can occur several days before an outbreak. During this time, there may be no noticeable symptoms (sorry if I’m telling you stuff you already know).

Do most swingers have herpes? That’s a good question. I don’t know, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that were the case. I have heard a herpes researcher say that most sexually active (non-monogamous) women over 50 carry the virus.

Still, we swing. But the way we swing probably wouldn’t be very satisfying to most. First, we only play with others that acknowledge their herpes – that’s a very small fraction of those that actually have it. Second, we mostly confine ourselves to soft-soft swinging.

I hope this doesn’t seem too discouraging. We’ve found swinging to be very worthwhile in many ways, and we’re glad we decided to do it. Still, it’s best to proceed with your eyes wide open – you owe it to each other.

Good luck.

San Antonio TX
Username hidden
(180 posts)
« Prev  1  2  3  Next »
11 to 20 of 27
TOPIC: We have Herpes and heres how it happened!
This site does not contain sexually explicit images as defined in 18 U.S.C. 2256.
Accordingly, neither this site nor the contents contained herein are covered by the record-keeping provisions of 18 USC 2257(a)-(c).
Disclaimer: This website contains adult material. You must be over 18 to enter or 21 where applicable by law.
All Members are over 18 years of age.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy
 
Copyright © 1998-2016 DashBoardHosting, LLC. All Rights Reserved.