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TOPIC: We have Herpes and heres how it happened!
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partyinthewoods, thats it exactly! Ask specifically to be tested for HSV 1 and 2. Let them know, you dont have symptoms but you still want to be tested for it.

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So when i ask my obgyn to test for everything they might not be testing for this? What is it i need to be tested for exactly and is there any others that i might need to ask for that they might be missing? Just want to make sure? Thanks for all the information.

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This is by far probably the most dreadful risk of swinging. I continue to test herpes free and have never had warts and am thankful but understand it's probably a matter of time before I get nailed with something. It's just the nature of the beast and rubbers provide limited protection against viral STDs. I hope all infected here at least have the decency to take their meds consistently and refrain for the periods where they think they're in a shedding bullshit phase. From what I've read if someone your fucking takes medication and doesn't fuck around while s/he's having an outbreak, you're pretty unlikely to contract. Warts are another matter.

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I know of ppl in this area, and seen ppl in other states with the bumps, blisters, or sores on their face. Even was saved in the nick of time before playing with this woman that claimed it was a boil. Boil or not.... anyone ever say those 3 words together???

Anyways, the point is, I saw it, and sure, may have been one. But, why not have this discussion before you go downstairs to go inside. She was upset that I said no, but her problem. Men can say "naw, no thanks" as well.

The whiff test, the visual, and not total darkness. Thats another thing. If ppl are more frightened of light than a gremlin, something COULD be rotten in Denmark/Swingmark. We are given one penis, and one penis for a reason.... two hands, feets, ears, eyes, lips, kidneys, nuts, .... but only one penis.

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Nice to see much interest in this... We feel it's important for those that want to be as informed as possible about H risk

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Sun and Sky,

It’s a tough decision and it’s good that you’re giving it serious thought at this stage – not after the fact. There’s no reason to rush into anything.

Unfortunately, some people hide things. As a bi guy I get lots of mail from ‘straight’ guys who want to play with a guy. All too often, these guys are hiding their bi-proclivities from their wives too – that’s a shame.

In an odd way, having herpes and playing only with others that acknowledge their herpes has an advantage, i.e., you have good reason to believe that the people you’re playing with are honest.

We have met some truly wonderful people and only a few ‘stinkers’.

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Jogeo, Thanks for your reply to our post. The only one so far! Your candor is much appreciated and confirmed much of what we already assumed. I would imagine that most people who are active in the LS probably DO have HSV and I am glad to see that at least some are open and honest about their status before playing. I would bet that most do not discuss it. Gives us much pause.

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Hi SunAndSky,

Protecting yourselves against herpes is very difficult. Condoms aren’t much protection against HSV as it can be transmitted by skin to skin contact.

As someone with herpes I never play (except with myself) when I have an outbreak (1-2 times a year). That’s when transmission of the virus is most likely. However, ‘shedding’ of the HSV virus can occur several days before an outbreak. During this time, there may be no noticeable symptoms (sorry if I’m telling you stuff you already know).

Do most swingers have herpes? That’s a good question. I don’t know, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that were the case. I have heard a herpes researcher say that most sexually active (non-monogamous) women over 50 carry the virus.

Still, we swing. But the way we swing probably wouldn’t be very satisfying to most. First, we only play with others that acknowledge their herpes – that’s a very small fraction of those that actually have it. Second, we mostly confine ourselves to soft-soft swinging.

I hope this doesn’t seem too discouraging. We’ve found swinging to be very worthwhile in many ways, and we’re glad we decided to do it. Still, it’s best to proceed with your eyes wide open – you owe it to each other.

Good luck.

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We are just getting started in the LS and have yet to engage in any kind of play, but this is a big concern for us (mainly for me, the "she" in this duo). We are both HSV-free and would like to stay that way for many reasons...not the least of which is that we may not be done having kids. We both work in healthcare and know the risks of transmission of both types of HSV.

I am thinking that one of our rules is going to be using protection for oral (condom or dental dam) but I get the impression that most folks in the LS don't do this. Will we have a hard time finding people who want to play if this is our rule?

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Sexy - that is an excellent post!

From one pair of herpsters to another.

G&J

ps - we have no idea how we got ours

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