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For a minute I thought I was going to have to get my calculator out to follow this thread. Statistics. UGH!!!

The only way to be "safe" without a condom is to be in a monogomus relationship. Please raise your hand if you fall into that category. :)

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"Oh, I AM right in what I say. SOME people can be safe. "

That's wrong.

Nobody in the lifestyle is SAFE. Barebackers are less safe then most condom users.

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Oh, I AM right in what I say. SOME people can be safe.

If you can not comprehend or acknowledge how that is then you are probably not to be one of those people, are you?

Sorry for the repetition, but perhaps you didn't read my previous post carefully enough.

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Thanks so much for pointing that out, Seduction. That's the sort of argumentative wild card my kids used till they grew up -- and I didn't say SOME swingers, so I already implied the group trait for all.

You know when every post someone makes is about someone else's authority it is hard to keep a mind on another subject. Sometimes I feel like that is the intent -- of course all internet talk boards tend to show the same traits as folks try for a stilted sort of ego dominance. Difference is I think that on swinger sites a lot of people think their sex life will benefit if they do that -- what an incentive to show out!

Balloon popping, social one-upsmanship, being cute, and relating to others aside, people CAN be safe without condoms.

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Only an idiot would think they can be as safe without a condom as with one while being in the lifestyle.

If you want to accept higher risk than that's your choice. You ARE at a higher risk of getting an STD. No amount of rationalizing will change it.

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Yeah it's a shame D+J makes sense.

It's so much easier to take something they said once and use that as an excuse not to validate what they are saying now. It requires less thinking.

Anybody ever notice how swingers tend to think they get to pick what is true and what is not like they were at a Chinese restaurant? One from column A and two from column B -- and their choice is as good as any and they will fight all the way to Hell to assert that.

If you want to make a deity of risk -- you won't be swinging.

It's the people who see how to do things that are competent at doing them.

People who feel condoms are the only solution should use them -- not because nobody can be safe without them -- but because the people who CAN be safe without them spend their time doing what it takes to make that possible -- the other guys are still stressing how right they are.

My advice is don't do sex without condoms if you think they are essential to safety. When you want to deal with the details of safety without condoms then you will be approaching things differently in your swinging.

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"The question for some of us is whether that risk is greater or less than other everyday risks we take and hardly think about, such as driving. I do a fair amount of driving and have had a number of close calls. The risk of driving is very real to me."

lol.

Driving is generally a necessity. Do you wear a seatbelt? Do you have a car with airbags? Maybe you don't. Do you drive with your headlights off at night? a crack in your windshield?

OR do you minimize your risks of being harmed.

You can, and do, rationalize your actions. That's fine with me. Just don't pretend there is logic in it. Just be honest and say you like barebacking better and you'll take your chances.

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DandJ

I don't know where you learned statistics but you're teacher should be fired or possibley even shot as you appear to be clueless in this area.

For the average person condoms do not fail once in each 10 uses. That's the equivalent of saying a 3 digit lottery number hits once every 1000 days.....it just ain't so. Some stupid ass, small dicked moron who buys cheap condoms could have a failure everytime. Some intelligent, large dicked considerate person that buys quality may NEVER have a failure.

"The chance of a barebacker getting infected from one instance of intercourse with an HIV infected person is one in two hundred or 0.5%, not 2%, if we use the figures from the study I mentioned previously."

And the chance of a condom user is STILL 90% LESS. I never claimed to know the actual rate. I used numbers that would hopefully be easiy understood by those not mathematically inclined. I guess I didn't succeed.

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The chance of a barebacker getting infected from one instance of intercourse with an HIV infected person is one in two hundred or 0.5%, not 2%, if we use the figures from the study I mentioned previously.

What I gathered from the condom study was that the primary reason condoms only rated a 90% reduction of risk was the failure rate of condoms, either because they broke, weren't put on correctly, fell off during intercourse, or some such reason. This is similar to its failure rate in birth control. So in one out of ten times using a condom it is not working period. Thus the condom user is essentially fucking bareback one out of ten times. Which brings about the equivalency of ten condom partners equalling one bareback partner.

Of course these are averages and conscientious people can improve on those odds. That is true for condoms as well as barebacking.

What the absolute risk of running into an HIV positive partner in swinging is simply not known. It may be infintesimally small. I do not know of a single swinger who contracted HIV nor have I read of a documented case. That's not to say there aren't some. We just don't know. The question for some of us is whether that risk is greater or less than other everyday risks we take and hardly think about, such as driving. I do a fair amount of driving and have had a number of close calls. The risk of driving is very real to me.

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You can't screen your way to the reduced risk a condom provides? Sure you can. You can screen yourself down to one partner -- yourself. One or two more carefully selected ones need not raise your risk appreciably.

But really, if your partner has no infection, can you get any lower risk? Only if you average yourself with all the others out there who don't screen exactly like you do, and that is not an accurate assessment of risk, either. It is a reasonable expectation of the average methods of the study group.

Screen yourself down to a very few partners you know and you quite likely have already done it better than the average condom user by far. Never mind that using the condom on top of that would be even safer. If being safe was the object people would be monogamous or give up sex.

If you seek to avoid other infectious agents, the condom does not necessarily work as well as a good brain. That herpes virus resting there in the pubes is just waiting for someone who thinks he is safe then rubs all that stuff together with a little moisture into some other pubes -- or a nice shaved beaver complete with microscopic nicks.

One other caveat -- a very important one -- is that some of us can do the screening effectively and some of us can't.

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