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I guess we are not full blown swingers.We have found 2 couples out of the 4 we have played with.They were looking for the same as we were. Just 1 or 2 couples to play with.We have played with them twice in a whole year. And yes always bareback. BUT we do not play with anyone who has ever used drugs and needles.If you think about it,People who do not use drugs and dont just fuck anyone are probly as safe as any. Im sure Ill get bashed on this one,But oh well thats just the way we roll..

Mickey.

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Since we started swinging we have changed our rules on a few things. I guess you can say we " evolved" The one MAJOR rule is no bareback ever. We will never change our minds about that. The other is ,we always play together as a couple.

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I dont think there is any in the games forum. You wanna go in and stir up some trouble ;)

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LOL - that's why I said every forum, not every thread :)

Anyway, back to the topic, PDGunth is hitting on something good there. We know plenty of people who don't bareback, but who also will go to a party and get nekked with whoever's in the group room without any knowledge of who they are, how often they play, and whether they generally play safe. We also know one couple who we've known for 6 years now who have been exclusive with 2 other couples for the last 3 years but play bareback with them. They are taking the chance those other couples aren't being truthful, but my money says their overall risk is lower than the party types.

In short, bareback -vs- no-bareback is only part of the risk equation...

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Every... single... forum... Some threads yes. Not every single one..

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"Every... single... forum... "

Just about. I can agree with that. Anyone can take offense to something someone says, or take something personally or out of context, even if it is not about them. Sorry to get off subject. back on subject- I think bareback risks also depend on how much a person has sex, whether they are vanilla or swingers. There are swingers who only play a few times a year, and there are could be vanilla people who go meet strangers in bars every weekend. We don't bareback, and we also stopped playing with a couple because they asked if we would bareback.

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Actually if you go to any forum about any topic in any hobby (golf, games, politics), you'll find someone who goes off on some attack, someone else who tries to suggest things not be like that for the sake of a good conversation and in the interest of tolerance of differences, and then someone else who suggests that if you really want to be tolerant you'd never suggest anyone ever do something different from what they're doing (like attacking).

Every... single... forum...

It's a misplaced argument anyway since I wasn't saying they weren't entitled to their opinion nor was I trying to censor them from attacking... just pointing out it doesn't add anything to an otherwise pretty good thread...

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Everyone takes risks everyday. You get in a car, a plane, or even cross the street. It's about minimizing risk in our opinion. Do you wear a seatbelt, a helmet, have airbags, etc?

If people want to swing bareback that's fine with me as long as they:

A) are honest with all the potential playmates they have B) Don't go around spreading false/misleading statistics or unfounded interpretation of published statistics.

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Classic forum argument - "if you're really tolerant, you have to be tolerant of intolerance". :)

Not saying people aren't entitled to cast stones, just suggesting it doesn't get anyone anywhere, and in the context of this community comes across as forgetting what the rest of the world thinks of the craziness of the risks we're ALL taking...

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This has gotten a bit silly. :)

Straight up - we'll never ever play bareback. That said...

...to most of the general population, even the average swinger is taking on risk that would be considered crazy high. Condoms can slip off or rip, never mind all of the things condoms don't protect against, and we're playing in a very sexually active/promiscuous subpopulation. A lot of the odds quoted in this thread either understate or overstate the risk, but it's definitely there.

Point is, it seems that none of us should be casting stones at the barebackers - they are making choices that are riskier only by a matter of degrees, but we're all risking to one level or another. We've never met anyone who wanted to see STD test results, so we're all sticking our heads in the sand to one degree or another and not being as safe as we reasonably could be.

We're not defending the barebacking - to us it's a crazy risk to take and wouldn't want to share that risk with anyone. (We're ending what was a fun relationship this week because they fessed up to barebacking at a party, in fact). But honestly - let's not attack it either. To each their own.

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