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Thank you JacknCarol well said,and you are correct,We never told anyone to get out of the life,But if people are that damn concered about it,All we were saying is maybe they should think about it,Because you were also right wearing a rubber is NOT 100% safe....

M.

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I had to jump in on this one because I think I see what the Justus and DandJ were saying. This is not in defense of barebacking, nor against it, but hopefully we're all mature enough here to listen to each others differences of opinion without condemnation. Maybe I'm waay off base on this, and I've been known to do a Roseanna Anna Danna from time to time, lol, and I'm sure I'll take a bunch of heat for this but...here goes...

First off, we are all adults (hopefully) and IF people choose to go bareback then that is not only their choice, it is their right as adults. As long as all parties agree and are aware of the risks, what the hell am I doing judging and condeming them? If I want to jump off a cliff with a napkin for a parachute you might think I'm crazy but it's my choice--hopefully my health insurance is paid up when I make that leap. It's amazing to me sometimes how judgemental some folks in the Lifestyle can be, I mean, jeez, and I'm not talking specifically about anyone in particular on this thread, I mean in general, and across a wide range of topics, not just this one. We are all having sex with other people, lol, how can we be so judgemental?

Secondly, I believe what was being said by Justus and Dand J is IF people are so concerned about STDs then MAYBE they shouldn't be in the Lifestyle. I didn't read anything that said people who are careful should get of the Lifestyle. Like it or not, there is risk, whether you're using condoms or not. Condoms are NOT 100%, they do help REDUCE the risk but they are no absolute guarantee. Other than not having sex with anyone ever again there is no real absolute "safe sex," except masturbation. HPV, HSV-I and HSV-II can still be transmitted if the condom doesn't cover the affected area. There are also growing numbers of folks with latex allergies, ranging from mild to severe. Lots of them do not know they have an allergy, they just know they become irritated and inflamed after sex using one. Even that mild allergic reaction can cause that person to be an increased risk due to the inflamation if they come into contact with body fluids. I won't go into severe allergic reactions to latex, except to say that folks can die from severe reactions. There are non-latex condoms, but again, it's a choice.

So what I see we're talking about is acceptable levels of risk, which will vary from one person to the next. I personally may not choose to participate in a particular activity that someone else does, but just because it's not in my realm of experience doesn't mean I have to condemn them for it.

We have barebacked from time to time, mostly with folks we know well and feel safe with. Is it risky? It's all risky. We also use non-latex condoms frequently as well. We get tested and are perfectly healthy and haven't even caught a cold. But we make our choices, as do the people we play with, and fully informed ones at that. People have the right to make their own choices. I quit posting on these forums because of what I've seen as reactionary non-acceptance of differing opinions and experiences. Anyone ever heard of disagreeing without being disagreeable?

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Banging one's head against a wall gives one a headache.


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Thats what we have been trying to say also DandJ but for some reason some people just turn the subject around... We never said to get out of the life,But if someone is that worried,Maybe they should get out,,Just a suggestion...

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Seduction, do you have trouble with the English language? Here is your post: "SO then why did you feel compelled to tell people who responded in this thread that they should get out of the lifestyle?"

She didn't say that, you did. Her comment had an if in it. Do you know what if means??? If doesn't mean "get out of the lifestyle". If means if what follows is true, then do this. Do your hysterics mean that you have a problem with the real risks of this lifestyle? Do you understand that there are real risks for condom users? Barebackers have more risks, yes. All the lifestyle has risks.

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Like beating a dead horse.

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Ok yeah i did suport that in some way, and still do,to a point, But we have been honest from the start, We are bareback,but also state have no problem using protection..

M.

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You choose to take that risk, why lie and pass that same risk to someone else who has no clue? Just be honest is all anyone is asking.

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Funloversmp said.... "My suggestion is that if one is so afraid and feels apprehensive and uneasy of taking reasonable risks by being in the lifestyle, then one should not be in the lifestyle... You can't have your cake and eat it too...

The lifestyle is not for people who feel they need a totally riskless 'life style.'

This might be the post that they were talking about that says we should not be in the lifestyle if we are uneasy of taking reasonable risks,,

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No, you have nothing to hide or be ashamed about, we are all adults in this place. You are also honest about the fact that you enjoy fucking that way.


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