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TOPIC: How to overcome STD fear
Created by: Jgatz
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Daisy and I have talked and we both agree that it are these pesky STDs that are preventing us from getting into what we/she would like to do. What do you do to over come this or is it just an acceptable risk? Is the risk not as extream as the media portrays it or is it worse?

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We agree as well with MrsPMe.

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Mrs. Pand Me: I totally agree. I often go with my instincts. If I feel no; it's no.

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I have to imagine that those profiles I run into that insist on documentation before getting naked with you don't see a whole lot of action. Two problems with this I see. One is practicality. We don't exactly have the time to do all the "prep work" this requires just to hop in the sack with you for one night, which is many times what actually happens in the swinging environment. Second is the "bullshit factor". A STD testing battery is only a snapshot of the truth at the moment you took the test. Once you get up and leave the doctors office, you have no evidence of what happened between the time I took the test and when I ended up in front of you naked other then my word, and since you're demanding a complete report prior to sex you've indicated you lack of faith in my ability to tell you the truth anyway, so what was the point of the whole operation to begin with? You're back to having to trust me anyway?

Bottom line is, if you have no faith in people and are not willing to accept at least a measured risk, you're probably better off playing bridge with other couples.

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IMO, here is what has to happen. You and the potential partner shouldhave the conversation. It is really important. I have it all the time. Downside, people lie. I think I wrote something similar about that somewhere. But to ask someone to reveal their statusto a dating site is just not feasible. Even on job interviews, there are certain questions that can no longer be asked in the world we now live in due to privacy issues and various other laws. You have to do your own "due diligence."

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Fourmies: That is absolutely an invasion of someone's privacy. Are there sites that do that? Not to mention all the ramifications if and when things go south in a friendship/relationship this is something that can potentiallyheld over someone's head. Call me paranoid but I would never do that. Blackmail comes to mind...LOL...I am in total shock regarding this suggestion. You got me today....LOL!

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Swingers are, by and large, better educated on the issue then the general public. As for risk, it's about the same between swingers and non-swingers who are non-monogamous.

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TD: I don't know how true it is but I heard when I first came on this site that swingers are very conscientious regarding health maintenance and actually have the lowest incidence of STD's. Again, it's hearsay. I just try to be super selective even with the ladies.

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The fear or concern is always in the back of your mind. We've never caught anything in our experiences (Knock on wood). Reducing the chances has a lotto do with screening potential playmates. Don't think it's as risky as the media or some believe. Not to offend anyone, butIf someone is that worried about it, then why even be in the Lifestyle?

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I love to watch gangbangs when I am checking out porn. Would I ever engage in one? No. Why? STD's. Now, for the uninformed, the only safe sex is no sex or masturbation but who wants to jerk off alone all the time or go sexless. None of us here I am sure. There is ALWAYS the potential of contracting an STD. So, health maintenance is of the utmost importance. Regular testing and being very selective when it comes to partners and always use condoms. Condoms, in my opinion, are a very necessary evil in today's environment. People, for the most part, are not honest. Do you really think they're going to tell you they have an STD? Really? Think about it. They don't even want to admit that shit to themselves. Here in Florida, when you get tested for HIV, they also test for syphillis. I just found that out when I went for my third HIV test in my lifetime. Oh, yeah, no swabbing shit here in Florida either. Son, or daughter, they draw blood!....LOL

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How do you get over the fear of first time?

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TOPIC: How to overcome STD fear