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TOPIC: Condom apathy and erection issues - pet peeve

Created by: sensuoustexasraven Original Starting post for this thread:
Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag. I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow. I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left. The condom of champions. The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” chuckles I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn! She really IS gonna make me wear a condom". I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions. The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions. Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome. Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid. It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic. I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit. BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms. I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices. It sucks! In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms. The risk seems to be non existent in their heads. STUPID PEOPLE!! It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required. That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging. I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve. I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs. Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me. I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices. LoL! I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!! I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that. WTF kind of question is that? He didn’t like my answer. I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live? Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am? Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied. He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

Created by: sensuoustexasraven
Original Starting post for this thread:

Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag.  I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow.  I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left.  The condom of champions.  The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” *chuckles* I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn!  She really IS gonna make me wear a condom".  I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions.  The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions.  Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome.

Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid.  It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic.  I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit.  BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms.  

I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices.  It sucks!  In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms.  The risk seems to be non existent in their heads.  STUPID PEOPLE!!  It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required.  That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging.  I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve.  I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs.  Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me.  I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices.  LoL!  I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!!  I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that.  WTF kind of question is that?  He didn’t like my answer.

I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live?  Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am?  Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied.  He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

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User Details are only visible to members.	OMG Ms. She,......if you own an RV then you need to go on a trip to TEXAS....just sayin.................
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User Details are only visible to members.	Hellz no, we go out on our friends :) We have been looking around for an RV. That is our next purchase. More than likely next year though. We want to see what is out there. So far we like the Chateau 31A
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User Details are only visible to members.	Oh,, please,, don't go there! lol - You guys brought the boat out early this year uh? Plans of buying a runabout even went out the window for the next cpl months with the addition of Boo's XJ, and my 1100 (GSX-R) this past month.
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User Details are only visible to members.	Ugh, Hopefully the storm wont be as bad as they say. I can see black clouds coming over Sunrise mountain right now. So much for going out on the lake later on tonight.
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User Details are only visible to members.	She.... We're on a flood plain so we're bracing for it unfortunately; and the thunder is really rolling down our valley at the moment... Coy - whatever you do, don't take my comments personally, unless it hits home. Then, by all means, be our guest to get in a huff.. It's previous comments that were made that make you shake your head and laugh at; as you stated. Someone stated obnoxious in another thread.. IMO, the better word, would be appalling..
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User Details are only visible to members.	Only 14? pffft mine are 19 years apart. The best oops, OMFG ,oh shit my parents are going to kill me thing that ever happened to me :) (Are you getting the storm yet? We heard it was going to be bad)
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User Details are only visible to members.	I'm sorry folks,, But I'm fired up and I'm trying to be tactful here... There is 14yrs difference between our daughter and son, and we never think or regret as either of them being an "OOpppss" (still not finger pointing, but I'm about to).. Sorry, but that shit fires me up to no end. We consider our daughter's - the youngest- friends even as "our kids" so when a single makes an asinine comment like that, we're assuming they have no clue what it's like to be true "Parents" on a 24/7 basis. Taking responsibility for the actions of a night of lust, is commendable, but to relate it to a disease? Let me tell you, there would be some very physical repercussions to anyone that ever said, did, or implied that to anyone I knew.... Put that in your savings account for a rainy day...
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User Details are only visible to members.	Doing that as we speak Shelikes.. I think it's going to get flooded (rain in pa) here real soon so I'm jumping ship (no pun intended! - lol) Fatherhood is like an std - Oh man, I could elaborate there but I'll keep my cool.... If you're a "natural", in the style, you know the consequences and have taken the precautions or just by simply design/nature. There is fetishes in that niche and we understand that. Both Boo and I have our thoughts on this and it would probably start a very heated argument if we posted what we think. Fatherhood, is a piss-poor statement... It's parenthood that should be the correct terminology. It takes 2,, the problem is, it can involve 4...... plus one...
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User Details are only visible to members.	I think I'm going to go over under my rock and control myself here..... Please get out from under that rock.
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