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TOPIC: Condom apathy and erection issues - pet peeve

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Created by: sensuoustexasraven Original Starting post for this thread:
Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag. I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow. I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left. The condom of champions. The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” chuckles I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn! She really IS gonna make me wear a condom". I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions. The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions. Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome. Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid. It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic. I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit. BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms. I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices. It sucks! In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms. The risk seems to be non existent in their heads. STUPID PEOPLE!! It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required. That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging. I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve. I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs. Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me. I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices. LoL! I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!! I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that. WTF kind of question is that? He didn’t like my answer. I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live? Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am? Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied. He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

Created by: sensuoustexasraven
Original Starting post for this thread:

Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag.  I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow.  I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left.  The condom of champions.  The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” *chuckles* I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn!  She really IS gonna make me wear a condom".  I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions.  The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions.  Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome.

Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid.  It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic.  I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit.  BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms.  

I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices.  It sucks!  In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms.  The risk seems to be non existent in their heads.  STUPID PEOPLE!!  It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required.  That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging.  I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve.  I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs.  Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me.  I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices.  LoL!  I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!!  I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that.  WTF kind of question is that?  He didn’t like my answer.

I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live?  Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am?  Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied.  He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

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User Details are only visible to members.	I read through the thread. Saw the cock ring suggestion. It's a good suggestion especially for males with large penis to hold the erection once they get it. I've also been considering to try the female condom. I hear reviews that they are "awful" in that they are noisy and can slip easily. But I have yet to try for myself. I expect they wouldn't be my choice in vanilla life, but just maybe it's an option that can work in swinger life. The one definite benefit is that they don't restrict the penis. They also cover a bit of the outer vagina which gives better protection against hpv/herps. Final suggestion: carry viagra. Although my boyfriend doesn't need, he's always got a pack on hand to lend if he see's a guy having erection trouble with me. It eases the discomfort if it's a guy to guy suggestion. And my b/f knows that his girl is going to be unhappy if something doesn't happen lol. I personally don't care if that's what they need to get the job done.
Cochranville PA			Username hidden (2 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hey.. I dont mind STUPID people... I LOVE em actually,they make me look good. With out the stupids.. I'd just be another normal regular asshole.
Grass Valley CA			Username hidden (299 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Seduction4Two, no, I don't consider this issue a cat fight. It's more serious........ In your opinion it's okay to call me (and a lot of other people) stupid for not using condoms all the time. That's not an attack and perfectly fine. Now I voice MY opinion to call people who call me ( and a lot of other people) stupid, stupid themselves for being so generalizing and intolerant. All of a sudden it's an attack. What gives? Do you just don't understand me, or you don't WANT to understand me? I understand that you most likely insist in condoms all the time. Perfectly fine with me, not the slightest problem. I would never call you or anybody stupid for that. But if some intolerant idiot has to blurt it out some dumb statement here, I think I have the right to voice my opinion too. In any case, no further comment needed.
Riverside CA			Username hidden (28 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Catfight? Can I watch?
New Orleans LA			Username hidden (66 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	No problem Seduction4Two. They call me stupid, but I cannot call them stupid for calling me stupid, or in your terms they can shoot at me but I cannot shoot back. OK, problem solved.
Riverside CA			Username hidden (28 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I think intolerant is the correct term. Calling someone stupid just incites anger and retaliation. There are those who are intolerant of people who go bareback and those who are intolerant of the superior attitude of condom users.
Youngstown OH			Username hidden (7695 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Hi Seduction4Two Why am I not entitled to think, that people who think that people who don't use condoms are stupid, are even more stupid themselves??? It looks like you think that I am intolerant because I disagree with their statement about stupidity over the use of condoms, but on the flip side they are not intolerant for calling me stupid. Makes no sense at all. Condoms are no condoms, it's an endless discussion, but it has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with being stupid. I will repeat it again, somebody making such a statement is not only stupid, but also intolerant and sadly narrow minded.
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User Details are only visible to members.	SheLikes: Yeah.. My former GF on here & I used to use em... beats the hell outta trojan for me.. she discribed it as ODD...
Grass Valley CA			Username hidden (299 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	I have seen the female condom. Have any men here been with a lady that was using one?How did it feel to the guy ? Just curious.
Augusta NJ			Username hidden (15845 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Try perhaps the FC2 Female condom. They are even supposed to be more efficient at blocking STD's than male condoms. (you can even buy em on Amazon, and some drug stores) Of course you may get the complaint from women that they dont really like them or it feels wierd... but it might solve the complaint about the male side.
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