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TOPIC: Condom apathy and erection issues - pet peeve

Created by: sensuoustexasraven Original Starting post for this thread:
Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag. I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow. I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left. The condom of champions. The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” chuckles I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn! She really IS gonna make me wear a condom". I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions. The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions. Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome. Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid. It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic. I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit. BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms. I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices. It sucks! In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms. The risk seems to be non existent in their heads. STUPID PEOPLE!! It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required. That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging. I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve. I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs. Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me. I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices. LoL! I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!! I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that. WTF kind of question is that? He didn’t like my answer. I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live? Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am? Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied. He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

Created by: sensuoustexasraven
Original Starting post for this thread:

Lately I’ve come across several situations where swinging males are all into me until I pull out my condom bag.  I sometimes feel like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman when she tells Richard Gere to “Pick one! I've got red, I've got green, I've got yellow.  I'm out of purple, but I do have one Gold Circle Coin left.  The condom of champions.  The one and only, nothing is getting through this sucker. What do you say?” *chuckles* I often see the disappointed look in their eyes of "Damn!  She really IS gonna make me wear a condom".  I try to make it as enticing as possible by using different techniques when putting it on, which usually starts out with positive reactions.  The problem seems to settle in when I momentarily stop to change positions.  Once the erection issues arise no amount of patience/talent on my part seems to makes a difference for very long unless the male can overcome.

Personally, I hate condoms for many reasons, but that does not make me stupid.  It simply makes me more understanding that for some… condoms are problematic.  I've gotten so accustomed to males (more often married than swingles) not being able to maintain an erection when wearing a condom that the idea of having an orgasm from penetration seems to have flown out the window more often than I care to admit.  BTW, the nillas I date don’t seem to have a problem with the use of condoms.  

I’m actually one of a rare few that I personally know that is insistent about safe sex practices.  It sucks!  In multiple situations I’ve noticed that males often move on quickly to the females that don’t require condoms.  The risk seems to be non existent in their heads.  STUPID PEOPLE!!  It doesn't affect my self esteem when they can't perform or aren’t interested when a condom is required.  That’s their issue, but it has its too frequent frustrating moments knowing I’m gonna be left hanging.  I’ve gotten to the point that I expect it which is why I am commenting on this pet peeve.  I’ve busted guys trying to fool me by pulling off the condom at the last moment, but I ALWAYS double check before any penetration occurs.  Last time it happened wifey was in on it which surprised me.  I’m quite loud when outing someone for deceptive practices.  LoL!  I’ve had some ask if they can go without due to the problem, but I’d rather NOT!!!  I had one male ask me that if I went out with him again would I make him wear another condom since we’ve already done that.  WTF kind of question is that?  He didn’t like my answer.

I tell people upfront that condoms are non-negotiable, but I get the impression that many think those are merely meaningless words. Why is safe sex so unpopular or not practiced more frequently where I live?  Is there any one else facing the same issues as I am?  Luckily I have a talented and well-hung soul mate that can go the distance in making sure I am satisfied.  He’s the only one I can trust to enjoy bareback with.

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Irving TX			Username hidden (11 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Kinda for us too. Thankfully Mrs. VA really enjoys watching me with other women, so she'll kinda get off on that. I still need to take care of business when we get home...
Chesapeake VA			Username hidden (12182 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	when this happens i usually join in with hubby and the other woman.
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1488 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	What do you do when this happens? Go find a book and start reading? Join in with the other two people??
Augusta NJ			Username hidden (16075 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	Mrs. VA is tired of sitting with Mr. LimpNoodle watching me and the other woman fuck our brains out. i have had alot of nites like that too
Philadelphia PA			Username hidden (1488 post)

User Details are only visible to members.	"we find a great and fun couple to play with and I can't maintain my erection while the wife and other male keep having all the fun" We do not play with "newbie" couples for this reason. Mrs. VA is tired of sitting with Mr. LimpNoodle watching me and the other woman fuck our brains out.
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User Details are only visible to members.	We aren't new to the lifestyle so-to-speak. We have had MFM on a few occasions since we started about 10 years ago. We have not done a couple swap yet which is what we are here for. :-) This issue strikes near home for me (the man) because I haven't used a condom since before my wife and I started dating and that was over 14 years ago. We keep talking about "practicing". I have a pack of condoms in my bedside drawer for that purpose but damn if we haven't yet. It's just too easy not to when I'm with my lady. I have this nightmare that plays in my head that we find a great and fun couple to play with and I can't maintain my erection while the wife and other male keep having all the fun. It's at least nice to know it can be an issue. Hopefully IF I ever have a problem my partner will be nice and comforting. :-)
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User Details are only visible to members.	OMG Ms. She,......if you own an RV then you need to go on a trip to TEXAS....just sayin.................
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User Details are only visible to members.	Hellz no, we go out on our friends :) We have been looking around for an RV. That is our next purchase. More than likely next year though. We want to see what is out there. So far we like the Chateau 31A
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