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TOPIC: Poly Curious
Created by: randgptwn
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We are considering the poly lifestyle. Anyone out there have any thoughts, advice, words of wisdom to pass on?

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BLT,

You should read a book called the Ethical Slut.

I'm reading it now to study the lifestyle for the fiction story I'm writing. I know that poly isn't for my wife and me though. Good luck!

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The qualities to sustain a poly relationship? Great question, but a good answer would take more room than SLS would allow on this forum. :-) I suppose the short-form answer would be; whatever qualities sustain a swinging relationship, only More so. Trust? Love? Flexibility? Reduced tendency towards jealousy? Comfort with non-traditional things?


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I was too tired to pose this question yesterday. What are some of the perceived qualities needed to be in a poly relationship.

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Just as it takes a certain type of relationship to be successful in swinging. Relationships and people are not and will never be generic 'one size fits all'. The perfect arrangement for one can and often is pure poison for another, whether it's swinging, poly, B&D, S&M, or whatever. Not to make a bad pun, but "different strokes for different folks". :-)


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It takes a certain kind of individual to be in a poly relationship.

We were in one for 3 years.

I could do it again with the right person. T couldn't.

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We're still sex-crazed sluts.

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BLT, I think that we've met the 'sex crazed' couple that you refer to. LOL We've been in the LS for many years and have crossed paths with all sorts. It has been our experience that the younger a cpl is and/or the newer they are to the LS, the more they're like a kid in a candy store. However, with continued experience and comfort in the LS, the more mature swingers focus less and less on the "You & Me! Bed! Now!" type of swinging and tend more towards relaxing time with friends which may or may not also involve sexual activity. At least, that has been our experience. Results may vary. :-)


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I have to say I try to avoid some swingers as they are so intense and just sex crazed. I like to feel that I am a more well rounded person and bring more to the table than a pussy and a potential hook-up for some SM who can't get a fucking date! I love nudists as they may check you out on the DL (down low for those who don't know) but they are much less about whether you look hot or so overtly sex starved. I find that kind of typical swinger behavior so boring.

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The "swingers" we have been involved with wound up being a pretty selfish bunch interested in their own pleasure and turn ons more than ours."

In my experience, I have to agree. Its the agenda. To an extent, all people are selfish. I'll admit it for sure... I like what I like, I want what I want... and I am willing to compromise, but if my needs aren't met, why do it. However, I think its the means by which ones needs are met what makes the difference.

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Cum4meagain: I love this name! Actually, I was looking for where I had seen your posts before and lo and behold here you are. Have a great day; just the reading of your name makes me......I've never even read your profile...shame on me....LOL!

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