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I wasn't aware we were only talking about meeting people in the forums. I was talking about travelling to meet people in general. We've met a number of people in the forums and all those experiences have gone well. In a month or so I get to meet M after years of chatting online. I'm certainly not worried about her being a wall flower or anything other than exactly how she is when we speak via here or facebook.

I'm just lucky I guess... I haven't had any bad experiences travelling to meet anyone. i don't really care if it's not others cup of tea.. just a preference like all the others.

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We don't worry about the chemistry, when meeting people from the forums. We aren't meeting them for that reason. If there is chemistry, that is just a bonus.

Carrie

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Well, to each their own. Like I said - tagged onto an existing trip for another purpose, cool - but I cannot imagine us (or one of us) traveling for meeting people from the fora. Sorry if that seems disappointing for many of you.

Here's my problem - I find people in person practically never match my expectation of them that I've developed from knowing them online. So what I find interesting about people I've come to know on here almost never materializes when I actually meet them - bold people turn out to be shy. Interesting people turn into wallflowers. Articulate well-measured people turn into loudmouths. Or, from the other side - they don't find me/us interesting in person. This used to happen all the damn time.

This is part of the reason we want to meet people as soon as reasonably possible after first contact on SLS. Long development from online chatting is likely to lead to such a thing. We want to get to know the in-person i.e. "real" person.

I'm sorry if this sentiment is not well-received by many here. It's part of why we resist coming to gatherings people from the fora organize. After years of "knowing" you all on here, I am pretty sure that in person, we wouldn't "know" each other at all. Obviously, other people have had more positive experiences than us, but it's just not something we care to invest in any more.

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" Plus you get to see new places."

Exactly... even if there is no chemistry it's always fun to see new places.

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I love to travel and meet people, from the forums. It is great, to meet people, you have been bullshitting with, for years sometimes. Plus you get to see new places.

Carrie

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It's not something we do often but we have.... most recently my jaunt to Jersey.

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Fuck!

LOL

Really? You guys travel distances like that just to meet people from SLS?

Chesapeake VA
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"we absolutely never travel long distance to meet new people, and we discourage others from coming to us."

Duly noted!

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With kids grown up we're still finding ourselves by far more interested in other activities besides swing related stuff. I don't know why, not sure why it's just becoming less and less important for us, come to think of it, it wasn't all that important to us at any point, but for the past few years, we're just not interested. If it happens organically it will. For instance, when we ventured out to NOLA, or SA in the past year, we had fun just hanging out with like-minded other swingers. No pressure, just enjoyable company with lots of laughter. It happened organically in NOLA and it was fantastic. But we just lost interest in making it happen, scheduling wise, or going to clubs specifically to hook up. Shuffling our schedules etc... I applaud the people who are able to do it as much as they want to, we don't have the interest nor the desire.

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VA remember we still have kids at home that require childcare. We are lucky to get to do something swing related once a month. So a lot of the time the scheduling issue is on our side.

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