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TOPIC: so_he's_not_really_single_
Created by: jk4fun63
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this question comes from reading numerous posts and talking with couples in the lifestyle for a few years now.

i find it comical to hear some couples talk about catching single guys who are cheating. it is so funny to listen to the lengths they will go to, and the stories they tell of the tests they use to root these cheaters out. it's as if they are part of an elite force of lifestyle detectives. it's almost an obsession for some, and i can't help it, that's just funny to me.

now, i've been reading these forums long enough to know that some of you (i could probably name a few of the "regulars") are already getting the rope out to hang me, so please let me say two things. 1. i do not think being unfaithful is funny, so let's not waste time twisting it that direction. 2. we would never, EVER play with anyone, male or female, we knew was cheating.

having said that, i'd love for someone to explain to me why it is my responsibility to investigate whether or not this guy is being faithful in his relationship, be it a wife, girlfriend, or whatever. if he is endangering that relationship, that's on him, not us.

what am i missing?

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When I was a SF I had one couple I was meeting with Google me. We had had enough chats, etc...that they were able to use the info they gleaned to check me out.

When they first told me they did that (fem half did it) I was taken aback BUT she explained that they simply had a hard time believing that I truly existed and was as I presented myself as, 'I was too good to be true" (LOL!) and she had to be careful as her job required she sign a morality contract.

In the end I met with them and they were lovely people. Still friends in fact.

~rabbit~

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true blasts from the past.

as to the OP, well--no i don't go to the extremes that i have seen and heard some folks do.

i rely on intuition and a vetting process that involves more than one meeting with any SM (even married with hall pass men, although that doesn't happen too often).

i would be beyond shocked if it turns out i am wrong about the rare SMs that i go beyond a couple of meet and greets with. then again, i know that it is uncommon (really uncommon) for most SM to have the patience to meet more than once or twice. that's alright with me--if they have the patience, and i like them enough in return--it's worth it.

it gives me a bad case of the heebie jeebies to read about some of the extremes others will go to. talk about drama.

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I agree with the OP.

Hilliard OH
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I do the same exact thing, Mr Fun, and yes... it is.

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It's funny how I sometimes click on the wrong thing while squinting at an iPhone, and end up stumbling across something I wasn't looking for.

This blast from the past was fun. Too bad so many of the posts, and at least one of the people, went away though.

Belle Chasse LA
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Actually she was being a good friend to me and I'm listening.

New Castle PA
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I don't know why I bother.......

New Castle PA
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"I knew you were as well."

Was I?

New Castle PA
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"I didn't realize what FJ was stating before."

Whoaaaa Heat! I was doing nothing more that throwing some humor, not taking any sides. I think AFT knew it was nothing more than a little ribbing, don't pull me in. This bickering is so far off topic it is silly and I want no part of it.

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Isn't there an old saying that you can offer a jackass an excuse, but you can't make him recognize it?

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