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TOPIC: What do you do when a person you reg play with changes
Created by: tncampers
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Has anyone else had a problem like this, and if so, how did you handle it without hurting anyone's feelings? We have a couple that we play with on a regular basis. The man was a very caring. soft, and sweet lover in the beginning. I am not sure what happened, if it is because he now feels very comfortable with me, but lately he has gotten more aggressive and at times hurts me and/or makes me feel uncomfortable. His hygiene while not bad, by any means, it is also not what it was in the beginning or I am just now noticing it. (I don't know about anybody else, but that is VERY important to me) I am so careful with my hygiene, and would never think of going to the play bed or after running to the bathroom while in the middle of play without making sure I have cleaned up and refreshed down there! How do you make sure your partner does the same, that is without hurting any feelings? He will pop a breath mint in his mouth, so why not worry about down there? He is a very quiet and private person which I think makes it harder for me to say something to him that might hurt. Our partners totally enjoy each other and I do not want to hurt or ruin things for them. At the same time this is really starting to bother me!! Any ideas or hints would be greatly appricated!

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Haven't had this issue, but have had the issue of not being attracted to the cpl on the second date! Why do people think that once they play with someone, then they can just "let their hair down" so to speak and not be as appealing as the first time?!

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Wondering the same thing here. The male half of our favorite play couple turned from this really sweet guy that I really liked to...well, a man-whore. All he talks about when we are around him is sex and he's constantly making sexual innuendos. I know we are playmates but we used to like hanging out with them because he was sweet and funny and I enjoyed being with him. Now, not so much. :-(

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Thank you so much for your advice Ladies, all has been taken care of now, and all is WELL!!!!!!

Sparta TN
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that would be a good way to word things, if (when) you want to end things: We feel that our chemistry is now off.

Good luck. G.

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Perhaps you could talk to his wife and she would know the best way to bring it up that you wish he would "pay attention" like he used to. You have little to lose at this point - if it ends, it ends. Even the best swinger couple relationships usually end this way - a disparity develops between the chemistry of one pairing and the chemistry of the other.

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Has anyone else had a problem like this, and if so, how did you handle it without hurting anyone's feelings? We have a couple that we play with on a regular basis. The man was a very caring. soft, and sweet lover in the beginning. I am not sure what happened, if it is because he now feels very comfortable with me, but lately he has gotten more aggressive and at times hurts me and/or makes me feel uncomfortable. His hygiene while not bad, by any means, it is also not what it was in the beginning or I am just now noticing it. (I don't know about anybody else, but that is VERY important to me) I am so careful with my hygiene, and would never think of going to the play bed or after running to the bathroom while in the middle of play without making sure I have cleaned up and refreshed down there! How do you make sure your partner does the same, that is without hurting any feelings? He will pop a breath mint in his mouth, so why not worry about down there? He is a very quiet and private person which I think makes it harder for me to say something to him that might hurt. Our partners totally enjoy each other and I do not want to hurt or ruin things for them. At the same time this is really starting to bother me!! Any ideas or hints would be greatly appricated!

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