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TOPIC: What are the things you can see or not see in a profile which will make you automatically decide not to swing with someone Also what can you see which makes you want to
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It would seem that the majority of people here have the same dos/don'ts. Ours are not much different. Our profile is fairly Lengthy and tells you what we like. We rarely write others, we prefer for them to look at our profile and determine if they are interested. Some of the things we do is We ask that you read our profile in its entirety. We have a greeting that we ask a person to place into the subject box. If you send us a mail and it is not there, we will not respond. We ask that a person not ask for photos, we will not send them and tell everyone that. We ask that if you write to us and your photos are private to open them. If they place one in the bottom of the mail we will respond in kind. We will not open ours till the person contacting does. We want to see photos to determine if there could be a connection, however; we do not make our decision based solely on photos. There are those who don't photo well, and we want to meet them not their photos. So we meet at a restaurant or bar and get to know who they are and decide what we think they are. Does that mean every single person that writes us we meet, no. We use the entire package of the profile to make the determination. Do we believe that people are judgemental, yes we do. We can use semantics with words but it still is a judgement. People are who and what they are and we are not going to change them, nor them us. So we let things fall as they may. We hate when someone sends us a message that says "loved your profile check out ours" and when we do there is nothing there or have one sentence. The profile is there for others to get an understanding of who they are and go from there. We have found that those who do that usually base what they have on their photos and looks. That is their choice to do that but we feel it shows how vain they are. We also hate messages that take a couple readings to understand what was said. Spelling and grammar are important to us, others it doesn't mean anything, for us it does. Everyone has their own desires, likes, dislikes and preferences so we allow things to progress in a manner that those contacting us want to meet us.

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Turn ons: Good pictures of BOTH people, enough information to know what they want/like and what they are looking for, and information that indicates they have either been swingers for a while or are very confident newbies. Hubby especially likes photos of a shapely behind.

Turn-offs: People who have a zillion rules about whatever, sound bossy, or you can tell they think they are God's gift to swingers.

I think most people here sound pretty normal. That's always a good thing!

Jen

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Will agree with you all the way Poly, until the last phrase, as we don't judge people on their lives, color, race, religion political beliefs, all that crap; we do have our preferences as to what we like but don't judge others on our preferences, likes or dislikes. We truly believe there are a few of us out there that truly do not judge others, and unfortunately I especially was born and raised with that moral belief, never judge anyone, ever.

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Turnoffs: People who don't have the decedency to take 5 secs to click a button to respond to an email; pictures of the woman only or a very small pic of the guy; paid members who can see our pics right off the bat and have theirs all locked and then ask for us to unlock our private pics and send face pics (still trying to figure that one out) before they will even let us see them; people who require that you keep your face pics on this site; people that are new with incomplete profiles, the list can go on forever as we have been on this site since it began.

Turnons: Pretty much the opposite of above: Non-judgmental people; people who respond to email; people who supply pics of BOTH; people that are free and easy-going and happy in life with no hangups, especially about keeping face pics on this site; and the best--people who will actually meet if only for a drink, who aren't afraid to take the step.

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Good topic....

Well, when we look at a profile, we look for the following:

a) Appearance

b) Quality of thier writing. Hate reading profiles where every other word is abbreviated and they only know how to speak in slang. A few typos here in there is not noticeable, but writing like a 10 year old is.

c) Lack of profile content. You want to turn us off, leave it amost blank.

d) Whether they are bi or not. Over the past few years, we've been with couples where the woman was not really bi. Not for us, wifey enjoys going down on a woman, but she also enjoys recieving as well.

e) Full swap or not. We're not into soft swap or whatever other terminology that folks invent.

f) Picture quality. This may sound wierd, but we hate to view profiles where its only genitalia shots or the pic is so blurry, you can barely make out humanoid shapes. I all for discretion, but if your "job" is strict then maybe you shouldn't be here.

g) Interests. We like to meet couples who enjoy the same things we do. It makes for a more pleasant encounter.

h) Cut or uncut preference. Yes, this is an odd one, but we've come across quite a few couples who are very specific about being with cut men only. I'm uncut and when I see that they are not into it, we don't bother emailing.

We try to make sure that we are compatible with people before we email them. We don't want to waste anyone's time and we don't want our time wasted.

MeetandPlay,

I'm with you on the kissing thing. We've always found it humorous that so many people have no kissing as one of thier rules. What gets to me is that its a rule usually used by couples who are in the "we must be friends first, before we have sex". We both find it very hard to be intimate with someone without kissing them. We're both very passionate and kissing to us is a normal process of sex.

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For us, we have several turn offs and quite a few turn-ons. Our particular turn-offs are bi males, bad photos, profiles with few to no pictures, and profiles with no information. Our turn-ons are profiles with a sense of humor, clear pictures, and information about the couple's likes and dislikes. What do you like and dislike?

Rio Rancho NM
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