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H&K - Like Scamp, I can't know for sure what the deal was with the couple. Maybe they had legitimate concerns, maybe they were fakes/flakes.

However, as I said in that email exchange we shared, more pics can only help you. Having just one face pic in your gallery to share during emails proves nothing. That pic can be of anyone.

If "gumbies" email us it's an automatic "not interested". Your profile pics need not identify you. You can fuzz out the face or crop the pic BUT you should have a few pics (not all selfies) to help show that you are real and confident.

You should also have several face and body shots (clothed is fine) in a private gallery to open for interested parties. And they should open theirs to you.

We had an SM (in another state from us) contact me while I was away on a trip and available for SF play. He had great certs (including one from a member of this forum if I remember correctly) and some body shots but no face shots. When we were texting I asked him to take a selfie and send it to me so I could see what he looked like. He replied he wasn't a "picture person" then proceeded to ask me to come straight to his house instead of meeting at a restaurant or bar.

My answer was "No". He couldn't understand what my issue was.

Was he real? Probably. He had enough certs but that wasn't enough for me to be comfortable and he wasn't willing to do anything to help get me into the comfort zone.

He blew it and probably still can't understand why. Sometimes what seems like a little thing to one party is a HUGE thing to the other and you may never fully understand what that thing was. See what I'm saying?

~rabbit~

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When I send a message I never bring up sex or ask for pictures at the advise of a SM on this site. I try to be a simple humble and kind kind of guy and being true to myself and others. I have had several members reach out with advise and I appreciate that.

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Not sure how the communication went but if you were asking to see more pics or using more sexual innuendos as the conversation went on, some may consider that a red flag. They may have felt you were a pic collector or just getting your jollies from the fantasy of meeting and that you weren't really interested in meeting.

Just a shot in the dark but something to consider in future correspondence.

And yeah, getting a cert or two might help.

~S~

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Humble_and_Kind, without knowing the specifics of your conversations, I couldn't offer an opinion about whether or not your *vibes* are a problem.

However, the reaction you just described sounds as though the problem was on the other end and not you. There are many things that you can do to improve your chances while managing the obvious hurtles that SMs face, but I won't bore anyone with my thoughts on that here.

@onegoodguy: I agree with you that smooth's suggestion is a good one; however, I will comment that it is most likely Mr Smooth making it. Ms Smooth very rarely posts, and she will almost always sign the post if/when she does.

Tramp

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Humble, as a SM to another SM just get used to it. Shit happens. We're a dime a dozen here. I'm gathering the post from shesmooth must be the female half and that is some good advise. I think I need to take her words of advise myself.

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You need to get to a Meet n Greet. If you can find a couple you hit it off with, just enjoy the conversation and don't push things. At some point, if they seem to enjoy talking with you, ask if they would be willing to write you a cert just stating that they met you, and you are for real.

It's a start.

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My WTF this morning is I started up a nice email discussion with a couple in Tampa a couple days ago. Seemed to be going nice, then I get a reply where they accused me of being a fake. I sent my cell phone number so they can call me to hear I'm for real, next thing I know I'm blocked this morning. As a SM I have learned to deal with unexpected blocks and for the life of me I would really like to know if I am giving off a bad vive or what has people thinking I'm not real.

Venice FL
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That'd be strategic as hell....would not have occurred to me. Lol

Tramp

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Fun - "Maybe they blocked you to prevent you from retracting your certs of them". LOL you are a hoot.

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@Kit, us too lol

~lady~

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