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thank you. He didn't get married to me until he was in his 40s, knew what he wanted in life, and met me. :) I had been married to an abuser for 20 years and got out of that. Knew what I never wanted again, and met him. The way we met was amazing. Little did we know we'd get married. We've shared our bodies with others, but our hearts are each other's. So...yes...our marriage is strong and we know what we have with each other.

That's really the only successful way to do this thing called swinging.

But it's been fun.

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@Sexus: Why do you think I stopped posting for a while. Yes, I had some personal shit going on but it became so boring and we had covered the gamut of topics. I was so disappointed with most of the men I had been meeting. Fortunately, I recently met my Plus One who is not only making me more interested in life in general but the LS as well. I NEVER entered the LS for a bunch of sexual reasons. I left NYC for the south and found myself with absolutely no social life. Long story short lady, do what you have to do. I feel confident enough to say we love you no matter what and in all likelihood the forums will be here when and if you want to return.

Do you mama....hugs!

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Bravo Gina.....welcome to the Swungers club :)

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mrs SnT: we'll surely miss you. congrats on having such a beautiful marriage & strong sense of what is important to you. all the best to you & hope you'll pop in from time to time.

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One more, since I'm hogging the thread now....I did try to post in the senior swingers, and make it a new topic, Is It Time for a Break?

Thanks for indulging me here today.

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Okay, guess my longwinded self had to break it up into two posts. Sigh.

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(Part Two)

Last year we lost 4 swing friends, who became close friends beyond swinging, because of misunderstandings that escalated. I said we'd never become involved in drama, yet there we were. It was heartbreaking and upsetting. We had traveled with these friends, spent time together with families, etc.

And now? One of my closest friends we met through swinging crossed a known boundary and broke my heart. My husband and I are ok, we're using it as a time to strengthen an already amazing bond with each other. We are each other's destiny and heart. Here's my analogy: we were a piece of solid steel. There has been a slight break in that steel, and now we're welding that steel back together. If you know anything about welding, you know that often the welded piece of steel is stronger than the original unbroken piece. There was never any real question that he and I would not fix this. We have. And you know, in marriages, in strong ones, that there are weird things that happen, and yet, it really doesn't do anything other than make you closer.

So, as far as friendships go, those are fleeting. They feel awful when they end, but really it's not going to affect what I have with my husband, with true friends, with my sons, etc.

Friends teach us about ourselves. And if we make friends with whom we also have sex, well, that's just another facet to knowing ourselves. Was I hurt by this friend? Oh yes. Will it affect my life? Only that I won't be so trusting in the future, or stupid. I've said many times, that if I have my husband, my sons, and my dog in my life, then I've got everything I need.

So.

Does that mean it's time to stop swinging? Is it a natural devolution? I am almost 55 and have been swinging for 10 years. The sex has been fun. Sometimes amazingly so. But here's what ALWAYS has happened: the sex with my husband after sex with swingers has always been that much better between us. And in the past couple years, we haven't been as interested in the clubbing, the fakeness, the "drama". We like staying home! ha. (ok, I still like dressing up in sexy stuff)

I posted in the Senior Swingers b/c of the longevity of some of you. I like the maturity of older swingers who've been there done that. And I trust some of your opinions and advice and comments. Are we "done?" Is it time to move on and just enjoy each other exclusively now? Since I'm asking these questions, I'm sure I already know the answer.

It's been fun, it's been enlightening, it's been crazy and sexy and silly and serious. thank you to all the friends, real and online, who've come (and cum) and gone throughout the ten years we've been on this site. I can imagine, since we have a lifetime membership, I'll check out the forums here and there, and who knows, maybe a swing experience or two still yet, but my focus is not here anymore.

Love and all the best to all of you, Gina

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My husband has been "bored" with swinging for a couple years now (I didn't know this until a few months ago). He's been all over the world in his life, and pretty much done it all. He enjoyed it b/c I enjoyed it, and well, okay, he had fun too...ha. I was the sheltered former baptist who had a blast exploring my sexuality and bisexuality with him as my encourager.

Here is some of what I've done in the ten years we've been swinging:

Met a lot of fun people, started on another site. Made friends. Had a woman (okay 2) fall in love with me, one obsessively so (agh...that's when we left the other site and got on SLS). Have shared love with one man who became my best friend in VA.

Been fucked in a group, me in the center, in couplets, threesomes of all sorts, groups, couples, in private, in clubs, hotels, group rooms on display for the watchers, sex in the taxi coming home from the club, given blow jobs in the same to guys who shared the taxi...have had sex with girls and guys of various races, singles, couples, groups, and all different ages from 21-65. And all sorts of shapes and sizes.

Been tied up, blindfolded, restrained, cuffed, flogged, spanked...

Had an awesome gangbang led and directed by my husband (7 guys, including him)

Gone down on a lovely young girl in a public gay bar here in TX. Made out with strangers. Fucked strangers. Danced topless at a club, bared my tits on Bourbon street,

Hosted parties, party bus sex, been to lots of house parties and clubs and hotel parties and had sex at all of them, often being the one to "start things off."

Given dozens, or more, orgasms to a variety of friends and strangers. Been given hundreds of orgasms by a variety of friends and strangers.

And more. So much more.

So, when is it time for a break? That time may be now. My husband, bless him, says it's okay with him if I want to continue to play. But, here's the thing. It's not fun, and it's not swinging, to me anyway, if he is not involved with me. We got into this together. I have very few regrets.

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Welcome back to the new and improved SLS!

We missed ya.

:-D

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wtf? I've tried to post in a few various places and the site is messed up.

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